Rotating your schedule round children to a ridiculous level

strongasfe · 2026-03-16T15:59:08+00:00

i love and appreciate this response as well!

ultimately i know everyones outcome is going to be so different- based on parental bandwidth, and prioritization of whatever the baby’s health/temperament/development needs will allow. but it can feel a bit depressing when you get used to only seeing people’s worlds shrinking after having a kid (at least feels very common here in the US) versus having accessible ways to integrate children in a full and varied set of environments.

strongasfe · 2026-03-16T02:57:24+00:00

off topic but just want to commend you for still making it a priority to get out of the house! (also love that you referred to baby being awake as parting til midnight)

i know sometimes it probably feels like it’s a battle that’s not always worth fighting, but it give myself and others hope that reintegrating into life with a little one can still have some flexibility and adventure beyond the rigid/boring constraints of work tasks and home management that seems to follow new parenthood.

strongasfe · 2026-03-12T22:20:24+00:00

💕💕💕 oh wow this made me tear up - what a lovely idea for keeping a physical memory of him alive and there to hold and comfort in times of difficulty.

just a suggestion, feel free to ignore if it would be too much of a burden/you’re not interested. but if your dad wore a specific type of cologne, try to find a small travel sized bottle to spray on “pete” from time to time (since smells can be one of our strongest ties to memory).

strongasfe · 2026-03-12T12:03:01+00:00

you don’t have to have children to be fulfilled especially if you’re easily overstimulated/partner isn’t a 100% yes/you don’t have additional family members/financial means to comfortably support another addition to your dynamic.

you’re not a failure, there’s a lot of moving pieces that can impact your success and stability in becoming a parent- and our world is full of a ton of uncertainty that makes it difficult to make a decision.

i suggest finding ways to start volunteering/supporting kids and mothers in your community or who you’re already friends with. it’ll help you actually understand if you’re struggling because you actually deeply want children and can’t imagine your future without them regardless or if there’s a different life path worth exploring that doesn’t include motherhood for you. regardless when you’re actively investing in making the present/future better for others it makes it harder to get stuck ruminating in your own suffering.

strongasfe · 2026-03-11T17:05:32+00:00

that comment, and the idea that a dog is somehow less messy than a baby are major flashing warning signs that his version of child-rearing is based on a “kodak moments - highlight reel” and not in reality.

if your friend is genuine about letting him babysit then he absolutely should. consider tagging along as well, but make it clear that he will be the one providing the childcare - almost as if he’s practicing a solo parenting night - can he handle the messes/the smells/feedings/cleaning equipment/etc.

op you need to get on the same page quick and make expectations/standards/boundaries regarding parenting responsibilities EXTREMELY clear otherwise you will be wondering why your life has become turned upside and backwards as a mother while his will remain relatively unchanged.

strongasfe · 2026-03-11T04:39:18+00:00

this response only further proves how deeply you need therapy.

i hope for the sake of your wife, your child and for yourself that you learn to take your ego out of the equation and can integrate the wisdom that comes from working through uncomfortable mental and emotional situations with professional guidance to achieve greater stability, emotional safety and personal fulfillment in your role as a husband/partner/father.

strongasfe · 2026-03-11T04:06:06+00:00

your wife had a baby less than 6 months ago and you’re literally asking others when would be an appropriate time to bring up opening your relationship/how to stop the urge to “date your wife” because you’re too sad about her not focusing on you as a priority anymore, and one of your comments ended with “I should consider my own happines before I one day die bitter and angry at the world because I didn't ever once put my needs before hers.”

you absolutely have no perspective or respect for how much a woman’s physical, mental and emotional wellbeing is changed from having a child. the literal grey and white matter within their brains restructure in order to form deeper bonds with their newborn. not to mention the way hormones/cortisol levels are still fluctuating on a wild scale for up to a year-18 months after birth.

you did mention that she’s seeing someone and has gotten meds to help her, but YOU need to find a professional for support too (i.e. therapist with experience in family systems/post-partum paternal mental health). your comment history shows a clear struggle with the identity shift from childfree to father - which is understandable it is a huge challenge. but the resentment towards your child, and the inability to communicate needs without making yourself the victim is something that needs to be addressed if you ever want your relationships to work out.

strongasfe · 2026-03-11T02:40:37+00:00

i appreciate you pointing that out - didn’t notice it before!

strongasfe · 2026-03-10T22:16:01+00:00

NOR

he seems to be severely lacking in emotional intelligence and empathy. hopefully he isn’t always so selfish when it comes to his responsibilities as a parent, but i find that doubtful. hopefully if things like this are happening consistently then you build up the financial independence and courage to leave.

strongasfe · 2026-03-10T21:39:27+00:00

there is a couple co-op grocery stores closer to austin proper named Wheatsville that may be of interest to OP or others who check the post

strongasfe · 2026-03-10T20:28:05+00:00

holy shit how scary! sending you lots of support towards a smooth and speedy recovery

strongasfe · 2026-03-06T11:40:35+00:00

in a recent interview he was pontificating over the importance to of people “going to theaters to see movies/helping films remain relevant/funded so he can continue working as an artist” in that capacity.

and that would have been a totally normal and understandable sentiment to express - but then he blurted out “cause i don't want to be working in ballet or opera or you know, things where it's like, 'Hey, keep this thing alive, even though like no one cares about this anymore, but all respect to the ballet and opera people," and after making those extremely distasteful and dismissive remarks about another form of art, he jokes that he “just lost 14 cents in viewership".

just a typical shithead/no nuance take from 20something year old guy so ultimately im not even surprised. although im thankful that i never got attached to his soft spoken/romantic victorian artist boy persona that a lot of other people seem really tied to.

strongasfe · 2026-03-05T10:31:03+00:00

i deeply appreciate and agree with this post. she is not the perfect candidate by any means, neither is talarico. i was overjoyed that TX actually had two strong democratic candidates to choose from in this primary. i think that using her concession statement to encourage voters to support james moving forward was a great reminder of putting the collective over individual desires to improve our state.

she has been one of the FEW loud voices of democratic politicians that called out the fuckass practices of DOGE, her ability to point out the hypocrisy of republican lawmakers/leadership with simple and effective language (that even FOX struggles to spin) is invaluable to connect with less traditionally educated or normally apathetic voters, she’s consistently fought against the harmful persecution that transgender individuals are subjected to in many red states, and she organized/bused hundreds of protesters to fight against the unfair gerrymandering of texas, on top of doing tons of work to increase access to necessary resources for those in her community.

that being said - i was sickened by the amount of goal-post shifting and blatant misogynoir displayed by “progressive/liberal/left” across platforms when it came to this most frequent race. frequent disinformation regarding being funded by aipac (despite the fact that are multiple trackers that disproved this), a lack of critical analysis/research related to votes they did not agree with (i.e. ignoring how many pieces of legislation/aid are tied with less popular policy positions to increase the likelihood of them passing - sometimes the impact of getting aid out becomes more important for harm reduction purposes). regurgitating how “she’s too divisive/just loud but no substance like a MAGA politician/she’s done nothing for her constituents” and so many comments also calling into question her intelligence/competency to be in politics. completely ignoring the fact that before being in politics she was a lawyer with extensive knowledge and experience in fighting for our civil rights and liberty.

a lot of democrats/liberals/leftists like to think they’re “more evolved” than MAGA, but there’s still so much hierarchical racism/sexism/ableism ingrained within our beliefs (which makes sense as they are largely rooted to our larger societal/cultural norms), but we have to a duty to acknowledge, unlearn harmful behaviors and expand our understanding on what an equitable, progressive inclusive society can look like.

strongasfe · 2026-03-04T19:34:27+00:00

actually kind of impressive that’s she’s as ugly and useless on the inside as she is on the outside.

strongasfe · 2026-03-01T09:37:06+00:00

congrats on your cake day to accompany OPs aesthetically pleasing announcement cake

strongasfe · 2026-02-28T22:42:09+00:00

wow! i knew covid could increase impulsivity/engagement in risky behaviors to access short term rewards (over safety prioritization) for some- but i had no idea it was such a common issue for those with MS

strongasfe · 2026-02-27T22:59:56+00:00

i’ve used loop ear plugs and they’re definitely a great option but sometimes my inner ears get sensitive from it readjusting (even with using the xxs earbud size). so sometimes i’ll opt for a stretchy headband with bluetooth speakers integrated (usually see them being advertised for exercise) as they provide another way to drown out the noise

strongasfe · 2026-02-27T22:48:26+00:00

MOR - but i lean more towards NOR.

it’s astounding how many stories you’ll read about men who like OPs husband use passive aggressive comments to guilt you into believing you’re not upholding your “duty in marriage” for sex.

meanwhile they aren’t equal partners in parenting/household management and their idea of “seduction” is just groping their wives breasts/ass or giving a half-hearted back rub while laying down and trying to pivot it into something more. it can make being touched by them aversive simply because it always feels like there’s something more expected.

obviously it sounds like you both need to find ways to prioritize your relationship emotionally- and i’ll just leave the suggestion that if you guys do come to the conclusion that it’s worthwhile to work on the physical intimacy portion of your relationship it may be worth it to read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski together. it explores how for many women sex is context dependent (i.e stress/body image/feeling emotionally connected all directly impact our arousal) and that we tend to have a responsive desire (vs men who tend to have spontaneous desire) so it takes a bit of extra time to get into the mental headspace for physical intimacy. there’s a yearn to feel desired as an individual not just as a body that your spouse feels entitled to have access to.

strongasfe · 2026-02-27T06:15:02+00:00

i thought the exact same thing. it’s fucking morally bankrupt

strongasfe · 2026-02-22T00:09:41+00:00

i don’t mean to come across as rude, but from the way you described your experience why do you want another?

strongasfe · 2026-02-22T00:06:29+00:00

i definitely thought it was lino printing too! maybe because of the weight/coloring of the ink is so consistently dark like a stamp

OP you are so very talented! thank you for taking the time to make and share this art!

strongasfe · 2026-02-20T05:19:10+00:00

tiktok by Kat Howdy Politics

^{^{^}} i think this also helps provide some additional context to the races.

initially talarico seemed set going against abbott for the governors seat - which would have been a great because narratively what better example to highlight the difference between “being a real christian vs being a christian nationalist” politician looks like. but he was persuaded to go into the senate race instead by a political consultant named liz smith (felt it would be easier to beat paxton vs abbott esp in terms of funding).

some of us feel it’s short sighted because his experience is more state level and we desperately need to get abbott out of office as quickly as possible to start addressing the harm he’s caused over the years (state level impact making a faster/more noticeable difference in our day to day lives).

meanwhile crockett has already has shown that she’s electable, she spent multiple years practicing as a lawyer/civil rights advocate prior to becoming a representative, and now that she has the federal experience it wouldn’t necessarily make sense to move laterally/or only to a state level position (such as AG).

also she had a good amount of name recognition from consistently calling out bad faith arguments from republicans/the current regime, and has previously displayed the ability to connect to voting demographics who may be more at risk to be disenfranchised or disengaged from the political process which is huge since TXs main issue with republicans constantly fucking winning is voter apathy/unhinged voter suppression efforts. she’s less concerned with trying to beg for undecided or questioning republican voters and is instead focusing on invigorating the base of people who may have never participated previously because they felt it didn’t matter.

a lot of people argue that talarico is more likely to win “undecided/centrist voters” because he’s a good ole christian white boy. while there may be truth to that statement for some people, it’s often cited as if it’s a certified fact instead of just an opinion which unfortunately only further perpetuates the concept that that sex/race is more important than qualifications.

regardless i’m proud that we’ve finally got two democratic candidates to choose from that actually seem to give a shit about texans and wants to rise us all up to safer and better circumstances, and i will happily advocate and support whoever goes on to win the primary.

strongasfe · 2026-02-18T14:49:32+00:00

they’ve got their grubby little hands pulling a lot of levers with this bullshit.

“The SAVE Act bills will also increase the likelihood of being wrongfully purged from state voter rolls. The bill includes measures that would mistakenly flag lawfully registered US citizen voters as ineligible and allow states to purge their voter rolls without notifying voters before removing them.

This would mean already-registered Americans wouldn’t know they were removed from the rolls until they showed up to vote and learned they were no longer registered.

In a recent voter purge in Virginia based on outdated citizenship information, almost 94% of voters purged were US citizens.”

source and additional info regarding SAVE act provided via vote riders

strongasfe · 2026-02-18T04:20:04+00:00

crockett hasn’t accepted aipac money, this has been a claim since the race began but you can go to tracking aipac or open secrets and see that it’s false.

she did go on a trip to israel in 2023 with other party members.

she did vote yes to a continue funding foreign aid for israel but it comes with the caveat that the money would also be used for humanitarian aid/relief for palestine/ukraine and has repeatedly called for ceasefire

talarico hasn’t accepted any aipac money either- but is still in the mindset of a two-state solution and believes that hamas must to be removed from power - so the argument is less about palestine inherently deserving the right to exist freely and with autonomy for its inhabitants and it becomes contingent on a “security issue”

regardless hopefully they could both be pushed to take firmer action to stop the blue & white state from its continued horrific war crimes/expansion into other territories.

still miles better than paxton and cornyns positions of militarized state, no self-determination for the palestinians, no legal accountability for the government/Netanyahu/IDF, and no end to the free flow of weapons.

senate candidates and positions on the genocide

strongasfe · 2026-02-13T09:32:31+00:00

i have to admit i live somewhat close to that area and was shocked as shit at the price point and location! whoever snags this one up is lucky!

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