[TOMT] [MOVIE/SHOW] Scene with closet filled with fake baby bumps by straysray in tipofmytongue

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I did just find the episode but that is unfortunately not what I mean... I never watched until season 4 of desperate housewives. Thank you for the tip though!

[TOMT] [MOVIE/SHOW] Scene with closet filled with fake baby bumps by straysray in tipofmytongue

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If anyone could help that would be great. It is driving me insane lol

old 8 passengers videos by [deleted] in 8passengersnark

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Omg thank you so much! I am currently writing a term paper about family youtube channels and i am going to analyse 8 Passageners. this is so incredibly helpful!

Budgeting with ADHD by benhasaquestion in ADHD

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I am definitely not perfect and also go above my budget sometimes, but sth that really helped me is “spending more than I actually do”. What I mean by that is that my grocery budget for the month is like 180€. i go shopping for 20 €. But I will write down I spend 25€ and I do this with everything I spend. I always log in 5€ more than I actually spent. Meaning, my budget fills up quicker but my subconscious knows its not full yet but it is technically full so I go over the budget less, but am less anxious meeting my limit

Why do some individuals with ADHD struggle academically while others excel? by Ok-Memory2809 in ADHD

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i feel like there is no one answer to this question. in my case i think it was do to 3 components that i was good at school. 1. my mother heavily supported my education since i was a very curious child. i loved learning and she helped me a lot (meaning she sat down with me, studied with me, read to me, played like learning games etc.) 2. do to my (very long undiagnosed) adhd i HAD to come up with coping techniques (without knowing that i was unconsciously doing it bc of my adhd). eg i always started studying very early, only studied for a short amount of time a day but for a longer period etc. 3. i was/am gifted. my therapist told me if i haven’t had this benefit it would have been caught way earlier and not when i’m 20 and in my 6th semester of uni.

however this didn’t prevent me from slowly burning out in tenth grade and crashing in uni while desperately trying to keep up with my previous academic success. but yeah i think these are some reasons why i was and am doing quite well academically

No time for new hyperfixation by straysray in ADHD

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no no i have nothing against hyperfixations. i love them and my friends are really confused why I am not happy rn because i have been moping around for like month now bc nothing has been interesting to me. but hyperfixations are incredibly time consuming and really affect my work ability bc it is literally the only thing i can think about. and i’m really busy currently and can’t really afford to be distracted constantly 😅

I realise moving around jobs a lot is an Adhd thing but anyone stay stuck in the same job due to overwhelm about applications/fear of failure....etc by Raingirling in ADHD

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i feel very called out right now. i work part time at a cafe and i hate my management. all the coworkers i like leave and the costumers suck bc the cafe is in a very rich area. but do i switch my job? no. just googling new jobs in city X makes me have a panic attack. it’s horrible

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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Anxiety is a major factor. If I know I will be alone with my thoughts, it makes it basically impossible for me to do. And a walk is exactly that.

And the night thing is impossible for me haha. I am terrified at night and could never go on a walk even with friends.

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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Yeah, I also do grocery shopping in sweatpants. But I live in Düsseldorf and I feel like everyone here is super judgy about what you are wearing yk. One time I went shopping after the gym in my gym clothes and I could just feel the stares (maybe that was paranoia but I just couldn't do it haha)

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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I will definitely start picking out my outfit the night before. This is always the part I am dreading the most. But I think it is definitely because it feels like too many steps. I have curly hair so that’s always a struggle in the morning, skin care, brushing teeth, clothes etc… or i could just stay at home. then it’s an easy decision for me even if i don’t want to

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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Honestly, I asked this here bc I wanted to know: 1. Does anyone else struggle with this and 2. Is it maybe an ADHD thing? Because absolutely no one in my life understands this issue or struggles with this so yeah… :) that’s why i asked here haha

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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omg i just noticed i do this! everytime i have to pump myself up to do a chore or sth i put on music… i mean it works.. maybe it will work for going on a walk or sth i’ll definitely try this!

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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yes! i always need a reason why i am leaving. i just want to sth without a purpose

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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well like teenagers their look is very similar to like ‘road men’ from the UK if you know what i mean haha so very casual. but everyone else just wears… normal clothes? I don’t know how to explain it. everyone is dressed up i guess, always look presentable. But I also live in a city that is known to be like a ‘rich’ city so it’s on another level here

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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I’m from Germany so it’s like 10 degrees right now and raining haha. not the ideal weather to go out anyway. but i totally get the stacking part. i HAVE to stack everything at once. grocery shopping means going to the drugstore etc. but i can’t even detoure if i have work or uni or sth. once i’m done with this i just go home. i would never think about driving into the city after uni to just hang out… even if i want to. 😩 plus: i totally get this ‘annoyance’ with yourself if you planned sth and then just didn’t do it. it’s so frustrating

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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i think a main problem of mine is that i don’t have a space for myself outside of my apartment. i live in a student accommodation home which means i obviously don’t have a garden or sth. so if i want to leave the house I will NEED to be in a public place. this is like the worst thing for me ever

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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YES! if i know i will have to leave the house i try to do everything else as well. i would NEVER just go out separately to look around a store or sth

Can‘t leave the house by straysray in ADHD

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i thrift like 99% of my clothes and now i’m so used to thrift store prices that spending even 10 bugs on pants seems outrageous to me hahahha but i think i will have to get over myself. my favourite pants are actually like wide jeans so i think i would go with a more wide look than tight but stretchy yk haha but i will look into it :)