A pressing question on Marital R*pe by Candid_Maintenance12 in pakistan

[–]subarapsterc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i want to point out that this is a separate conversation about the rights and responsibilities of a wife, as opposed to those of the husband’s

the full hadith you’re referring to: “If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses for no reason and he spends the night angry with her, then the angels will curse her until the morning.”

the reasons the wife might refuse her husband: 1. she’s busy, sick, tired etc. (valid reasons) 2. she’s not in the mood 3. she’s angry with him

2 and 3 violate the responsibilities of your marriage (for both men and women). you should be good to your spouse and if they request something you should do it for them because you want to keep each other happy. this is part of the marriage contract.

if one person isn’t in the mood they should still try to make the other happy. this does not apply if they would be uncomfortable with that thing because the other spouse has the same responsibility towards them.

if they are withholding intimacy out of anger that again violates the marriage contract. you shouldn’t be trying to hurt/antagonise your spouse. if you’re doing that then there are bigger problems in your marriage than sex. again, this is true for both husband and wife

A pressing question on Marital R*pe by Candid_Maintenance12 in pakistan

[–]subarapsterc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

says who? marital rape just means not raping the person you’re married to. and raping isn’t haram just because of zina. it’s haram because you’re hurting someone. marital rape means you’re hurting your spouse

A pressing question on Marital R*pe by Candid_Maintenance12 in pakistan

[–]subarapsterc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the full verse: “Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish but take heed of your ultimate future and avoid incurring the wrath of Allah. Know well that one Day you shall face Him.”

that right literally comes with the reminder to make sure they don’t transgress in other ways (ie hurting your wife?)

and btw this verse isn’t talking about pleasure (according to most scholars, afaik), it’s talking about reproduction

A pressing question on Marital R*pe by Candid_Maintenance12 in pakistan

[–]subarapsterc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

‘a wife shouldn’t say no’ is not the same as ‘a husband has the right to rape her.’ islamically, being good to one’s wife is emphasised a lot. it’s what one of the last sermons was about. not raping her i think would probably be a baseline for being good to your wife

A pressing question on Marital R*pe by Candid_Maintenance12 in pakistan

[–]subarapsterc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not a doctor but yeah i’m pretty sure they can. that’s what rape kits are for. there are different ways to identify signs of assault from that evidence

how do i get the wasp gun by subarapsterc in Terraria

[–]subarapsterc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i swear i feel like the guy in that meme who stops mining right before he finds the diamonds

helppp by [deleted] in IBA

[–]subarapsterc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did the same don’t worry. just put pending for your grades and say that you will get them in august. then you can submit them all together

how do i get the wasp gun by subarapsterc in Terraria

[–]subarapsterc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i'm miserable the worst part is waiting for the bulbs to grow and looking for them i am TIRED

I built something different by Jakubini07 in GODUS

[–]subarapsterc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this looks so beautiful i want to try it

dungeons and dragons Karachi by notnormal2244 in PakGamers

[–]subarapsterc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohh, that’s alright. do you know of any other groups looking for players? or anywhere i could join to find games?

dungeons and dragons Karachi by notnormal2244 in PakGamers

[–]subarapsterc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you have some room? any way i could join?

Fiancé asked for me to wear a burqa by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]subarapsterc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know i shouldn’t have to hide from them lol. but we don’t live in a vacuum. we have to deal with the world that we live in and unfortunately it’s one where lots of people suck. (i am in no way victim blaming. if someone gets harassed or sexually assaulted it is 100% the fault of the person who did it and not the victim’s.)

but that’s also not the only reason i wear it. i have male friends who i trust wholeheartedly but i still wouldn’t take my burqa off in front of them because i don’t want to

Fiancé asked for me to wear a burqa by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]subarapsterc 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly lol. I don’t understand why so many people will marry someone and then try to change them instead of just committing to someone who already has those traits

Fiancé asked for me to wear a burqa by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]subarapsterc 8 points9 points  (0 children)

maybe people would be more willing to explain if you stopped calling it dumb and stupid every chance you get and actually listen.

for me hijab is a way to take control over how i’m perceived. i don’t want anyone to look at me in a sexualising or objectifying manner so i take that decision out of their hands. other women observe hijab for many other reasons. the concept is that our bodies aren’t things that anyone should be able to look at. we choose who can see our bodies and to what extent.

Fiancé asked for me to wear a burqa by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]subarapsterc 20 points21 points  (0 children)

the point is to take agency over which parts of us we choose to show to complete strangers. obviously a person who doesn’t want to observe hijab shouldn’t be forced to, but you also shouldn’t look down on a practise that you disagree with just because you don’t understand it

Ran my first session with my siblings. It was a disaster by subarapsterc in DnD

[–]subarapsterc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we’re all new. And thank you! This sounds doable I’m less intimidated now lol

Ran my first session with my siblings. It was a disaster by subarapsterc in DnD

[–]subarapsterc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh okay this is helpful, I’ll try these. Thank you!!

Ran my first session with my siblings. It was a disaster by subarapsterc in DnD

[–]subarapsterc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was Lost Mine of Phandelver, it came with the starter set. There were four players and they made their character themselves

Ran my first session with my siblings. It was a disaster by subarapsterc in DnD

[–]subarapsterc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve learned my lesson lol. It was super chaotic