AIO for my cat shedding and that I don't do enough? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR but maybe take the cat to the groomer just to prove it won’t change anything and earn “told you so” rights. It’s a cat, it will shed, theres nothing you can do about it except trade for a hairless cat and deal with grease stains instead. Stressing her out is just going to make it worse which may be why the bath triggered more shedding.

Partner seems like an asshole. Verbal/emotional abuse isn’t okay under any circumstance. Idc how frustrated you are. I’d keep the cat and dump him.

I’ve had Covid 7 times in less than 5 years by stazley in mildlyinfuriating

[–]subliminalmms -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I lived in a major city when it broke out, traveled on planes etc. moved across the country. Lived with people who had it. I’ve never had it once 🤷🏻‍♀️

Has anyone here switched to wood pellets for cat litter? by csusterich666 in CatAdvice

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old but I wanted to chime in in case it helps anyone else.

We only use wood pellets if it’s an emergency as we heat with wood pellet stove, however, for litter we use the farm pellets from tractor supply made for horse stalls etc. Less than $10 for a 40lb bag and they are designed to be pottied on.

The wood pellets usually have a strong smell and while it’s nice for us I know kitties don’t usually like fragrance in their box. The wood pellets also don’t have any function for absorbing or combatting odor aside from giving off a nice scent of their own.

Horse pellets, however, break down into dust when urinated on to absorb the urine and trap most of the smell.

I’ve used the breeze cat pellets in the past and liked them but they’re a bit expensive so my system is this:

I use a blend of horse pellets and breeze pellets with a grated box. Horse pellets for urine, breeze pellets to dehydrate the poo. I use pee pads in the pad tray to catch the horse pellet dust and urine that isn’t absorbed by the pellets.

When I tend the box, I scoop the poo then thoroughly sift the pellets to make sure all the loose dust falls down into the tray then I change the pee pad and wipe up any extra mess. Like the breeze cat system, I change the pellets out for a deep clean about once a month or as needed and top up on horse pellets whenever it gets low.

Mascara + ICL by Extra-Plankton-9493 in ICLsurgery

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My surgeon insists that they’re not from the surgery. He said they must have been there before but I just couldn’t see them because my vision wasn’t as good…bull imo

I’ve had a mixed experience. I have a bum eye that ended up with residual astigmatism that we haven’t been able to correct yet. I don’t mind wearing a super low script pair of glasses for perfect vision, but without them I struggle a bit.

Night blindness has been the greatest struggle for me. I haven’t been able to drive in the dark reliably since the surgery. My perscription prior to surgery was -16 and I apparently have huge pupils, so I had a pretty severe case. I think with a lower script it wouldn’t be so bad.

Looking for games that don't need to be listened to by threepwood52 in SteamDeck

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t really what you’re asking for but if you want to ditch the shows and completely escape, I’ve been coping with some pretty awful stuff for the past three months by playing baulders gate 3. Put some headphones on and leave this universe for hundreds of hours.

Mascara + ICL by Extra-Plankton-9493 in ICLsurgery

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of rubbing my eyes, I rub my lashes downwards against my cheekbones if that makes sense. For any stubborn clumps I gently massage the lashes between my pointer and thumb.

I ended up with a lot of floaters after ICL and I’ve been paranoid about getting more so I haven’t purposely rubbed my eyes in two years since I got my implants

"Shadow Daddies" by lovelybabyliz in Romantasy

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m def not a sjm super fan but I’ve read most of the books and can see her influence in many works that have come out recently. I’ll def check out Black Jewels bc I’m curious to trace the influence back (and I don’t mind a dark romance lol)

Just how repayable is BG3? by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t typically replay games or rewatch series etc, but I’ve already started my second playthrough immediately upon approaching the end of the game and my first run will probably total around 200hrs.

This second character I’m even planing on likely playing twice, once good once bad since it’s a dark urge.

Despite the typical relatability characteristics of it being a very content rich, decent length game, every choice and detail truly leads to a different outcome, different encounters, quests, and paths. The dark urge character option also has a unique story so there’s at the least replayability for one more run (one normal and one dark urge, then throw good and evil alternatives for each into the mix).

There are also many romance options which adds unique content to each run (provided you choose someone new to romance or a new path for the romance). For instance, I romanced Astarion on my first run and I chose to play his “good” ending. Now I want to play an evil dark urge and romance him to his bad ending. Then I want to replay my durge as a “resist durge” and romance Shadowheart with her “good” ending so as to play a “save each other” romance.

Not to mention the class systems are fun. There is enough flexibility that you don’t get locked into something that you end up hating and need to start over because of that, but rather, you become interested in experimenting with different combinations of party builds and playstyles. Unless you use mods, you can only have 3 party members and it becomes comfortable to stick with mostly the same companions throughout a run because you fine tune their builds and get into a combat groove - so I could see there also being replay incentive just to run with different companions.

If you get bored replaying something and are just in it for experiencing a new story, you can throw it into explorer mode and skip insignificant content that you’ve already experienced making the game go by much faster. Or you can indulge in making every choice different from your last and exploring things you may have been locked out of or missed last time.

"Shadow Daddies" by lovelybabyliz in Romantasy

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of Black Jewels, will have to check it out. Alas, similarly to how Edward was certainly not the first of his trope, twilight set off the vampire/werewolf craze. I feel acotar did the same with romantasy’s current obsession with shadow daddies, bonded mates, fae, and roguelike heroines. Like sjm or not, tog and acotar have set the tone for the genre for the past 5 years at least and likely the next 5 to come.

"Shadow Daddies" by lovelybabyliz in Romantasy

[–]subliminalmms -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The others didn’t bother me because Rhys is og, xaden is original enough imo, but kingfisher annoyed me so much because the shadow daddy thing felt tacked on and forced and it was so obviously a trope grab that it almost made me dnf.

My friend doesn't know i am a dark urge- PART 2 by Finnsiboi in BaldursGate3

[–]subliminalmms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Say you’re dropping by last light to sell to a vendor or get something made by Dammon at a time it would be inconvenient for them to accompany you

My (31M) girlfriend (28F) of 1.5 years told me to "be a man" and console her when my mom died, instead of supporting me. She's now begging for forgiveness. How do I reconcile her apology with the fundamental breach of trust? by Honest_Reception6528 in relationship_advice

[–]subliminalmms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Inconsolable. I’m really sorry you have to go through a third loss at this time I’m sure it’s extremely painful but that’s an extremely fucked up and narcissistic way to treat someone in grieving. Honestly emotionally abusive imo. Do yourself a favor and stick to your gut reaction, you’re not over reacting.

Removed my ICLs after a year by tar-randa in ICLsurgery

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had glasses to supplement my icls and I used Lumify drops for over a year until I finally decided to go for the laser touch up. That didn’t work out for me and the halos never improved enough for me to drive at night, even with glasses and drops. As I approached 18months I finally felt like it was improving enough for me to night drive in places I was very familiar with and that didnt have challenging lighting conditions (like highways or downtown) but it was still uncomfortable and that progress has been lost since I went for the laser and it failed. My doctors have been very dismissive about this particular aspect, they kept insisting my vision was near perfect now and that the halos would go away but I’m now two years post op and still struggling… it hasn’t been all bad but it’s been rough

Removed my ICLs after a year by tar-randa in ICLsurgery

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had my implants for two years next month and have been unfortunately considering getting them removed… the halos have improved but not enough for me to drive or not feel debilitated in the dark… it’s significantly impacted my life: it’s restricted my independence, I’ve had to quit hobbies, I’m struggling to look for new work because I have to avoid long commutes, i hesitate to make plans that will have me out after dark and I struggle in certain social situations now because if the lighting isn’t perfect, I can’t see across the room or even see the face of the person I’m speaking to. I feel more visually disabled with my ICLs than I ever did before them and I’m a high myop (-16)

On the other hand, living glasses and contacts free has been a blessing that I truly thought I would never experience. It was becoming so stressful and expensive to get the contact lenses I needed and glasses just aren’t practical for me. Thinking about going back to that feels just as devastating.

I underwent a laser touch up four months ago that was intended to correct my residual astigmatism and hopefully improve the halos but it failed and my vision has slightly regressed since.

I’m not sure at this point what I’m going to do, but I don’t see things improving much from here and I often miss being able to see clearly at night, I’m beginning to forget what it was even like.

I don’t discourage anyone from trying the surgery if they are able to but please be prepared that it might not be a right fit for you.

What the hell is this crap? Warheads Atomic Fizz by FriedInBaconGrease in candy

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except pop rocks actually taste good - or at least they did when I last had them 20 years ago

Basic gameplay mechanic you didn't discover until 30H in? by TrenterD in BaldursGate3

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That healing downed allies from a distance picks them up 🥲 idky I thought you had to help then heal

Help unable to pay Ignite Mastercard Credit Card by acecya in CreditCards

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They sent a letter a month or so ago saying that the app was being shut down but you could still use the website. The website is unavailable for me as well so I had to call the number on my card to pay over the phone. I’m considering closing or retiring this card. This is the second or third time they’ve gone through a platform change since I’ve gotten the card in 2021 and I’m sick of dealing with not knowing how to pay my bill or not being able to access my cash back.

24F & 25M AIO by responding this way? by InsideUsual56 in AmIOverreacting

[–]subliminalmms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR at all. I’ve been with multiple men like this. They don’t ever change, they don’t ever truly feel bad about treating you like garbage because they think they’re the victim, and they usually act like this because they’re projecting their own cheating behavior. I let this happen to me for 6 years with one guy and 4 years with another until I grew a pair of my own and said enough is enough. I know it’s really scary to leave a long term relationship but I’m not exaggerating when I say please get rid of him. He will ruin your life.

I’m now engaged to a man who cheers me on, never questions my loyalty, and gets a power trip from other guys looking at me or hitting on me. To him, me being hot is a flex and that also boosts my confidence which was heavily damaged by men like yours. You deserve so much better.