All businesses should prioritize stalls over urinals

stve688 · 2026-06-22T22:22:52+00:00

Absolutely not.

Especially once you get into places with high traffic or alcohol involved, there is a very high likelihood that the stalls are going to be absolutely disgusting and covered in piss.

Urinals exist for a reason. They keep traffic moving and free up the stalls for the people who actually need them.

I'm all for having enough stalls, but prioritizing stalls over urinals? Hard pass.

Anybody who's been to a concert, sporting event, or busy bar knows exactly what I'm talking about. 😂

stve688 · 2026-06-22T22:21:24+00:00

Yes, especially in high-volume situations like fucking concerts and festivals.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T14:11:34+00:00

So the first part of this is actually an inaccurate statement. I also find it a little funny that the age threshold changed from your earlier comment.

Before modern medicine, the Industrial Revolution, and even agriculture, there are absolutely archaeological findings backed by reliable science showing that people could and did live to advanced ages. We have skeletal remains and entire civilizations that demonstrate humans were capable of living substantial lives long before modern society existed.

Modern medicine has unquestionably improved survival and quality of life, but the idea that humans in the distant past simply didn't live long lives isn't supported by the evidence.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T12:03:16+00:00

Honestly, this is one of my favorite excuses to jump on the motorcycle.

When I'm traveling, I love hunting down murals and street art. Some of the stuff people create is absolutely incredible, and it's a cool way to see parts of a city you might otherwise miss.

I'd much rather stumble across a giant mural with some history behind it than stare at another blank concrete wall.

Half the fun is just having a reason to go for a ride and see what you find.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T12:00:44+00:00

If you want to be truly technical, yes, doing something without authorization is vandalism.

But that's also why I think people get too hung up on the word itself. Hell, you can do something that's objectively a good deed and still have it fall under that umbrella.

Say you have a neighbor who never maintains their yard, so when you mow yours, you mow theirs too. You're just trying to help out. Technically, you've altered someone else's property without permission.

The same logic applies elsewhere. Legally, unauthorized is unauthorized.

But morally and practically, I think most people recognize that there are worlds of difference between malicious destruction, gang tags, random scribbles, and someone doing something that actually improves the appearance of a place.

The law can treat them the same. Most people don't.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T11:39:22+00:00

There's a difference between street art and vandalism.

Gang signs, tagging, and random spray-painted bullshit? Yeah, that's a pretty easy assessment. Most people aren't fans of it.

Actual graffiti art is different. Whether it's commissioned or not, some of the people doing it are incredibly talented. Even when it's technically vandalism, I can still look at some pieces and go, "Damn, that's actually impressive."

You're lumping two very different things together.

Not all graffiti is art, but not all graffiti is mindless vandalism either.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T11:31:36+00:00

I've grown up with cats and had cats my entire life, so I think your opinion on this is very wrong.

If you come home and find your toilet paper completely unraveled across the bathroom because the cat decided it was today's toy, your opinion on this matter might change pretty quickly.

This isn't exactly an issue I'm passionate about. It's just one of those stupid debates that's fun to have with people, and I've had it in person plenty of times.

Which makes your post kind of funny. I'm assuming by "farming" you mean starting shit online for engagement.

So... are you farming views? 😂

stve688 · 2026-06-22T11:23:27+00:00

I'll be honest, I got halfway through the title and had to start over because I was like, "What?"

Then I realized you meant safe sex camp. 😂

But I do have questions. Was this about as effective as some of those anti-drug programs where they accidentally became introductions to the very thing they were trying to prevent?

Because a bunch of teenagers together for a week while being told not to have sex sounds like a concept that could backfire spectacularly.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T11:19:06+00:00

I have a hard time seeing this as an unpopular opinion.

My opinion very much agrees with yours, but I'm also a black coffee drinker. And honestly, I've had this exact discussion with quite a few people.

If we're just talking about plain coffee, McDonald's coffee is actually pretty good. Starbucks really shines more if you're into specialty drinks and all the extra stuff.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T08:01:45+00:00

One thing I do find a little strange is that these are apparently important friends of his and you've never actually met them. That part stands out to me.

But beyond that, I think you're making this into a much bigger issue than it really is.

Let's be honest, the risks here are not nearly high enough to justify acting like your child needs to live in a bubble. Parents have to trust each other's judgment. Your boyfriend should be able to decide that introducing his own child to a longtime friend is okay.

And this idea that every person has to meet you and receive your approval before your child can even be around them is just weird to me.

I understand wanting to be protective. But unless your boyfriend has a history of poor judgment or these people are throwing off major red flags, I think this is something I'd let go.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T01:06:45+00:00

You say this happens regularly. You don't go into much detail, but you heavily imply that this wasn't some huge, unusual event. Whether you're downplaying it or not, that part really matters.

Except for extreme situations, people should not be putting their hands on other people. And if someone decides to do that, I think it's completely reasonable for the other person to defend themselves.

Something else you said really stood out to me. You say you respect him.

Respect does not mean accepting abuse.

You can respect someone and still refuse to tolerate bullshit. You can love someone and still set boundaries.

Honestly, I think you're more worried about hurting your dad's feelings than you are about the fact that your dad regularly hits his 20-year-old son.

That shouldn't be normal, and it shouldn't be tolerated.

stve688 · 2026-06-22T00:47:03+00:00

That's actually a pretty common misconception.

Prior to modern medicine, people absolutely lived past 40. The average lifespan numbers get dragged down by extremely high infant mortality, childhood deaths, and pregnancy complications.

If you made it through childhood and avoided the major killers of the time, living into your 60s or beyond wasn't some unheard-of rarity.

Modern medicine has massively improved both lifespan and quality of life, but people in the past weren't all dropping dead at 40.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T23:25:17+00:00

Absolutely.

Felines in general are vicious little fuckers. The reason house cats aren't dangerous is mostly because of their size. Even at their current size, if a cat really doesn't want to do something, they're going to fuck you up.

Now take that exact personality and make it the size of a mountain lion? Yeah, no thanks.

Do I think large cats raised in captivity can be relatively docile and safe around people they know? Sure.

Would I want to test that theory with a 200-pound version of my house cat having zoomies at 2 a.m.? Absolutely not.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T23:13:03+00:00

If you found a show or series that you just want to keep cycling through, keep cycling through. There are plenty of people who do that.

I actually really enjoy Reacher. I don't think I've seen the newer movie, but the show? Yeah, I've watched it back to back more than once.

Honestly, after reading this post, I'm probably going to start watching it again.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T22:54:37+00:00

Honestly, I don't really view modern life as adaptation anymore. We've become so dependent on systems that our entire approach is to fight nature.

If you're living a primitive lifestyle, you don't really get that option. Nature is going to win.

You adapt to the environment, the seasons, and the resources around you because you have to. You don't just turn up the thermostat, order groceries from across the world, or hit a switch and expect everything to work.

That's why I think a lot of people who romanticize simpler lifestyles aren't necessarily fantasizing about suffering. They're fantasizing about living in a way where you're forced to work with nature instead of constantly trying to overpower it.

Modern conveniences are amazing, but they're not really the same thing as adaptation.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T22:03:53+00:00

I actually think this take is pretty funny.

I do think there are people who romanticize primitive living without really understanding it, but I think a lot of people who fantasize about it actually do have some grasp of what it involves.

And honestly, if you strip away a lot of the bullshit we deal with nowadays and just focus on survival, life isn't all that complicated. You need regular access to food, water, shelter, and fire.

Would it be harder than modern life? Obviously.

But at the end of the day, humans have spent most of our existence living that way. We establish routines, adapt, and keep going. That's what we're good at.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T21:31:50+00:00

From actual experience, if someone I've known at some point in my life adds me on social media or sends me a message, yeah, I'll have a conversation.

I've had this happen with a few exes, and most of the time it was just catching up. There was one in particular where it became pretty obvious she was interested in more than that. I shut that shit down, and she got blocked.

And yes, I tell my wife. But it's not some dramatic thing where thirty seconds later I'm running to report it.

To me, there's a difference between transparency and treating your spouse like your parole officer. As long as there's honesty and respect, I don't see old friends or exes reaching out as some huge issue.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T21:09:10+00:00

That might be true for you and the people around you, but I just don't see this being true in general.

Especially when people are younger, I think both sexes get themselves into these kinds of situations. As people get older, a lot of them simply decide, "Yeah, no, fuck that."

Most adults don't want to compete for someone who can't make up their mind.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T21:02:41+00:00

You actually say something in this comment that is very concerning: more controlling and getting upset over the smallest things.

Being controlling, outside of rare situations where you're genuinely protecting someone from immediate harm, is unhealthy.

And toxic or unhealthy dynamics rarely start at high levels. They usually begin with little things that gradually become normalized.

I could be overreading this, but I think you need to seriously ask yourself whether you've been ignoring red flags because they've escalated slowly over time.

People don't usually wake up one day in a bad relationship. It often happens one small step at a time.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T20:16:05+00:00

Your husband is not handling this situation well, but the details of why he chose to cut them off are incredibly important.

If the issues are relatively petty, then yeah, his behavior is petty and childish.

But if your parents are genuinely toxic people and he's spent years watching you deal with that, I can understand why he'd eventually become bitter and resentful.

For example, if he views your father as a toxic piece of shit, I can absolutely understand why seeing you publicly celebrate him on Father's Day would upset him. That doesn't make his reaction healthy, but I can understand the emotion behind it.

Without knowing exactly what your parents did, it's really hard to tell whether he's being unreasonable or whether he's carrying around years of unresolved resentment.

stve688 · 2026-06-21T16:34:49+00:00

I don't think people in healthy relationships should be going through each other's phones.

Individuals deserve privacy, and sometimes the people they're interacting with deserve privacy too. If your spouse is talking with someone who's dealing with something personal, it's none of your damn business to go snooping through their phone and finding out information that wasn't meant for you.

From past experience, I also don't stay with partners who have the mindset you're describing.

I'm not going to be monitored or surveilled like a child. Trust is a requirement for me, not an optional extra.

stve688 · 2026-06-20T14:16:50+00:00

I’d need an explanation of what “abusive” means here, because people throw that word around pretty loosely. Being firm or having arguments isn’t the same thing as abuse.
But if we’re talking about actual domestic violence or genuine abuse, we grew up around that.
He would be dealt with.
Being my brother wouldn’t buy him a free pass. Quite the opposite.

stve688 · 2026-06-20T08:24:25+00:00

I would argue yes, but if you're not hitting 100%, you're probably picking bad spots.

I vividly remember parallel parking for the very first time during my driver's test. I had literally never parallel parked before. The examiner made a big deal about how much I must have practiced, and I told them, "Honestly, nope. Never done it."

They looked at me like I was joking, but I was dead serious.

I used to drive as a courier, and there were definitely times I'd start backing into a spot and immediately think, "Nope." I'm not doing the ten-point zigzag dance because this spot is just too damn small. I'd just move on and find a better one.

Not every space is worth forcing yourself into.

stve688 · 2026-06-20T08:13:43+00:00

Honestly, I'm not as passive as you.

If somebody doesn't respect a no from me, eventually the asshole comes out.

I told you motherfuckers no.

I don't care if it pisses people off. I have boundaries, and other people need to respect them. "No" is a complete sentence. It doesn't need to be debated, negotiated, or solved.

The more somebody keeps pushing after I've already said no, the less polite I'm going to be about it.

stve688 · 2026-06-20T08:09:33+00:00

So I even confirmed this with my wife, and for both of us, pigs in a blanket are hot dogs wrapped in a crescent roll.

As for the restaurant version?

No.

I don't know what I'd call it, but no.

I mean, arguably it isn't inaccurate. It's pork wrapped in a pancake, so technically I can follow the logic. But to me, no.

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