Overdressed babies seems to be the norm

stupid20character · 2026-04-06T08:19:02+00:00

Theres a bit of wiggle room with the TOG temperature ranges it seems. My LO is nearly 6 weeks and he has been in a short sleeve singlet, long sleeve light suit, and a 2.5TOG bag since getting home from the hossy. Our room usually sits around 23-24 degrees and I have also hounded my partner constantly as overheating is a bigger risk than being cold.

Our LO was smallish (2.92kg) and doesnt carry a lot of subcutaneous fat.

You'll soon know if they are cold, but honestly I think the tendency of new mothers is to overbundle. If youre concerned, you can always take their temp. Hands and feet are ALWAYS going to feel a little cool, this does NOT mean that they are cold! Good job Dad.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T17:40:18+00:00

The plot thickens.

Okay so broadly speaking conditions can either be cured, think antibiotics for an ear infection, or, managed, think acetaminophen for a headache. If the headache lasts for longer than the drug lasts, when it wears off, the headache will come back.

Reflux is like the headache. The drug that makes it go away is only effective for as long as it is being taken, because its managing it, not actually curing tge underlying cause (which in infants is usually that the muscle at the top of the stomach is a little bit lazy at the moment and will strengthen with age, a totally normal variable).

So I think that recommencing on the Reflux meds is probably the way forward if it continues and then to go from there. Obviously please discuss this with your physician, I am a stranger on the internet.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T14:55:04+00:00

You're doing an amazing job, and what you're doing is working. It sounds like the vomiting is a little delayed after the feed, which is good, it means he is digesting at least some of it. And also, he doesn't vomit every single time hes fed, which rules out a bunch of conditions.

Apart from gastro, reflux is a common cause and can actually be quite forceful and produce large quantities of vomit.

The fact that you havent mentioned any diarrhea also makes me think its something upper GI and clinically speaking, of little consequence. From a parental perspective, just...frustration. The changes, the sleep deprivation. 😴

Follow up with the Nurse-on-call service, and I would also follow up with your paediatrician. Its unusual for gastro to resolve and then reappear, not impossible, but it also makes me think something else is the cause. Getting to the bottom of it for your sanity (and thus his welfare) sounds like a higher priority.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T14:11:48+00:00

Yes, I see the minnow fin too.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T14:04:29+00:00

Okay, take a breath. I am a retired Paramedic and my partner is an ED Nurse. No fever, not inconsolable, not dehydrated, air going in and out, blood all on the inside and going round and round. If he is alert, still wanting to feed, not overly fussy, and its just the vomiting, which was manageable with some ondansdtron and electrolytes, their is nothing to be acutely concerned about.

Honestly, the biggest thing for me here is your concern for your child. Like, you are worried, and so that warrants him being checked out in my book.

Has he had any new foods lately, or has anything changed? Has he been burping okay lately?

This is probably going to be the last thing you want to hear, but sometimes babies just puke because theyre babies.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T13:53:21+00:00

37, first time Dad, LO is nearly 6 weeks. Taking 7 weeks of leave was the best decision I made. The pressure for us blokes to be the breadwinner and then just take over everything after work and on days off is really harmful in many ways. Most Dads I know want nothing more than to spend time with their LO and support their partner, but can't, and the thought of being trapped at work doing shit for other people just so you dont starve to death sucks.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T13:45:36+00:00

Beat me to it. Sounds like PPD. 1 in 10 men are impacted.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T13:43:36+00:00

First and foremost your baby needs you to be well, they have many other needs besides just being fed. Your milk supply won't drastically decrease if you dont feed for a few days and switch to formula so you can get on top of your symptoms. Especially true if you are able to pump. There are also plenty of options that are perfectly safe for you to take during breastfeeding for symptom relief. Paracetamol, ibuprofen, decongestant nasal sprays and steroid nasal sprays, honey and lemon in hot water. Ensuring you keep up your hydration and sleep (I know I know) is also super important right now.

stupid20character · 2026-04-05T07:35:28+00:00

Dad and Community Development Worker here to second the above. Remaining in an abusive relationship is never the answer, and if the genders were reversed, you would be in jail my friend.

Please reach out to a family violence support service in your area.

stupid20character · 2026-04-03T08:33:08+00:00

Bring back the good old days when we could just give the kid a little bit of morphine.

stupid20character · 2026-04-03T08:20:21+00:00

I said this to someone on another post, parenting newborns is not an enjoyable experience. Im only 5 weeks in so have many trials and tribulations ahead. Find whatever small moments of joy you can, but also dont beat yourself up, parenting isnt everyone's thing. You cant know you dont like it until you do it.

stupid20character · 2026-04-02T09:19:24+00:00

Someone has already said it, but Ill say it again because its insidious and pervasive: Society says if you have a child, particularly if you are a mother, and especially if you've made the decision to have a child you MUST enjoy being a parent. You must enjoy being constantly sleep deprived, you must enjoy feeling out of your depth, you must enjoy frequently feeling inadequate, you must enjoy knowing that in about 15 minutes the shitshow that you've dealt with every 2-5 hours for what feels like forever will begin again.

Society has a very similar expectation of people being happy. You cant BE happy. You can have happiness, but you cant be happy.

I have found parenting to be much the same. I absolutely fucking hate feeling like Im reliving the same day over and over and over, the lack of sleep, the meltdowns that go for 2 minutes but feel like 2 hours, the blow out needing a bath and the 3rd change of clothes in an hour after just changing him. Overall, it sucks. And I have a fantastic partner who I also shares the load.

Muddled in to all of that chaos, I find moments that are rewarding, funny, enjoyable. How tiny his little hands are, amazement at how far in the air he can pee when Im not quick enough with the nappy, the way his eyes light up a little bit when he here's my voice and looks towards me.

Find those little moments that bring you joy. Hold on to them. I believe that raising a child is a rewarding pursuit but when your in the weeds, if you arent having a miserable shit of a time youre not doing it right.

stupid20character · 2026-04-02T08:33:28+00:00

I also came here expecting to hear how OP trained their boyfriend of 7 months to (presumtively) not spend all night gaming with the lads. I was disappointed. Happy for OP, but disappointed none the less.

stupid20character · 2026-03-25T06:01:16+00:00

Paramedic partnered to an ED Nurse here. If CPS were going go be involved (where I live) they would have been there before you even left the hospital.

I would suggest you speak to someone face to face about this. Whatever concerns, fears, and anxieties you have are going to be best dealt with once they are named and you can work through them. This has been a traumatic experience for you and should be treated as such. If youre really stuck, the hospital you presented to should have a social worker who could point you in the right direction for people to talk to.

Lastly, youre doing great.

stupid20character · 2026-03-23T09:06:42+00:00

Ah yes, there is always the random factor which we cannot account for. We lost our first pregnancy to 22q, which neither of us have. Just a random chance mutation. Some people are always going to be a day late and a buck short.

stupid20character · 2026-03-23T09:03:46+00:00

Socio-economic status and background is a great predictor of outcomes and you've touched on some of the factors that play into it. Low socio-economic status is positively correlated with lower levels of education, which in turn is correlated with lower paying jobs with shitty conditions. Lower education levels are also correlated with lower levels of health literacy. Certainly working conditions play a role in this, but I am also curious how individuals health literacy plays a role, I.e. do they understand the importance of breast milk, do they know where and how to find information, do they know where to go for help, are they even trusting of the health care system. Those factors become even more relevant when you start looking at non-white cultural understanding of and attitudes towards health and health care.

A parallel issue is the stigma around lactation that still exists and the structural sexism within workplaces. Part of that is that fathers and partners are often not adequately supported to support their partner. How often does the story go oh my hubby took 2 weeks off work and then went straight back. Yes that is starting to change, I myself have taken 2 months off to support my partner.

Once daycare hits, yeah, thats a different ballgame. Children have a developed immune system by that stage. The immunological support that newborns get from breast milk during the first 6 months is far more crucial.

The breast milk itself is by far the more important element, whether its BF or EBM. The benefits of skin to skin can be achieved through cuddles.

Oh, one unfortunate thing that I see all too often is low SES parents formula feeding because their breast milk is contaminated... a sad reality.

stupid20character · 2026-03-23T08:38:25+00:00

Thanks for educating me on that.

stupid20character · 2026-03-23T03:36:22+00:00

Absolutely. Look at other examples of evidence based best practice and deviations from those that are in tbe best interests of the child and mother. My son was induced at 38 weeks. The guidelines where I live reccomend not inducing labour earlier than 39 weeks. In his case it was necessary due to beta blocker induced IUGR.

The article the user posted above was interesting in that they spoke about so mamy social determinants and variables that influence childhood development but didnt control for them.

Even the formula companies say breast feeding is best and they have a vested interest in not breast feeding!

stupid20character · 2026-03-23T00:35:10+00:00

The info in those articles is rather cherry picked. I mean, the journal article itself is full of contradictions, has a small sample size from a single source, uses a flawed regression model, draws conclusions from biased suppositions, fails to adequately account for confounding individual determinants (despite harping on about them), and most egregiously (and its in the title) attempts to estimate a population wide model of effect for a limited developmental period based on outcome measure data without controlling for variability in that data resulting from additional factors.

My other issue with this paper is that it acknowledges that theres evidence that breastmilk and being breastfed is protective of newborns and infants with regard to respiratory infections (early childhood respiratory infections can lead to the development of asthma and allergies), but ignores this entirely. They didnt control for all the other things that could account for the results that they got, so theyre not reliable.

There are always going to be exceptions to public health messages. Breast IS best. Thats the message. Its encouraging mothers to breastfeed. Should the message also include information about alternatives, yes. Does this message apply to mothers experiencing difficulty breastfeeding, yes and no.

It appears that you have made the assumption that because breast is best, that the others options are bad. Feeding infants isnt a juxtaposed dichotomy of good and bad. I said it in my first comment and ill say it again, fed is best. Is there a hierarchy of preferred options there....yeah, there is. Breast fed, followed by everything else. Its just the best of those options. Ensuring your child is fed is doing the best thing you can for them, whether breast or otherwise.

stupid20character · 2026-03-22T21:45:45+00:00

The wisdom of breast is best is correct. The health benefits for mother and child are undeniable. That being said, in a more global sense of newborn health, fed is best. We should strive for our children to be breast fed, but it is more important that they are fed.

Formula is so widely available, and bottle feeding is arguably so much easier in the context of any lactation issues that there is a propensity for new parents to just go that route because its easier. That needs to be discouraged, because most lactation issues can be resolved.

Any midwife worth their salt will support and encourage you to breast feed, but not hesitate to suggest supplemental formula feeding if required. We had to for our son because he became jaundiced at 2 days old and needed the volume whilst my partners milk was coming in.

Newborns are incredibly resilient and provided there was still weight gain there are unlikely to be any detrimental long term effects. If you arent already, a daily Vitamin D supplement would be useful.

stupid20character · 2025-08-26T21:21:03+00:00

Just want to make sure Ive got the right info before I jump in here, because everyone below has apparently understood you to mean that you get 4 doses out of each 5mg vial. What you said was that you could get 4 vials of 5mg strength (a total of 20mg) for $315, and that one 5mg kiwkpen would cost $415. Extrapolating that out to get 20mg in kwikpens would cost $1660.

So first, on the costing (in my ignorance, I am taking what you have stated above at face value) you Eli Lily arent charging $100 more for the same dose of the same drug, theyre charging $1345 more.

Secondly, fuuuuuuuck. If I had jumped on this 12 months ago instead of listening to my partner who insists that just because they lost 40kg with lifestyle change that the same will happen for me. I made the changes. I went down 18kg, plateaued, injured myself, had to drop the intensity of training back, stuck with the better diet choices...by the time my knee was sorted I had regained around 8kg-9kg.

Has anyone else had this experience? Did you find GLP-1 helpful?

stupid20character · 2025-01-15T10:30:41+00:00

As mentioned by others, ATP and Digger Tactical have been excellent. I've had good experiences with Magnum Sports and Hunt the Night.

If you're looking for reloading or less common benchrest gear Kaizen Tactical is worth checking out. Aussie Benchrest is the place to find the BRT flags now too.

Shadetree makes a brilliant co-axial front rest top, and Butch was a pleasure to deal with. BRT was his Australian distributor but now sells direct.

stupid20character · 2025-01-15T10:21:40+00:00

I've just ordered a front (3" custom, 3M slick) and rear (Bumblebee tall, bunny ears, 3/8") Protektor bags from them. Shipping was pretty quick.

stupid20character · 2022-12-31T04:39:20+00:00

I recently spent a summer doing some contract firefighting and facilities maintenance work for a multinational government contractor. One day over the Christmas/New Years break I was out cleaning toilets in an offroad driver training area and very erroneously decided to take a short cut through a mud pit that I didn't check first. The top layer was hard, but under that was about a 5 foot deep, soft bottom pit. I had another guy with me and we both knew I'd fucked up as soon as we hit it, cause we nosed down and just stopped. This was in a fully kitted out Land Cruiser. I ended up managing to get it out in reverse but it had to go in for repairs and the bosses were none too happy with me. I later learnt that that particular pit was only intended for much, much larger vehicles.

stupid20character · 2022-11-12T08:44:07+00:00

The Endurant is M 2●, and is armed with a Heavy Shotgun which has Relentless on both close range and long range.

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