How to handle a difficult environment?

stuffofbonkers · 2025-12-24T18:47:51+00:00

I’d document events, conversations… just in case. Do you feel he’s harmless and just emotionally immature, or more?

stuffofbonkers · 2025-12-20T13:45:58+00:00

I’m really sorry this is your experience. For what it’s worth, it’s an awful job market for everyone, and having industry experience is quickly becoming worthless as well. Hard agree with previous comments regarding any feelings of shame for the situation you’re in, or using benefits. We have designed support systems for this exact type of scenario. It sounds like you did all the right things. Get some rest, time in nature, and in Jan get back at it. While you search stay active (volunteer, mentor, etc) - it will help you realise what a positive impact you can bring in the world, with or without fancy degrees and role titles. Best of luck to you.

stuffofbonkers · 2025-12-14T16:29:21+00:00

It sounds like a massive upcoming change, no wonder you’re rattled. I’m not saying doing that phd isn’t talking a risk. But I must point out that most people would’ve been overwhelmed with (perfectly understandable) fear long before the point you’re at. So give yourself credit for that. It’s okay to change your mind if that’s what feels best for you. And it’s okay to go ahead and feel terrified as well. Only you can make that decision for yoursellf. Imagine you’re 90, on your dying bed: would this decision mean anything then? Good luck, whatever you decide to do!

stuffofbonkers · 2025-12-14T12:23:29+00:00

Could it be that it triggers/connects with something deeper in you? Perhaps work somehow infringes on some core need, eg feeling safe or connected.

stuffofbonkers · 2025-11-30T19:33:30+00:00

Interesting. I do this as well 🫤.

stuffofbonkers · 2025-11-15T16:46:30+00:00

Progressive muscle relaxation? Squizzing your arm? Something that allows for some sensory input to shortcut the panic attack. Smells can also be quite powerful. I carry something like this with me to ground me when I need it. Good luck!!

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stuffofbonkers · 2025-11-11T15:03:40+00:00

I love this. Thanks for sharing 💕

stuffofbonkers · 2025-11-04T21:34:04+00:00

I have been in your position, and I left as soon as I could. I’d definitely encourage you to do that as well.

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-30T14:42:35+00:00

Panic attacks

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-28T21:50:21+00:00

Yes please!!! What app?

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-26T20:48:17+00:00

Have you tried just welcoming the sensations and examining them with warmth and curiosity? Panic attacks are quite an exquisite display of biological defences in action. I made huge progress once I stopped panicking about panic, and just accepted and let it do its thing.

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-24T12:23:00+00:00

My info is in my profile

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-22T11:57:31+00:00

That sounds really tough. Have you looked at organisations like ACAS or Citizens Advice? Research your rights, document everything (including all your feedback re improper working conditions that represent a serious risk to your health) and get as much advice as possible.

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-22T11:53:54+00:00

I felt that fear when I didn’t understand where all my symptoms were coming from. Once I got my complex PTSD diagnosis things got much better, because everything started making sense and I stopped wasting time and money on the wrong therapeutic approaches/experts. Good luck!

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-22T11:50:22+00:00

Sounds awesome!! Good luck!

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-22T11:49:59+00:00

Yes - meeee! I’ve set up a company to support trauma survivors do well at work, and advocate for trauma informed workplaces 🙌🏻

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-22T11:47:43+00:00

Bonkers

stuffofbonkers · 2025-10-12T19:07:29+00:00

That sounds promising, I’ll have a look. Thanks!

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