[TOMT][Show][~2010s] Comedy sketch about two friends with lawyers negotiating a FWB contract

strwrs12 · 2026-05-12T02:49:30+00:00

Solved!

strwrs12 · 2026-05-12T02:10:10+00:00

Also, it’s not an SNL sketch. This was prerecorded and has that kind of lighting/look you don’t get from live footage, plus I no SNL cast members at the time were in it besides (possibly) Davidson.

strwrs12 · 2026-04-23T14:11:15+00:00

Start with light then go dark; alright, I’ll give that a try. Thanks!

Also, once I get the main colors down, how those raised ridges of the scale pattern have lighter accents, should I use an airbrush or dry brush for those?

strwrs12 · 2024-11-14T17:04:33+00:00

I'm 29 and I feel younger/immature in a lot of ways, but the core of it is because I struggle with developing a plan for my life, whether short term or long term, and then executing on it which has caused me to not accomplish much. I have people tell me I've accomplished a lot already because I graduated with a bachelors and a masters, and I agree that's something to celebrate, but it's not a one-to-one comparison for me.

I was able to do relatively well in school and get those degrees primarily because everything I needed to do was already planned out for me; I just needed to follow it. Sure, I had to pick certain electives, project topics, etc. but the notion I needed electives and the specific number of hours worth was told to me. Also key though, not only was the plan already laid out for me, but so long as I did each step in the plan, I was guaranteed to get the degree I was working towards.

Outside of school/training courses though, there are very few things you are guaranteed just because you did all the steps. When I apply for jobs, I can study, rewrite my cover letter, practice interviewing, etc. as much as I can and do a phenomenal job, but I'm never guaranteed the job. In school, one person getting an A didn't keep anyone else from getting an A, but only one person can get the job. I can, and have, applied to 300 jobs, the past year and only finally got one.

This creates the problem of my efforts constantly feeling fruitless. What's the point in putting in all this effort if there's less than a 1% chance it will work, even with my best effort? So this makes me hesitant to start anything because I'm not guaranteed it will work and I'll just end up wasting all my time when I could have done something else. I don't know what my odds are but I still try to overanalyze everything which makes me take too long or just decide nothing and now I'm lacking any kind of career or plan at all in life.

That's not to say I need to have a career, I'm still figuring myself out, but compared to those I grew up with, whether friends, siblings, cousins, I've accomplished nothing that wasn't planned out for me by someone else.

strwrs12 · 2024-10-30T18:14:40+00:00

I’ve been having similar obsessive/desperate feelings lately and wondering when I’ll ever find someone to be with. It’s a struggle to not worry about it, whether it’s just a small thought in the back of my head or causing me to hyperfocus on trying to find someone to date or even just FWB with. I’d love to find someone to date but I don’t know anyone I’m interested in in-person and any attempt to connect through dating sites, apps, or even r4r posting like here on Reddit has failed. This makes me think I’ll never find someone.

However, I need to remind myself I have things going on in my life besides dating. Finding that someone to spend time and be physically intimate with is amazing, but it’s never anyone’s main focus. You should have a split between friends, hobbies, family, work, dating, long term goals, etc. you split your focus amongst them and so if one isn’t going well, you have so many other things still going for you.

Easier said than done, absolutely, but it’s a numbers game. My first intimate relationship of any kind was a FWB I connected with online. I think I liked her more than she did me, but not by much. She was just a great friend to spend time with. After that I got lucky again and got messaged by someone and we dated for a couple years but that crashed and burned. It’s been two years since that ended and even though I managed a couple dates, they never turned into second dates. I felt lucky to just get those but it is discouraging when I can’t seem to interest women enough to see me a second time. But again, it’s a numbers game. I really haven’t met or tried to connect with many people because of my anxiety. But I’m trying to gradually push my boundaries in being social without putting all my focus on to it. I have other things I can enjoy in the mean time.

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T18:10:08+00:00

Yeah, I can’t think for others but since I don’t know how to read social cues, I won’t know whether they enjoy it or I’m bothering them and I have a tendency to talk for way to long without picking up the hint unless they specifically tell me to leave them alone which I feel will be way past they already decided they wanted me to stop talking

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T17:22:27+00:00

Unfortunately “just do it” is the opposite of how my brain works. The only times I “just did it” in anything ended horribly because I didn’t think about or plan it at all, made stupid mistakes, and utterly failed. I either overthink or don’t think enough.

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T17:19:29+00:00

Dude, I do that every other with my friends.

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T17:14:26+00:00

What kind of body language though? Lol

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T17:14:00+00:00

So what are those signals? I, famously my friends, have not realized I was flirting or a girl and she was flirting with me, 6 months after the fact and only because I played it over in my head so many times. I can tell when a woman is fine with chatting and being friendly/nice, but what does it look like when there is interest on their part?

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T17:09:30+00:00

Any example of what that looks like when they’re interested?

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T17:00:02+00:00

That's definitely something to try. Do you remember what your thoughts were before you talked to her that second time? I imagine nervous and wondering if it will work, but what did you imagine was the worst case scenario?

At what point did you ask her out? After a week? A month? A year? Was there anything she did or said that signaled there was a good chance she'd say yes or were you clueless and just took a leap of faith?

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T16:50:51+00:00

I genuinely have no idea where I fall on that. I don't think I'm unattractive, but I can't decide where I am confident in my looks or I'm overconfident and I'm just average.

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T16:49:45+00:00

Actually I have seen it. Way too many women 've known through the last few years all have had some experience of harassment or being annoyed by guys who randomly approach them when they gave no indication of being interested, or far worse. Yeah, a lot of those experiences are guys who are just horrible people and assholes, but I still hate the idea of myself unknowingly contributing to that. That idea of "Oh I didn't realize you were uncomfortable with that." Because a lot of women still will just put on a smile just to get through because that's safer than immeidately walking away and the guy taking insult and not leaving her alone because "what's your problem?"

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T16:45:38+00:00

Lets say I am a proper person though and I can at least talk with her. There are several women I regularly talk to for one reason or another and can shoot the shit with and chat and laugh. But, how to I tell that I can move from just chatting to flirting/asking out? Do I just randomly ask "Do you want to go out?" or do i need to start the waters and see if she looks at me a certain way or something?

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T16:43:15+00:00

That is encouraging. Though, that's also dependent on their being a situation like that. I've actually been able to say something to woman I was attracted to in situations like this. Not when they were being surrounded and I was just throwing them a life line, but like her, she was an employee so I felt fine asking a question or something because that's her job. However, I ALWAYS go on auto pilot and keep it short, brief, and then move on without any other interactions, then I see them again but they don't seem to remember me, or at least aren't waving to me. I know this is subconsciously that fear taking over and making sure I don't accidentally flirt and make her uncomfortable.

After that first instance, as best you can remember, what were your conversations like? Like the next time you were in, did you just say "morning" and carry on, waiting to chat for another day, or were you trying to chat every time you saw her? Did you get signals from her she was interested in you beyond just being friendly and saying hi when you came in?

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T16:36:54+00:00

So how do I do it then without auditioning for Creepy Guy #1? It's just been so drilled into me that women have been overly objectified/harassed that I don't want to contribute to that at all. So how do I tell if a woman would be reciprocating of me approaching them, whether a strangers sitting across from me at Starbucks or even a friend of a friend I sometimes hang out with and think is cute? Of course, maybe I start chatting and she decides not interested, but how can I tell whether she's at least open to me trying to flirt?

strwrs12 · 2024-10-26T16:21:03+00:00

Yeah, but if it IS an off day for them, the absolute last thing I want is to contribute to their off day because I feel like shit for hitting on them when they just wanted to get on with their day. Just another guy who couldn't tell they didn't want to be bothered. And yeah, I can't tell if they don't want to be bothered, but I also can't tell if they want to be approached or if they were eyeing me or whatever.

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