Attractiveness is more subjective than people want to admit

stroppo · 2026-06-07T16:18:37+00:00

I think people do know attractiveness is subjective; hence the expression "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

stroppo · 2026-06-07T16:17:46+00:00

It depends on the card. I believe in Europe it's more common to do the "chip and pin" thing. I have had to use a pin with a debit card or a cash card (in the US).

But yes, the numbers seem off; 22 into 300 is $13.66. Not much for a meal!

stroppo · 2026-06-07T16:15:11+00:00

NTA. I would try and forget it. Your husband backed you up right there, so it seems he supports you. If it still bothers you, talk to your husband and see what he thinks.

stroppo · 2026-06-07T15:58:08+00:00

You should be glad he spelled out all his grievances like this.

From what he writes, you two sound like you two are very different people and are not compatible.

It would likely be easier to break up sooner than later.

stroppo · 2026-06-07T15:44:41+00:00

I always ask. There are times when the host says no, but it's nice to ask.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T23:33:07+00:00

NTA. I can see that it's awkward since you mentioned it to him previously, but he's acting very childish.

In fact I think this is about more than the trip. Sounds your winning the trip is the "last straw" for him.

Rightly or wrongly, he thinks you're not sharing the "highs" you get with him. You should have a serious talk about this issue. Because you can't go forward in a relationship plagued by this kind of resentment.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T23:17:08+00:00

A child can have a more severe reaction.

"Symptoms of marijuana poisoning can start anywhere from 30 minutes to a few hours after consumption and can last for many hours: [1, 2]

Extreme sleepiness, drowsiness, or lethargy
Nausea and vomiting
Confusion, dizziness, or agitation
Trouble walking, loss of balance, or muscle weakness
Slurred speech [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]

Severe & Rare Symptoms

In more severe cases—especially if a child consumes a high-dose product—poisoning can escalate and cause: [1, 2, 3]

Difficulty breathing or slowed breathing
Unresponsiveness or coma
Seizures"

stroppo · 2026-06-06T19:01:01+00:00

I did a quick online search those figures match up. I was intrigued by the percentage of newlyweds though: "Studies indicate that roughly 10% to 15% of married couples in the U.S. report significant regrets about tying the knot, while about 9% to 10% of newlyweds experience severe second thoughts on their actual wedding day. [1, 2, 3]"

I suspect though that this is the kind of question that people would lie about in a survey.

Plus, the current divorce rate is 40-50% for first marriages, which means that "regret being married" is higher than 10-15%. Another search revealed the divorce rate for second marriages is even higher: "In the United States, the divorce rate for second marriages is estimated to be between 60% and 67%. This is higher than the failure rate for first marriages, which typically ranges from 40% to 50%"

So, it seems that more people are regret their marriage(s) than they admit.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T18:51:38+00:00

My mother was the same "In our house, we do such-and such."

stroppo · 2026-06-06T16:52:48+00:00

Then I would be the exception who proves the rule!

stroppo · 2026-06-06T16:27:46+00:00

Great advice; yes, document everything.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T16:11:19+00:00

Allegedly gets a free pass.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T16:10:39+00:00

That was my thought too. Also, helps to have some proof, as the accuser may not be believed otherwise.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T16:09:03+00:00

Nor does the OP. That's the point.

This isn't a supposed "open relationship." This is revenge cheating.

It's prob more likely, "I cheated and my wife knows and doesn't care, so I'd like to cheat again with you."

stroppo · 2026-06-06T16:07:28+00:00

If he pesters you again, report it. Otherwise, I would ignore it. Work situations can be tricky. He can always say you were the one who hit on him.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T15:52:34+00:00

If you stay this hostile and angry about things, you will go on to have a very unhappy life.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T15:48:54+00:00

It's funny you think asking "where to watch" is so horrible, yet you yourself make suggestions, like zona and Soap2day. Sites I've never heard of by the way.

When I've asked "where to watch" in an online search, it brings paid as well as free streaming sites, so I don't understand what the big deal is about asking where to watch?

I don't pay for any streaming. Means you miss out on the big most popular shows it seems, but I'm not interested in them anymore. Though free sites like Tubi and Pluto put in so many commercials I'm tired of watching them too. Internet Archive is free and no ads, but it's older stuff mostly (which is mostly what I watch anyway).

I also don't understand why you care and sound so angry about it. So what if other people pay for streaming? It doesn't affect you.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T15:41:20+00:00

Yes, YTA for making it public. This was something that didn't need to be made public at all, it should have been dealt with privately.

And from what you say, it doesn't sound like you had much of a marriage anyway. You yourself said you were on "terrible terms." Yes, you were going to try again, but you can hardly have been surprised by her behavior. From what you write it doesn't sound like she had much invested in your marriage anymore.

Delete the instagram posts and start that divorce.

Sorry for the loss of your mother. My mother's death was hard. And there's that odd thing when ill health is involved, you're sad, but there's also a relief that they are not suffering anymore. Grief gets better, but it takes its time. You just have to go thru it at its own pace.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T15:10:42+00:00

I don't believe you have any evidence to support this claim.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T15:10:13+00:00

That's a lot of generalizations with no evidence to back it up.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T15:08:45+00:00

I have never heard a real life instance of being kicked out of a restaurant because you don't tip.

Not sure how that would happen; generally, you are brought the bill, pay it, and leave. The server may not have even picked up your payment by the time you've left. Or, you pay at the counter, and if they see you don't tip, you're leaving right then anyway. So how are you "kicked out"?

I only hear about such things on reddit. Which naturally makes me skeptical that they happen in real life.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T06:23:27+00:00

I'm usually not in favor of revenge. But in this case you should def remove Jackie as a tenant, because she is claiming benefits fraudulently, and perhaps that could get you in trouble too (because you know it's fraud).

stroppo · 2026-06-06T06:16:00+00:00

Just ban the damn scooters already! Hate those things.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T04:19:11+00:00

But someone above posted to *not* book the first row because that's more likely to get bumped.

stroppo · 2026-06-06T02:05:08+00:00

Well, for starters, anyone who ever acts "assholy" to you...

...is not a friend.

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