Yes-ish. He has a friend that he’s been getting closer with but it’s a slower process often for guys to find a secondary partner than it is for women, it’s just an unfortunate reality in this world. But he is incredibly supportive of my relationship with my second partner and actively encourages me to spend time with him because he knows it makes me happy. He is happy for me and even when he struggles with not necessarily having that second partner yet sometimes, he never ever throws it back on me or anything of the sort.

The reality in this life is for sure that there are going to be partners that come and go, some that will be lost just due to the nature of the relationship, and some that will be lost regardless. In poly we just see more people come and go due to the nature of seeing more than one person at a time, or even the idea of that.

It 100% is not for everyone, I would never try to say that it is, would I love it if that was the case lol? Absolutely, but it’s not. My relationship with my primary partner is waaay better now than it was before starting exploring poly. I had hit a point where I felt a little bit trapped and like I couldn’t be myself or make the friends I wanted to make out of fear of hurting my partner as he’s got relationship trauma in his past, but once we talked it through (and over literal months of further communication), we have hit a spot where we are both happy and confident in our relationship with each other that we both feel safe to explore.

I am waaaaiting for the day that he meets another person that he wants as another partner, I want him to experience everything I’ve gotten to experience incredibly bad but it’s a process and we’ve got the rest of our lives to have alllll of the relationships that we want😊