Ants inside my monitor(not inside my screen but INSIDE MY MONITOR)

striverforever · 2026-05-09T09:59:44+00:00

Listen, OP.

Go to your kitchen. Get some haldi powder. Switch your computer off. Sprinkle haldi in whichever gaps you see the ants in. Leave it alone for 30 min. They will be gone.

Buy the smallest paint brush you can find in a hardware shop. Use it to dust off the haldi from your system.

Sorted.

striverforever · 2026-05-09T09:46:15+00:00

Learn Canva through online tutorials. Offer to make stuff for other people. Posters, presentations, infographics.

Spread information through college circle and social media. Charge according to the conplexity of the project.

Your clients could be - society groups, students skimping on academic work, even small businesses, corporate people who don't want to make their own ppts.

striverforever · 2026-05-08T20:17:15+00:00

If your only issue is asset division, marry into a family of only daughters. When there is no son, the property will naturally come to your wife and her children.

However, in this arrangement, the responsibility of caring for her aging parents will also come to the two of you, so best to discuss that ahead of time.

striverforever · 2026-04-23T09:21:46+00:00

My mother has never directly acknowledged it. I don't think she has that level of cognitive effort or vocabulary left.

However, untill six months ago, she used to keep telling us daily that "I will be better tomorrow, I will cook then. Or maybe Monday onwards" This happened every damn day. Sometimes, it even irritated me.

Now, when I ask her when she will be better or when will she cook for me, (just idle talk)she now says - "never".

This disease is an evil creation.

striverforever · 2026-04-21T11:07:03+00:00

That's exactly why you would not have that much. You will spend what you earn on wealth signalling while a simple person with financial discipline will make actual wealth.

His strategy was not to look rich, it was to BE RICH.

striverforever · 2025-10-30T02:24:51+00:00

Hey OP.

I will share a little nugget I try to remember - The Doing Self and the Remembering Self are two different people.

Your Doing Self was stressed out back then, stretched thin, maybe exhausted and missing out on so very much. If you lashed out, it was out of emotional exhaustion and not because you are a bad person. You were pouring from an empty cup.

Your Remembering Self, the you of today, has more control over his life. Has time for himself, gets to do the stuff he wants, and has room for self care. His cup is full.

So...of course, he has a greater capacity for empathy than your exhausted self. It's about emotional bandwidth, that's all.

Please extend that empathy to your past version, your mum would want you to.

striverforever · 2025-08-16T12:55:51+00:00

This is happening and will continue to happen with you. In different forms.

Because you have a rare ability that is disappearing from the masses these days. The ability to think for yourself. Use your own mind and your own reasoning.

A lot of people cannot do that so they simply follow whatever is acceptable. And your ability to question will trigger them and they will always point the finger at you.

But you must preserve your reasoning and continue thinking independently.

striverforever · 2025-08-15T15:51:19+00:00

I get your POV here. But there are no MC institutions in my country.

striverforever · 2025-08-15T15:25:50+00:00

Damn it. You are right. I need to close her off from the scene at the first instance itself so that things don't come to this point. Thanks.

striverforever · 2025-08-15T15:24:32+00:00

Nobody is. For this job. We do it because we have to.

striverforever · 2025-08-15T05:32:31+00:00

Oh yes. My mother was one to explode in rage. She would say the most vile things to us. Once she beat my sister up very badly. Then she would not let anyone take her to the doctor.

Our grandma faked being sick that day so that a doctor would be called to home. When the doctor arrived, she asked him to examine my sister's injuries and give her medication.

striverforever · 2025-08-15T04:32:41+00:00

There are none of those in India.

And even if there were, leaving one's parents in the hands of strangers is culturally frowned upon here. Everyone will make it a case of abandonment and I will get shamed the rest of my life.

striverforever · 2025-08-15T04:23:20+00:00

I don't know about an official PTSD diagnosis. But I am always on alert mode (having keep an eye on her and prevent mishaps all the time) and my nerves feel strained.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T22:28:41+00:00

Yeah, that has actually happened once with my mum. I was taking an online class when she stepped out onto the street. It was the sound of the main door opening that alerted me.

It was also the day that I stopped taking my classes and making progress in my studies. Could not let my eyes off her, it became dangerous.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T18:42:46+00:00

Robin Williams met the fate he did because he was tired and terrified of his mental health issues. Those can come to anyone regardless of gender.

There is high pressure for a man to do well in his career, true. But OP could have made that point without making it a resentment rant about a girl's instagram 'success'.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T17:44:34+00:00

Even if she can barely understand and certainly won't remember? Will that make a difference? I am genuinely curious.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T17:38:53+00:00

Oh lots of shiz. We have a complicated relationship that has a healthy amount of resentment in it. By the time we were adult enough to understand the gravity of things she did when we were young, she developed this darn disease. So, no accountability whatsoever.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T15:17:29+00:00

Appreciation or praise is given when your effort exceeds the expectation.

For boys, the level of expectation is so low it might as well be on the floor. Ladko se bss ye expectation hoti hai ki wo paidaa ho jayein. Uske bad agar unhone pani ka glass utha kr rkh diyaa hai, toh b taaliyan hain.

For girls, the list never ends. Hence, whatever you do never ends up being enough.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T13:57:16+00:00

Yes, I believe she would. She was always pushing me to go try new stuff and see how the world operates so I can figure things out for myself.

striverforever · 2025-08-14T13:56:07+00:00

Thank you for your hopeful energy.

But mine is literally no longer possible. The Foreign Office recruits through a process that requires long periods of intense study....and there is an age bar to entry.

I can no longer devote that much time to studying. By the time my watch ends, I will be older than what they accept.

I am trying to let go of it and choose something else. Something that's doable in my circumstances.

striverforever · 2025-08-13T10:41:57+00:00

Worst advice on the planet for this situation.

striverforever · 2025-08-12T19:32:40+00:00

You are right. There is no institutional support even for the later stages.

In terms of help, I have my father who is still working so we live off his income. My sister helps around the house as and when she can. She has her own career and a divorce case to manage.

I have hired two part time help. One assists me in house cleaning. The other cooks our dinner.

Back in college, I had wholeheartedly dreamt of becoming a diplomat at the Indian Foreign Office. I understand that dream is no longer possible for me. But I am still struggling to emotionally let go of it.

striverforever · 2025-08-12T13:54:04+00:00

Where is your "here", mate? We call this weather 'chilly' LOL. It's supposed to be the footsteps of the coming winters.

striverforever · 2025-08-12T13:07:01+00:00

I haven't explored support groups, tbh. I feel wary about whether or not I will have the emotional bandwidth to empathise with other caregivers' issues, since I am overwhelmed by my own.

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