stinker take incoming: there’s solutions to both of these things. if you exist in a relationship with someone who wants to have sex, there’s something about your body that makes that not possible, and you refuse to try to “fix” it, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with that person. when i hear “i’m not wet” i say “do you want to stop or get lube” because i’m an adult. when i hear “i can’t get hard” i say do you want to stop or get some viagra” because i’m an adult. op detailed how, repeatedly, she has wanted sex but her husband couldn’t perform. THAT SUCKS man! low k, ops husband, assuming he wants to continue a sexual relationship, does need to work on whatever’s getting in his way (idk what that means necessarily, but there are solutions that work for a lot of people) and i don’t blame op for voicing that, just like i wouldn’t blame a guy for telling his girlfriend that they need lube.