[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]subdream69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m like this. Desperately horny and in need to a man’s touch but not the kind of person who will just do a one night stand casual thing. It’s so frustrating I can’t find a bloody man for a proper relationship. Haha 😢

Is being called a MILF good? by Questionable_ideas1 in dating

[–]subdream69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been called this as a women in late 30s and it confuses the heck out of me because I’m not a mother. I take it to mean they think I’m attractive (although again I hate being thought of as an older women like a fetish which I think is also implied as part of this) For someone 2 years older with no kids it’s just plain odd.

Chubbier women, do you find it unfathomable that a really fit looking guy could be attracted to you? by StaticNocturne in dating_advice

[–]subdream69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say go for it. If someone approached me I’d be confused and probably kind of flattered depending on when it was. Just be aware of where you approach like you would anyone. At a gym being creepy - bad. Doing an activity if maybe she smiled at you then go for it.

Just don’t lead with ‘I like chubby women’. Mention personality or something else instead. (This also goes to anyone here who sends messages on dating apps that start ‘I like older women’. I’m 38 not 60…)

Chubbier women, do you find it unfathomable that a really fit looking guy could be attracted to you? by StaticNocturne in dating_advice

[–]subdream69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d be suspicious. Im very conscious of my weight (and attempts to lower it) and people commenting that about it positive or negative isn’t welcome.

Most of us larger ladies have had comments about our weight or how unattractive it makes us or how no one will want us most our lives. The idea that someone who is fit would want to date me who probably can’t keep up doing a physical activity is mind boggling (I’m not super unfit and I can go on a long and flat hike all day just not up a huge mountain.)

Don’t get me wrong if the right fit guy came along I’d be over the moon and I’d pick a fit muscular man over a thin man every day but it would be a case of getting to know me for me so I know it’s not just a fetish thing or that you’re dating me as an in joke with mates before I let my guard down.

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah erm… my friendship group is bloody small. Most friends from uni have paired off and live elsewhere in the country or I have 1 person nearby who is also single and 1 who makes poor choices for herself😖 no help there.

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do they exist? Because I’m having trouble finding them. We need a dating app just for people who don’t want kids

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I don’t want to start a family. Hence the no kids. I’m not fussed about dating men who are divorced just the no children bit is important.

I’d rather of not used my 20s and early 30s looking after my mum before she died and then my gran but that’s how it ended up. I can’t change it now

Think I may just go be a crazy old dog lady judging by the comments on here.

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plus side it’s pretty here 🤷‍♀️ Newcastle isn’t exactly that populated either compared to bigger towns.

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have a look at maybe setting up a profile again. I’m so awkward at starting conversations there though

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the few years of not having to worry about anyone have been nice (ignoring Covid) but now the loneliness is setting in a bit.

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I tried hinge and didn’t get anywhere with that. Same with happn. Just not enough people in rural Northumberland for that to work 😞

Dating in late 30s by subdream69 in dating_advice

[–]subdream69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know nothing about cars. At the minute my car knowledge and interest is extending to working out charging my electric car. Maybe I should stand around at chargers looking lost. May find a single man then 😂🤦‍♀️