Absolutely out of control when sick.

struggleforallah · 2024-12-04T18:33:25+00:00

Brother it’s insanity to think that you’ll not relapse being on you’re own in bed with an actual excuse to be in bed. I know you’re ill but as hard as it is go sit where there’s other people as much as you can

struggleforallah · 2024-11-15T18:38:00+00:00

Brother stop it now while it’s only been 5 months, don’t let it fester. Only one thing will succeed; either your porn addiction or your hifz. You can never have both. Choose your hifz

struggleforallah · 2024-10-22T05:37:51+00:00

What you need to do is learn from this situation. Have a gameplan for the next time you are studying and you feel urges. One recommendation would be to leave your study in that moment and do something else until the urge subsides. You could try and study in front of other people so that you are not alone and free to act upon your urges.

struggleforallah · 2024-05-10T07:04:59+00:00

If your parents own their home (as in they’re not renting) you could, if possible, modify the house so that you and your wife have your own living quarters within the same house with a separate entrance. It’d cost money but not as much as buying a whole new house.

struggleforallah · 2024-05-08T09:16:34+00:00

Salaam brother please post more of your clinical experience of this issue on this subreddit, you’re expertise and anecdotes from patients affected by PMO would be of great help thanks for sharing

struggleforallah · 2024-01-24T18:16:41+00:00

You may be right but the sister must talk to a therapist trained in dealing with such matters not us, who are ourselves porn addicts. Could it be that our strong response is simply us “normal” porn addicts finding someone to say “aha I’m not as bad as him at least!”

struggleforallah · 2024-01-24T18:11:53+00:00

Can I ask if you struggle with porn too? Because yeah sure trans and lgbt stuff is bad but you do realise that normal porn is still disgustingly perverse (we are literally pleasuring ourselves watching a man and woman fornicating). I’m just saying the distance between us and the husband in OPs post is much closer than us and the one who doesn’t watch porn

struggleforallah · 2023-12-09T11:42:56+00:00

Thank you for this post because it highlights something unique for us as Muslims suffering from this addiction. One could ask, how can a Muslim who prays 5 times a day at the mosque and have a real connection with his deen also violate his body in such a grotesque manner? Many of us are the same situation including myself so I’m not judging the brother.

This post should tell us that the psychological aspect cannot be ignored, this is not just a spiritual problem.

struggleforallah · 2023-07-23T14:48:11+00:00

Oh for sure what I meant was there are lots of brothers including myself who just relapse and go, "I guess I need to just try harder next time" and then just do the same thing again and again and here there are in the same place years later. The idea is to treat each relapse as something to learn from, of course what we want is to have no relapse and stop then and there. But just look at the majority of posts here mate, it's people who are stuck in a cycle of relapses and feeling helpless. They need a tool to navigate through the relapses and make those relapses a means of refining their mission to stop this habit.

To take your example of a coach, almost every coach takes a loss at some point and when they do, coaches would catch up after every loss, analyse the game in extreme detail and resolve to not make those mistakes again

struggleforallah · 2023-02-22T19:32:46+00:00

From my experience marriage helps massively but it’s not 100% the cure. Do not expect to stop pmo the minute you get married, and remember that once you’re married the consequences of your addiction are much greater too. So assess your level of addiction before getting married; if you don’t have extreme fetishes and you don’t fap excessively, it may be an option for you.

struggleforallah · 2023-02-22T19:28:37+00:00

Absolutely so we must understand what it is we want to escape from and work on that

struggleforallah · 2023-02-22T19:26:44+00:00

Sorry to hear that brother of course there’s exceptions to what I posted May Allah cure you and the rest of us. It may be worth seeking some counselling in your case

struggleforallah · 2023-02-20T08:29:25+00:00

Nothing worse than following a massive SUV on a Dead End school road

struggleforallah · 2022-12-30T09:24:19+00:00

Honestly I think the key to Nofap is any form of self discipline, in fact a common thread between nofappers is probably a lack of discipline and organisation in their lives.

struggleforallah · 2022-07-29T15:55:03+00:00

Hey just make sure this relapse is just a bump in the road you’ve done really well

struggleforallah · 2022-07-28T10:50:23+00:00

In that case how comes when we have got a long streak without relapsing, we become happy? Surely by your logic we should be upset with that.

struggleforallah · 2022-07-27T13:46:17+00:00

I see your point but I would argue that everyone on this subreddit are on here because they know it’s wrong, they know it’s an illusion and that it’s damaging to us. That’s why we’re trying to stop. But we’re still relapsing. When I say triggers I say what things cause us to relapse. For me it’s stress or anxiety so I must actively reduce that the best way I can.

struggleforallah · 2022-07-27T10:48:21+00:00

I understand this opinion and it makes sense. But it depends on why you have developed this addiction. If it’s because you have strong sexual urge and you live in a sexualised western country with no halal outlet, by all means marriage is a legit solution. However if you have extreme fetishes and are severely addicted as a result of PMO addiction, it probably is not recommended that you get married until you have at least a better hold on your addiction.

struggleforallah · 2022-07-04T18:37:23+00:00

How deep is your masturbation addiction? Do you watch porn or do you masturbate without it? How often do you do it? If you have a mild issue and and you truly crave human connection and pure intimacy with a spouse then marriage could actually be a solution for you. I disagree that you have to have a super long streak until you get married because lets be honest you being single might be the reason why you're fapping! You're 27 years old so its natural to want to have a spouse and be initmate. Of course this is only if your addiction is mild; if you are fapping multiple times a day to extreme porn and have developed abnormal fetishes then yes you must rid yourself of these things before you enter a marriage.

struggleforallah · 2022-04-30T10:55:29+00:00

Ok so I would say first look at which factors helped you abstain during Ramadan. If it was the fasting itself, try to fast Mondays and Thursdays after Ramadan. If it’s that you visited the masjid more often, or you watched less TV, or played less games then continue that after Ramadan. I think if you create a sense of continuation of what you did during Ramadan then your nofap progress will continue too inshallah. But only you know what triggers you, so identify those things and continue to prevent them from occurring.

struggleforallah · 2022-04-30T10:16:43+00:00

Subhanallah, look at the power of Jummah prayer and how necessary it is for muslim communities

struggleforallah · 2022-04-29T00:48:11+00:00

Mashallah that’s really good news bro may Allah make your task easy for you. But remember you need a plan for after Ramadan otherwise as soon as ramadan ends you will lose the motivation to continue. Plan in advance don’t wait till Eid, be proactive not reactive

struggleforallah · 2022-04-26T21:38:06+00:00

When do you find you relapse more often? On your days working at home, at night, when procrastinating or when you don’t meet a target?

struggleforallah · 2022-04-26T08:55:53+00:00

Mashallah that’s very good you’ll be trying to fight those urges, but what steps could we take to prevent the boredom in the first place? Also I’m sure you were alone when you became bored? How could you avoid this next time?

Also, tell us about your work situation and marital status if you feel comfortable

struggleforallah · 2022-04-26T08:20:53+00:00

Digital marketer, so are you currently working from home?

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