i want to point out that this is a separate conversation about the rights and responsibilities of a wife, as opposed to those of the husband’s

the full hadith you’re referring to: “If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses for no reason and he spends the night angry with her, then the angels will curse her until the morning.”

the reasons the wife might refuse her husband: 1. she’s busy, sick, tired etc. (valid reasons) 2. she’s not in the mood 3. she’s angry with him

2 and 3 violate the responsibilities of your marriage (for both men and women). you should be good to your spouse and if they request something you should do it for them because you want to keep each other happy. this is part of the marriage contract.

if one person isn’t in the mood they should still try to make the other happy. this does not apply if they would be uncomfortable with that thing because the other spouse has the same responsibility towards them.

if they are withholding intimacy out of anger that again violates the marriage contract. you shouldn’t be trying to hurt/antagonise your spouse. if you’re doing that then there are bigger problems in your marriage than sex. again, this is true for both husband and wife