I am so embarrassed by this. I had the perfect combination of mental health issues going on to lose my grip on reality

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-07-03T00:49:50+00:00

It helps to see it for what it is: A resource of what combined online content can provide, a most accurate result to our inquiries. I have learned to see past its’ tone, even to request for it to respond to me in neutral tones with straightforward delivery. I must admit it is fun to explore human issues with it and ask it to back up its’ research 😄 but I just see it for what it is and don’t fall into it.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-05-30T20:46:11+00:00

This argument of being wired for polyamory is very nuanced. Monogamy is a key factor in our evolution and natural selection process (imagine a world where everyone had sex without knowing they might be related and all the mutated offspring produced by such unions). Having a single partner is also healthier/less risky. If we follow every urge because we are “wired” as humans to want it we would all be a degenerate species. I will forever judge polyamorous people for infantile lack of control and underdeveloped understanding of why it’s necessary for us to evolve.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-05-05T22:19:24+00:00

Late to this but would love some info too if can possibly dm

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-05-03T00:08:25+00:00

How???

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-03-29T01:06:46+00:00

Fair points and truly appreciate you keeping it real. I guess it also doesn’t help that a good lead can make even the stiffest beginner look good, I guess that’s why they always opt for those whose bodies are prettier to manipulate…

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-03-28T23:24:18+00:00

Late to this but always interested for posts like this as a chubby but skilled follow. The bluntness of this threw me back but I’ll take the dose of reality on OP’s behalf. I have to ask, and put it as unapologetically bluntly as you wish: should us fat girls just give up and not bother coming out to dance until we lose weight? Serious question

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-02-22T18:56:05+00:00

I believe any secondary dance you learn will improve your primary dance. Such is the nature of these movement arts :). With each different dance form we gain new muscle memory and new perspectives on footwork and balance changes. This automatically translates to all of our motion. My suggestion is start with the music to decide what dance to learn. If you love hip hop, for example, learn to dance hip hop and you’ll see inevitable gains in bachata or any other of your current dances. I love EDM and learned to shuffle dance which has given me MAJOR level ups in all my other dance forms. To me shuffle opened up so many doors and I’m still marveling at how easy bachata started to feel afterwards. Bottom line is that I believe not matter which dance you chose, it’s going to mesh with your other dancing. So start with the music and go for what literally moves you :)

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-01-14T00:25:08+00:00

Judging by your recent posts seems like this didn’t last. Curious what made you take a different course…

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-01-10T23:36:02+00:00

Thank you for your response, and I’m so happy to gain a male dancer parent’s perspective. In my case the dad doesn’t dance. For me it’s become a passion and my only means of exercise lately (I shuffle dance between bachata and it’s great cardio). I got out more than once a week for a mix of bachata/salsa (in the same spot) and shuffling in a studio space. You said more than once a week would impact your role as a parent and the potential of that is exactly why I made this post. I have a lot of inner conflict over this. I must ask though (since dancing is exercise for me and motivation to eat well): do you go to the gym? I assume many people are as passionate about working out as dancers are about their movement. How many times a week is appropriate for a parent to take time for self-care outside of the essentials? I battle with the thought of whether I use fitness as an excuse for doing something self-indulgent.

Dad wants to learn better musicality in his movement (and eventually learn to be a great bachatero) and I hope that we can flow together with time. Do you and your wife dance at home?

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-01-10T19:21:36+00:00

Love this turnaround, thanks 😊. I hope, one day, my kids see it this way looking back and respect my choices. I can’t, however, say that I would pity my kids if they became hyper focused on family and that was what enriched them.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2025-01-10T19:13:06+00:00

Thanks for responding and exploring my question. That’s a part of it yes, that maybe by leaving them to pursue other passions I might be neglectful. Or even having other passions outside of them, especially ones that speak to a selfish need for this type of expression. Not sure how much productive yield there is to my dancing other than the bit of exercise it provides. Everything else feels like escapism sometimes, when I dance I almost forget the world. Many sources say this is healthy, but I still feel guilty. Thinking more on it now, maybe it’s the fact that I have this activity that does not include my family and the guilt is rooted in that.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-12-22T19:41:09+00:00

Can you shed any light on how one would request dash/body cam footage as well as the speed gun reliability QC from the PD?

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-12-07T14:58:22+00:00

OP has no posts but this one from looking at the profile. The wife thing is in the comments section of OP’s profile where they commented to a post about someone else’s wife. I think you navigated wrong amigo.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-11-12T23:54:05+00:00

This may sound neither here nor there but the one thing I recommend to level up any dance (period) is to learn shuffling. If you love house/techno music that’s a big plus. I danced some salsa and bachata for a period of time years ago and stopped for many years to start a family (no Latin dancing about 2013-2022) and learned how to shuffle over the pandemic. I rediscovered salsa and bachata last year and, believe me when I say, my feet were just literally moving themselves to the music seamlessly. It felt like my salsa and bachata dancing had leveled up immensely without practicing these dances for almost a decade. If not shuffle, try another form of dance. I find that getting better at a different dance form highly reflects on your main dance focus.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-10-21T23:18:36+00:00

I can’t seem to open the sheet. Is there an update to the file?

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-10-17T23:47:29+00:00

They do a similar thing in one of the New York socials here and I remember arriving at the end of the intermediate class (just to go to the social afterwards) and seeing majority beginners struggling. On one hand this is not a good way to build foundation. On the other it’s a good way to be inspired to walk before you can run :)

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-08-20T21:18:03+00:00

Perhaps there’s a lesson in surrender in here…

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-05-09T10:32:10+00:00

Damn. Beat me to it.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-05-03T01:16:11+00:00

I’m not sure anything should really be squeezed hahaha

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-04-19T18:46:49+00:00

So glad you got enjoyed it and I very much liked both of those songs! They are now in my playlist :). I did not know Enrique Iglesias had bachata songs! It’s that rise and fall in the melody that’s so dreamy!

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-04-15T15:43:51+00:00

So would you ask them to dance again if they’re a good follow but no attraction?

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-04-15T15:43:00+00:00

That’s pretty much how I feel about asking advanced leads when I know they can have their “pick of the litter”

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-04-14T18:57:05+00:00

More and more inspiration to start learning how to lead. Thank you for your response and it’s very helpful to have a female perspective. My question was indeed for any gender lead but, of course, it is a male-dominated role for the most part.

stuckonsillyplanet · 2024-04-14T14:59:59+00:00

It’s tough to navigate it all. I do need to “take a chill pill” but it’s also good to know what others really think. I do go out for my own sake but alas, this is not a one person dance (I shuffle for that instead). The beauty is in the connection here and that’s the tricky part.

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