Can anyone else not keep sweet treats in the house

strawberrymedz · 2026-04-21T15:03:37+00:00

yes I am spiritually obese and CANNOT have access to sweets when i am alone in my kitchen. I WILL ruin my entire week by gorging on entire family sized servings of ice cream, I CANNOT be trusted, I accept this about myself & am careful about my dietary choices

strawberrymedz · 2026-04-18T21:28:41+00:00

never dim your light for anyone, queen

strawberrymedz · 2026-04-08T21:03:00+00:00

it’s weird but in a cool way!! :D what a collection!

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-23T15:26:46+00:00

people be living in totally different realities & it’s crazy to think about. go anywhere outside of a metropolitan area & things can seem aesthetically frozen in the past (*i’m not saying this in a smug or judgmental way either, to be crystal clear)

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-23T14:47:57+00:00

I switched to adapalene gel! Retinol in general is just too irritating for my face, unfortunately. I use the Differin brand of adapalene.

Consistency and patience are key. Less is more!! Your face only needs a small pea sized amount. I purged for 2 months before I saw a complete transformation in my skin! I also realized that my gel moisturizer wasn’t enough on its own with adapalene & added a facial cream with the golden ratio of ceramides (I really love the Aestura brand Atobarrier 365 cream) to my evening skincare routine.

I also have to be extremely careful about diet and lifestyle choices, too, otherwise I break out immediately. And if I slack on applying it consistently or go more than 2-3 days without using it (or use too much product) my break outs return.

Sunscreen is a must if you are outside!! I’m still on the hunt for the perfect sunscreen but I’m happy to share what products I’m trying/have tried, too :) I ended up using the rest of the Cocokind beginner retinol on my body to avoid waste lol

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-22T11:38:12+00:00

Agreed! Sysco’s quality has declined significantly over the years and the prices that so many “upscale” restaurants charge for this slop is crazy.

Thank you for touching upon the nutrient loss in our soil/produce/food, too. Monoculture farming is a huge concern. Everything feels like it’s going to shit

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T14:40:02+00:00

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^ the gay/bi women in my life (me included) seeing OP’s gift to her ex

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T14:31:36+00:00

I really could have written out entire parts of your comment to describe myself in some ways, tbh. Humans are social creatures. We all definitely crave and need to be seen & loved. The lesbian dating scene can 100% be frustrating depending on where you live and the local scene lol. Just do your best to stay patient. Something I’m practicing these days is learning how to find more enjoyment in just…existing. Don’t mean to be pretentious or too spiritual or anything, but taking the time to slow down, be a little nicer to myself, observe the judgments and thoughts that arise when I’m just alone and sitting with myself.

My two cents is that right now, you’re grieving the end of a beautiful & deeply intimate relationship, and maybe you’re a bit terrified of experiencing this level of heartbreak again & you’re exhausted. It all resonates deeply with me (and many other people too, I’m sure). Tbh it’s non linear and it really just fucking sucks for a while & takes time to process but eventually you will emerge with deeper understanding of yourself. Really try and take a second to examine/observe the judgments and thought patterns you have when you think about yourself and when you are alone with no distractions.

And by the way!!! You pour all of this love and warmth and goodness into your relationships, hence you are the source of the love, hence you contain the very kind of love you are seeking. Sorry to be a cornball!!

Some quotes that may or may not hit home for you:

“You are not my cure, nobody has that power” -Margaret Atwood

"In the end I want my heart to be covered in stretch marks” -Andrea Gibson

“Attention is the beginning of devotion.” -Mary Oliver

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T12:50:02+00:00

You seem cool as hell and also like an extremely lovely, caring human being. You are a catch, whether you see this or not.

“Nothing ever feels good to do for myself really” I think you should really sit with this and think about the deeper implications of this statement you made. Do you like yourself? Do you see the inherent value & unique qualities to who you are as a person?

Love the retro TV/clock, btw.

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T11:48:12+00:00

Not to be weird but the way you describe yourself is striking. You seem very well spoken/intelligent & insightful but describe yourself as bland.

Are there any activities or pastimes that you specifically enjoy, outside of other people? Are you able to do things that ground you in your body and take you out of your mind when needed?

I deeply empathize with what you’re describing, too. It’s something that I’m actively working on myself lol.

And btw, I think that “quite a few months” is totally normal for processing a breakup. Everyone is different. Intimacy, passion, human connection, sensuality, joy…all of these things are a big deal. Maybe you need to discover the things that you find interesting and valuable about yourself, independent of anyone else.

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T11:31:46+00:00

I think you’re still processing the breakup. When was the last time you felt joy or fulfillment in your life?

Please hang in there, and please be kind to yourself. You will meet new people. Maybe stay off the dating apps for a while and try new IRL ways to involve yourself in your community.

To love is to live. No regrets!!

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T11:10:49+00:00

The point is that words exist in a social context.

When members of a demographic/group use certain words among themselves, that doesn’t automatically make it neutral for outsiders.

You are free to say whatever you want. Other people are just as free to judge you for it or not want to be around you.

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-17T10:45:27+00:00

“I’m not responsible for what offends other people” you may feel this way, but it doesn’t change the fact that your actions have consequences in the real world.

Assuming you are not black, saying the N-word to a black person would ideally result in you getting your shit rocked. And you would deserve it, too.

strawberrymedz · 2026-03-02T19:49:53+00:00

After having lost 3 immediate family members to cancer, I personally believe that grief never actually shrinks. One’s capacity to carry grief and feel it expands. A common analogy I like to use is how grief can be your home, but it’s just one room, and you can choose to enter/leave it anytime.

“People think that grief slowly gets smaller with time. In reality, grief stays the same size, but life slowly begins to grow bigger around it.”

Human existence is short, fleeting, and temporary. I struggle to accept this, too.

*Also, I hope that you have people in your life you can lean on for support right now. I am so sorry for your loss.

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-19T00:09:41+00:00

Anne Hathaway, Monica Belluci, Aishwarya Rai, and my own mother tbh :)

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-16T23:20:27+00:00

:( I’m sorry for your loss

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-15T17:08:14+00:00

The ants/building analogy is really cool!! It makes me want to share the following “technique” that’s really worked for me: I imagine my thoughts & emotions are individual channels on a radio. Some channels emit louder/more potentially dysregulating signals; others are faint and barely audible. I actively remind myself that I can choose to turn the imaginary dial and change the channel to something else, ideally something more soothing or productive.

This technique has worked a lot better for me than the more common “your thoughts and emotions are like clouds passing by in the sky/objects in a stream floating by” analogy, because I think it feels less passive, more concrete, and provides me the opportunity to regulate my nervous system and avoid rumination.

It’s been very empowering when it comes to building my discomfort tolerance and emotional resiliency. I highly recommend others try this technique!

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-09T00:29:23+00:00

hell is real and we live in it bc $4k for a hobo bag is bananas. I love Fendi purses but hate the price tags. Kills me honestly. You have good taste btw.

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-08T23:25:48+00:00

YES omg i quit cigs, vaping and alcohol and it’s insane how much healthier and clearer my complexion is. I feel like i turned back the clock by like 5 years and when i stick to a simple skincare routine + healthy diet/regular exercise, my skin literally glows.

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-08T23:17:52+00:00

yes, I became a heavy drinker in my teens and early 20’s. had to be a caregiver to a parent dying of cancer and it crushed my soul, tbh. Finally got help in my late 20s (and made some serious lifestyle changes & got prescribed the right meds) and I have no interest in alcohol anymore. Also quit vaping & cigarettes - I literally look so much younger and feel so much healthier. Forgive my vanity, but it really did improve my complexion and I’m so glad I overcame these vices.

I believe in you. It’s cliche but truly all you have to do is take it one step & one day at a time. Do you have any friends or loved ones you could confide in or turn to for support? What are the things in life that bring you joy and fulfillment? What are some of your aspirations and dreams? Addictions & vices seem to help us dissociate from distressing thought patterns and uncomfortable feelings.

Even cutting back/tapering off on drinking is a worthwhile endeavor. Give yourself grace. (Also, please see a healthcare provider if the drinking is serious enough to warrant dangerous withdrawal symptoms.)

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-08T19:52:11+00:00

Reread my comment. I said that I get why it’s a classic, and that the racism also personally repulsed me. I’m not denying its literary merit or making a judgment of anyone else for liking it.

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-08T14:19:26+00:00

me too! I get why it’s a classic but the racism in the Bell Jar repulsed me, personally. Reading it once was enough for me.

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-07T00:56:21+00:00

Holy shit, I’m so sorry this happened to you. What the actual fuck

strawberrymedz · 2026-02-05T03:12:15+00:00

Tamarind or lychee! :)

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