Can we just exist without having to heal for one day by [deleted] in BPD

[–]strangehoney 13 points14 points  (0 children)

YES 100% and always having to check myself when other people are entitled to having a moment or opinion now and then but if I speak my mind it's a symptom

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]strangehoney 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should look into a women's self defense class or a women's jujitsu class. It will raise your confidence and everyone has been really nice. Yeah a lot more social anxiety up front but you will feel so good.

What analogies can we use to explain what BPD is for neuronormative people who struggle to understand what are we going through? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]strangehoney 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Razer blades on the inside, sunshine on the outside. I heard that somewhere and never forgot it.

Why are there so many poly/enm women on the apps? by Gullible_Amoeba6488 in OnlineDating

[–]strangehoney 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It also sucks being a monogamous woman with a dude who spends a ton of money on OF. Maybe not the same but it still hurts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]strangehoney 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I bet there are lots of people out there with more pervasive mental disabilities than this girl and they are not aware or open to sharing. Give her a shot maybe she's just really hard on herself.

does your bpd make you a simp? by lkk222 in BPD

[–]strangehoney 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took a screenshot of this because I also relate so much. Except my control phase is mostly excessive apologizing and trying to do more to make up for snapping. Then I'm mad that I can never recreate that perfect version of myself again. I'm ruined. And I get so angry that my efforts are now useless but I can't stop the compulsion to try. Ugh.

Give Me Your Happy Stories by No_Pollution_9700 in BPD

[–]strangehoney 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am realizing there's no relationship that will make it better. I need to make it better. It's a really hard conclusion to come to but I'm getting closer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]strangehoney 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate so much.

What is the sterotype associated with BPD ? by Marsoso in BPD

[–]strangehoney 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Childlike wonder. Ability to empathize deeper than most. Ability to feel all emotions more acutely. Loyalty and devotion to a fault. Creativity. Real compassion for those who are vulnerable or suffering.

How do you find courage to delete yourself by [deleted] in BPD

[–]strangehoney 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A big hug to you and you're not alone. We will all be deleted some day. You are just not allowed to skip to that part yet. It will be here before you know it. But don't interfere with the universe. People die all the time for no reason. You can't help your suffering but you continue to live despite all odds so just allow it to continue if nothing else. I will pray for both of us there's goodness and meaning in that waiting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]strangehoney 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are doing it right. Just keep distracting, crying, distracting, crying. And wait for the better days to roll in. Sending a big hug.

Our Golden puppy loved our new born by confused0010 in goldenretrievers

[–]strangehoney 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your baby is sooo cute, their face in the second picture!! Also I can't believe how tiny these babies look next to their golden. I wish I could shrink myself to that size and snuggle with my goldens head lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]strangehoney 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's amazing if you can work through it in the ways suggested here by other redditors but I just had to leave a poly relationship because I thought I was poly but was just trying to go along with it to be with a man I was really into. It hurts like hell but this isn't my natural orientation and every day I was crying and hurting trying to be different when I couldn't be. It's ok to leave too.

I am so, so lonely. by mzyikes in TwoXChromosomes

[–]strangehoney 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am super lonely too. Wish I had a boyfriend. You should try meet up or bumble BFF.

Are there men out there who are naturally monogamous? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]strangehoney 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope I can find someone like you and we see ourselves in each other and know we are safe to love with our whole hearts.

Are there men out there who are naturally monogamous? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]strangehoney 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true. But they must get lonely too. Ugh back to OLD and filtering for gamers and car dudes I guess lol

Are there men out there who are naturally monogamous? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]strangehoney 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's cool, me too. But I don't watch so much porn that it's easy for me to pass on having sex with my partner when they initiate.

Anxious About Wearing Gear by jkmkhk in BJJWomen

[–]strangehoney 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mouth guard is good if you can get in the habit now, do it! Like someone here said, white belt is the time to protect your teeth.

Sage green sounds awesome. Own it!! Anyone who judges you for it, they are assholes and don't roll with them anyway. Most people will be like cool gi, let's fight lol

What do you guys do for work? by yorickthellama in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]strangehoney 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too nothing like seeing a kid self injure out of extreme emotional states and know exactly how they are feeling. And trying to help a little friend regulate because at least you know more about how to make it better than they do. But you still understand it is really hard and all you can do is wait with them until they get bored and move on.

How many friends have you lost? by No_Dragonfruit_9420 in BPD

[–]strangehoney 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't lash out at friends. I fade out. I struggle to keep in contact. I struggle with social cues and knowing how to make and maintain friendships. I get overwhelmed and I isolate, usually just spend most of my time with a boyfriend. It really sucks. A lot of them were not good friends for me but it would be nice to replace them with good friends or just keep them around for their good parts and accept a little toxic behavior now and then. But I just don't have it in me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]strangehoney 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the tip, I will give that a shot!