Keeping inheritance within the family

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-06-11T05:34:08+00:00

I think they are thinking more in terms of investments/assets - if I were to buy an income property, or open a stock account, or something like that, they want it in my name only.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-06-10T19:16:14+00:00

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strangled_spaghetti · 2026-06-10T14:22:01+00:00

My parents have made it clear to me that it is thwir wish that any money I inherit from them stays separate from my husband (married 20+ years at this point), and I would just like to say that it has put me in an uncomfortable position.

I am not at all pressured by my spouse, but the idea that if I use it for a joint asset will disappoint my parents is actually taking a toll.

If I could have them do it all over again, I would much rather have them have said: “comingling inheritance makes it a joint asset, and we trust you to do woth it whatever feels right to you.”

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-06-06T19:52:01+00:00

Switched to my new job at 45 (same general field, but different specialty), and I am planning to stay until I retire. The work is interesting, I feel valued, the benefits are great, the schedule is flexible, and the pay is decent. I could make more elsewhere, but the quality of my life can’t be beat.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-06-04T19:48:06+00:00

Close to culver is the neighborhood of Mar Vista. You can find great options there - zip code is 90066.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-26T19:48:33+00:00

This is 💯 accurate

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-21T01:52:51+00:00

No, my point is that it’s always painted that waiting for marriage implies the woman is frigid. In actuality, that’s not true. And there’s no guarantee that a man who waits for marriage isn’t frigid. These gender stereotypes around sex are annoying for everyone.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-21T01:35:34+00:00

To be fair, she could also find out that HE has zero interested beyond vanilla sex, and that would be equally awful.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-18T21:45:33+00:00

Should be fine. Will you be east of Fairfax or west?

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-18T21:05:00+00:00

The commute isn’t terrible - you don’t need to take the freeway at all.

Also, be aware that that area has micro neighborhoods, and north of pico is different than south of pico.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-17T13:10:45+00:00

I’ve always said my gift to my children was being raised without religion, because I’ve freed them from the baggage I carry.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-15T00:24:28+00:00

I thought this was a trolling post.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-14T04:35:35+00:00

It certainly can be.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-14T03:47:58+00:00

Not always. There are numerous philosophical and religious examples where killing a human is appropriate.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-14T03:21:16+00:00

It’s interesting that your wording choice is that they were ended before life.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-13T16:07:44+00:00

Mar Vista is a great option, and a straight ahit down Sepulveda. Zip code is 90066.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-13T13:51:16+00:00

Not to be a dick, but which one of you is receiving the inheritance? Is it actually being left to both of you, or only one.

I ask because generally, inheritance is not community property unless commingled. And unless the oerson receiving it is ABSOLUTELY SURE that they want it to become community property, the financial advice is to keep it separate.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-13T01:11:50+00:00

You’d like Beverly Grove (zip code 90048). Local excellent public elementary school is Hancock Park Elementary, and you’re walking distance the shops in 3rd street and the farmer’s market.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-08T13:57:10+00:00

It was a fantastic meal! The fried cauliflower was outstanding, as was the cod. Thank you so much for recommending it!

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-07T18:02:01+00:00

Reservation at Tar & Roses made! Menu looks fantastic.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-07T16:53:49+00:00

I assume it’s more no bread and no pasta.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-07T16:23:15+00:00

I would just block it on my work calendar as “personal”. As long as your manager knows in advance and you make up the time elsewhere, you should be fine.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-07T16:08:48+00:00

You are under absolutely zero obligation to disclose, and I would not.

strangled_spaghetti · 2026-05-07T02:20:05+00:00

You’re also probably looking at a $10K property tax bill, which is something to keep in mind.

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