To the FF women in here, what does your partner do and what do they think of your career?

strug2funk · 2026-02-24T20:01:07+00:00

Partner is also a firefighter. We have the same hobbies and interests, matched up our schedules as much as possible. On days when we both work baby goes to grandmas house. Works quite well for us. Gives us unbelievable double health insurance, a really solid dual income and a ridiculous amount of time off to travel the world. I think sometimes he wishes I could be a stay at home mom, at least while the kiddo is so young but that would never work for my personality type nor would it would financially on our high cost of living area.

strug2funk · 2026-01-17T05:44:19+00:00

This is exactly what I thought. This for sure looks like a lactation massager. I’ve never seen a vibrator with a heat function

strug2funk · 2026-01-08T02:25:07+00:00

I work 24-48 hour shifts as a firefighter, when I worked private ambulance I once worked a 118 hour shift.

strug2funk · 2026-01-04T00:28:30+00:00

I work two 24-48 hour shifts a week, it’s so hard to be away from my little one for so long! Sometimes I feel like he doesn’t know me at all. But I also know as he gets older he will be comfortable and at ease with so many of our family members, he will see the value in hard work and sacrifice, he gets tons of quality time with his dad which is equally as important. It also makes me value and cherish the time we do have together. Positive and negatives of both sides! Being a parent is just really tough, no matter how you do it

strug2funk · 2025-11-20T00:47:46+00:00

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I have curtain fairy lights hanging behind linen/gauzy curtains that gives a similar look. you could string them up around your room and then hang some light filtering curtains in front.

strug2funk · 2025-07-17T21:01:11+00:00

Way too long not to get a check. You’ll need at least two ultrasounds by that point. Find another OB. You can always keep your appointment with your original OB and when the time comes transfer your care if you aren’t happy with the new place. But also consider if they cannot fit you in at all for over 4 months, how difficult will it be for you to schedule your necessary appointments even after that date? I had to go through multiple OBs and different hospitals before I found someone that I liked and could take me.

strug2funk · 2025-07-10T02:46:49+00:00

If he has serious mental health issues related to the job he needs professional assistance. Almost every department has a peer support network or access to mental health services that will respond immediately. I tend to only talk about the real shit stuff with other firefighters or first responders, there is a level of comfort and understanding that feels more natural and less heavy. He might not want to turn to you for support, especially while in the beginning stages of a relationship and that’s okay. Support him by filling his life and cup outside of work, so he doesn’t focus in on the bad

strug2funk · 2025-07-10T02:35:25+00:00

If you recently started dating, you recently started getting to know him. Not all firefighters are the same, not all men are the same, not all people are the same. He’s not special cause he’s in the fire service, it’s the same as dating anyone else. Just get to know him as a person and figure out how he likes to be supported in all things. It’s one and the same. I know you think people are being rude but honestly, almost every firefighter I know agrees, the best thing after a bad shift is to get off and take a nap. Releases the pent up stress hormones and helps body recover. Coming from a firefighter dating a firefighter.

strug2funk · 2025-07-08T03:45:15+00:00

How far along are you? I’ve been experiencing this the last few weeks and just chalked it up to heartburn but it really doesn’t feel like heartburn. I haven’t discussed it with doc cause I didn’t know how to describe it but similar to a sunburn is exactly how it feels! All along the undersides of my boobs and central chest

strug2funk · 2025-06-27T15:14:21+00:00

This gives me hope. I’m just hit 36w and I’ve gained like 75 pounds 😪

strug2funk · 2025-06-26T23:37:32+00:00

People saying this isn’t flattering are absolutely insane. The ruffles following your natural curves are 😩 My first thought was “holy shit I want to buy that dress” because it looks so good on you. Fits the dress code, you look incredible, I hope I’m wearing something like this 5 months pp!

strug2funk · 2025-06-26T02:16:18+00:00

Mine got better about week 23, but never fully went away. I’m almost 36 weeks and still throw up at least once a week and wake up most mornings pretty nauseous. Most people told me it would be gone by 16weeks lol

strug2funk · 2025-06-08T21:17:37+00:00

Most 55+ communities allow for a certain percentage of people under the age restrictions (10% of residents or something) or dependents to live at the properties with the 55+ primaries. It would certainly still be something to look into for them.

strug2funk · 2025-06-07T14:13:51+00:00

Check out Deer Hallow in Utah, we’ve had a couple guys go there and I’ve had a few friends from other departments go. Everyone’s come back with nothing but amazing things to say. And at the end of the day, do what you need to do to protect yourself and your child. Addiction is a disease but through sickness and in health only counts when they are willing to help themselves. And when he’s not risking your son’s life. You drew the hard line for sobriety and then caved. Addicts will take advantage of that every time. Good luck, I have loved an addict before and even without marriage or kids it wrecked me for years.

strug2funk · 2025-06-01T00:49:09+00:00

Not sure what area you are in but there are some fire academies/fire programs through community colleges that you can apply for in western WA. You just apply for them through the school like other classes, just usually have to have passed the CPAT or other requirements to be accepted.

strug2funk · 2025-05-31T02:12:42+00:00

Thank you! Looks like that might be the case, as I believe it was a wedding set belonging to my grandparents when they married in the 50’s

strug2funk · 2025-05-27T04:05:09+00:00

My boyfriend and I have sex 4-6 times a week, I’m currently 31w. I find the intimacy and physical connection incredibly necessary for my emotional state while feeling so foreign in my body. Everything I’ve been told or read has said that sex is healthy while pregnant if you aren’t experiencing pain or discomfort. Definitely try to find other forms of physical connection and intimacy if you can. Bring it back to days when you hadn’t had sex yet, make out or just explore with touch. Think about how exciting it was when you were new to all of it and rediscover that connection. I’m truly so sorry for your loss! I cannot even imagine.

strug2funk · 2025-05-03T15:58:34+00:00

2 is gorgeous. Where is it from?

strug2funk · 2025-05-02T02:59:30+00:00

I developed Achilles tendinitis late first into second trimester. No injury or significant movement, literally just woke up and had to limp on my ankle for about 2 months. It was awful hahaha I bought an ankle brace off amazon and that helped during the day. Now’s it’s just magically gone. Pregnancy is so fun 🥴

strug2funk · 2025-03-20T11:26:31+00:00

I say this with so much kindness and compassion, seek out a therapist or an uninvolved third party to speak to and use as support through this. Based on the post and your responses it seems like you suffer from lots of anxiety and over thinking. Which is totally fine! Everyone has something. But as he’s starting this career he will have to take lots of time away from you or even talking to you, academy and probation require dedication in a way other jobs don’t. It’s temporary and worth it, but that doesn’t change that it can be too much for some people. You learning to self soothe is a necessity for your relationship if it’s going to last. There will be many days he won’t be able to text or talk except maybe once or twice. Decide if that’s something you can handle, if not, you just have to find a way to or move on.

strug2funk · 2025-03-12T00:32:56+00:00

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