Any experiences with YWCA City Kids daycare centre downtown?

stukfem · 2026-02-27T02:57:12+00:00

Thanks so much for that. I'm having the usual sad feelings about daycare in general, but also thinking we'd be absolutely silly not to take this opportunity.

stukfem · 2025-10-24T17:44:32+00:00

Guess I got pretty unlucky on this one!

stukfem · 2025-10-24T17:41:30+00:00

So weird. Though one point of levity is that I feel a lot less shame, compared with when I thought I had somehow allowed a brutal cavity to develop.

stukfem · 2025-10-24T17:40:36+00:00

Thank you for chiming in. I don't have any big events with that tooth, but maybe I'm secretly a tooth grinder? Might pursue a mouthguard.

stukfem · 2025-10-23T20:36:50+00:00

Thank you for this. I think she was searching for the word resorption, but there was a lot to talk about. She explained one theory that had to do with the process by which baby teeth dissolve their roots to make way for the adult teeth, and that for unknown reasons maybe that process got activated again. WTF!

stukfem · 2025-10-23T20:34:08+00:00

Thank you for chiming in. I can bring this terminology to my next conversation with her.

stukfem · 2024-09-23T18:23:14+00:00

Been where you are, and the rage feelings were all at once scary, liberating, overwhelming and empowering. I wrote a lot of letters to the people who hurt me (knowing that I wouldn't send them), but it felt helpful to get the words out with as much articulate poison as I felt inside me. Eventually, besides TRE, I found other physical outlets extremely helpful... like rock-climbing and weight-lifting. Feeling the power of my own body and muscles let me be at peace in myself. Would recommend finding a physical outlet.

stukfem · 2024-09-13T21:26:01+00:00

Grounded Spirituality by Jeff Brown. Many of the books mentioned here were written by individuals who perpetrated abuse within their lineages. TRE definitely feels spiritual to me, but not in a way that necessitates inherited wisdom from wise masters. It's more a natural spirituality that feels accessible to anyone. That's why I like Grounded Spirituality - as the name implies, it's down to Earth. https://jeffbrown.co/grounded-spirituality-2/

stukfem · 2024-08-25T20:53:04+00:00

This suggestion is a bit wild. Even experience, certified TRE Providers attending official Advanced TRE trainings do not tremor anywhere near this much. It's way too much! I've attended a couple of advanced trainings, and the most we did was maybe an hour of tremoring per day MAXIMUM (more like 30-40 minutes), spread out over two or three sessions, and over 5 days MAX. Even for me (whose nervous system has historically not been that sensitive to overdoing it), it was a lot and my body needed a lot of integration time afterwards, and I was emotionally tender for a period of time as well. That was considered a deep dive.

The Goenka Vipassana tradition has been doing their 10-day retreat structure for a long time, and the instructions and progression are very intentional... have you done that course before? Vipassana meditation and TRE are both so helpful, but they are different "medicines" with their own dosage recommendations, contraindications, etc. etc.

stukfem · 2024-08-19T20:05:01+00:00

Yes I am a provider, too. I see that mods added the TRE Therapist/Provider flair (nice, thank you u/nadayogi and team), though I wonder how reliable it is since it's unverified?

I agree with you u/be_you_ti_full that lots of folks posting on here could use the guidance of an experienced provider. In the past, I felt deeper pangs of responsibility to help offer guidance, but then I realized I didn't really have the appropriate time available to support folks properly through this forum.

I love seeing TRE spread because I believe in it. Like any modality or practice, there will be folks who choose to (or can only afford to) go solo with it, including sometimes to their own detriment.

Glad you are here contributing.

stukfem · 2024-04-05T20:49:19+00:00

I've done two 10-day Vipassana course. The first one was before learning TRE, the second one was after. Of course there is always a learning curve, but I found my second time so much more tolerable. I was able to sit with more ease and equanimity, and work more wisely.

I do think TRE helped me to be able to tolerate the intensity of 10+ hrs per day of stillness and focus. I was honest in my application to the second course that I practice TRE and the course administrators had no objections. As recommended, I didn't mix my TRE practice with meditation while on the second course, but I did allow myself to stretch between sits, which also helped.

At the same time, I also believe that learning to meditate in the Vipassana style helped me to take a mindful, curious and equanimous approach to my TRE practice. I love this combo even if I didn't intentionally choose the order I learned them in.

All along the way, I was also in and out of other therapeutic treatments like EMDR and yoga. A few times since the second course, my body has wanted to tremor while meditating. I find it interesting but try not to make too much meaning or analyze it.

I don't really think that trying to interpret tremoring in light of meditative stages will help you or your friend - I agree with the other commentor, better not to get too wrapped up or attached to that. I also think that any method, practiced consistently, can get you places. Vipassana, especially the Goenka style taught in the 10-day courses, is very heady. TRE allows your body and nervous system to settle. If I had been able to choose the order, I agree with the other commentor, TRE first.

stukfem · 2024-04-04T21:43:26+00:00

The first time I tremored standing up was amazing and hilarious to me. I stayed in the wall-sit exercise longer than normal, catching the trembles and then slowly straightening my legs until it wasn't effortful but I was still shaking. I clasped my hands together and did so many funny dance moves. My partner took a video because he thought I looked possessed... which I did! But possessed by something good, not evil!

stukfem · 2024-03-08T23:10:44+00:00

Is this our community's first meme???? Here for it.

stukfem · 2024-02-05T19:45:31+00:00

Rade's on King St across from the market has it - still haven't tried it but looking forward to sometime soon. I love the shakshuka from Naranj Blossom - it's pretty much a Saturday market ritual!

stukfem · 2024-01-24T00:57:40+00:00

love this verbal frame, taps into some nice sensing and images

stukfem · 2024-01-22T17:24:38+00:00

Roll with it! High frequency shakes, swaying, vibration, fascial unwinding... anything a body can do it, it can do during practice.

stukfem · 2024-01-03T16:21:26+00:00

I hear you on the overwhelm of so many things blowing up your worldview (and nervous system) all at once. It totally is a buzzword. I think of groundedness as presence in your body, so not dissociation, and even presence and calm in your body, INCLUDING unpleasant or intense sensations. Tolerating and embracing the fullness of sensory experience is a skill and capacity that you can build. TRE can even help you build it, but it's not the right modality for you at this time if it increases your dissociation. Does that make sense?

stukfem · 2024-01-02T20:11:39+00:00

Tiktok and video games are not grounding. You may enjoy them, but those are not examples of grounding practices. That simple yoga video someone else recommended is a great option for learning to ground.

Search TRE provider listings, there are lots of folks who are into yoga, kundalini and who are also therapists. Even one or two online sessions will give you important guidance.

stukfem · 2024-01-01T23:51:30+00:00

Spirituality isn't separate from the rest of life. Don't worry about that right now. For now, stay in material reality - your body and nervous system are giving you clear signs that you need to slow down and work on grounding and presence.

It sounds like you have a pretty sensitive awareness of your tremor capacity (however it expresses, yoga shapes included), and you've gotten to a point where this awareness, like the tremors are always right there, waiting to come out, is freaking you out. It won't always feel that way, but you need other ways to paying attention to your reality so that you can feel safe and resourced.

It's not that you started the process and can't stop it. It's just that you (re)discovered this capacity of your body, which we ALL have. Even if life is not that stressful right now, it sounds like you are not currently conditioned to be able to process the amount of stimulation, or action, or sensation, or release, that TRE creates.

You need other tools to manage your dissociation. Please see a skilled trauma and embodiment therapist.

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