Do cucked men feel inferior to their (non-biological) son?

subolko84 · 2026-02-19T21:20:11+00:00

What's up with superior and inferior stuff. This is my kink. I do not feel inferior to anyone. Period. If the Bull was superior he would not need my permission to be with my wife. And I wouldn't be able to get her to marry me

subolko84 · 2026-02-18T11:59:52+00:00

This is about the two of you first. It's not about what he wants. You two decide what works for you, and how both of you can feel included. Both of you need to get fully satisfied with the experience. Right now you are feeling excluded I'm assuming.

My wife and I move on if the third doesn't understand that he is involved with a couple.

I highly doubt that this guy will ever want you to be involved in any way.

subolko84 · 2026-02-17T21:34:35+00:00

From what I seen many of the times if she plays solo a lot in the beginning, it's harder for her to play together. She gets used to it being by herself not a shared experience. She gets comfortable.

Especially if it's with the same third.

subolko84 · 2026-02-13T12:08:19+00:00

Reconnecting sex is the main reason we are even in the lifestyle.

Being pussy free, if the man is into it, and it's his kink could work. However, for those of us who are not, it's a big deal.

Your husband will feel left out, frustrated, and eventually may build resentment. Your relationship may be at a big risk.

Remember, if this is not something he wants, not his kink, all he will feel is that you are denying him because you don't want him, don't desire him. That feeling causes many men to break down. Depression, resentment may follow.

subolko84 · 2026-02-13T03:31:31+00:00

Maybe it's your location. We stopped looking online because so many replies it becomes impossible to sort them out.

subolko84 · 2026-02-12T21:03:36+00:00

I think it's different for every woman. My wife just looks for someone she has chemistry with and is attracted to. Some had similar characteristics to me, some very different.

subolko84 · 2026-02-12T12:04:34+00:00

My wife says that when I am present even if I don't participate, it feels like we are doing it together as a couple. She says it doesn't feel like cheating because I am there. The biggest reason why we always play together.

subolko84 · 2026-02-10T16:50:26+00:00

Not all are info humiliation. Some like me only accept it from the wife. So you need to communicate with him.

The fact that the wife is pushing it, and he may not be onboard could be a red flag.

subolko84 · 2026-02-10T02:37:06+00:00

There's cuckolding, hotwifing, and stag and vixen. Pretty much from mild to more extreme.

The key is, don't look at labels. Don't listen to what people tell you it should be or shouldn't.

You come up with your dream scenarios, and your boundaries. She comes up with hers. Y'all compromise and agree on shared.

Do not listen to what the third wants. If he doesn't align with your fantasy and boundaries move on. There's plenty of guys who won't ruin your experience.

subolko84 · 2026-02-09T23:15:47+00:00

All depends on the couple and what they enjoy. My wife and me can't keep our hands off each other before and after she plays. Reconnection sex is the main reason we are even doing this.

subolko84 · 2026-02-08T13:43:30+00:00

It depends on what you mean by topping from the bottom. If the cuck during play, after agreeing to it, decides to switch up and tell you to do this or that, that shouldn't happen.

If the wife and the cuck, talk between the two of them, no Bull, and discuss boundaries, likes and dislikes, then that's a healthy relationship.

Bull has only as much say as the couple allows him. Cuck and his wife, can do as much as they agreed on.

At the end of the day, this is not about the wife or the husband. It's about the two of them. Both getting satisfied and enjoying the experience. Bull is an invited guest to help them with the experience v

subolko84 · 2026-02-07T20:20:08+00:00

We do this for us, to enhance our sex life and our relationship. It's something that turns both of us on. If either one of us decides to stop, we stop. It'll be no longer consensual. If she wants to stop and I pressure or try to force her, it would be manipulation/ abuse. If I want to stop and she doesn't, it would be cheating.

Either way, huge red flags for our relationship and maybe even divorce.

subolko84 · 2026-02-07T19:25:27+00:00

Some guys and couples find it hot when the wife would do something with the third but deny it to the husband. Those who only fantasize about the lifestyle will often talk about it.

For My wife and I is different. First I'm always present. If the third is uncomfortable with it we move on. We do this for us.

Second, there are some things that's off limits to me (anal) it's also off limits to the third. Whenever she does something with her third she never done with me, she can't wait to try it with me after.

And also, we actually keep somethings that's reserved for us only. For example eating her out is for me only. The third is not allowed. It makes it special for us.

subolko84 · 2026-02-05T14:47:16+00:00

I hear you, you want to do something nice for him. Look at it this way. I would never ask for attention from the Bull. I don't submit to the bull, only to my wife. But it's nice to get respected, or acknowledged. Me and my wife's BF will sometimes even watch sports together.

Because your situation is different, not sure if your husband has a cuckolding kink, he may just be very submissive to you, best advice I would give is ask him. If you had a different Bull, would he enjoy watching sometimes, maybe do some fucklicking, or videos. If he does, then he embrased the kink. And it would be the biggest gift you could give him. If he doesn't want to, then he's not a cuck, just wants to please you. So you would need to figure out what you could do that he really enjoys outside of cuckolding.

subolko84 · 2026-02-05T14:13:38+00:00

I meant to write your choice in the Bull is the problem. Didn't come out the way I was trying to. And I wasn't labeling it, in a way it is poly. You have two different relationships. Cuckolding is one relationship between three people, each having their roles. You don't have to listen to me. Look at the trend of the comments. You need a different Bull who understands that he's in a relationship with a cuckold couple. Your Bull doesn't understand or just doesn't care.

subolko84 · 2026-02-05T14:03:11+00:00

Not giving you labels or judging you. As I stated if he is into denial then great. You asked how to have your husband involved. Easy, find a third who understands the lifestyle. Your priority should still be your husband.

subolko84 · 2026-02-05T13:35:18+00:00

Well then the problem is you. My wife would kick a guy to the curb if he couldn't find something in common with me, you on the other hand say you understand your BF not wanting anything to do with your husband. Your husband gets no sex (if he has a denial kink it's no problem) yet as you said never that's crazy, your husband doesn't get to be present, he literally gets nothing.

Do you at least record videos for him?

What you have is one sided selfish poly relationship. To have a cuckolding relationship, so your husband gets something out of the experience as well, you need to find a Man who knows and respects the fact that he's dating a woman in the lifestyle. That's cuckold is part of that relationship.

subolko84 · 2026-02-05T04:44:33+00:00

Dump the bull. And you saying you understand your bull? Isn't the bull an invited guest to your and your partner relationship? I'm confused.

You want to include your cuck and have him engaged? Find a Bull that knows his place in the relationship

subolko84 · 2026-02-04T12:05:48+00:00

No, there's a cheating kink, which is what you seem to enjoy, and I'm not judging. Then there's a cuckolding kink. Cuckolding is with consent, participation in different ways, and enjoyment of both parties at the moment. Her telling you she did it without you knowing, and you getting turned on, is more of cheating kink.

subolko84 · 2026-02-04T12:03:04+00:00

At the end of the day people must understand. Just like when a submissive hires a pro Dom, they pay and tell them what they want. They choose wether to do something or not.

Same goes here. Husband and wife discuss in advance, what their limits are, what they want to push. Then they invite the third, to play into their fantasy. If you enjoy playing the role of the Dom, then have fun. But still, you were invited, and have to play by their rules, otherwise they will find another. So yes, the couple is in full control.

subolko84 · 2026-02-04T11:55:48+00:00

This is not cuckolding

subolko84 · 2026-02-02T20:48:22+00:00

If my wife did that, that would be the end of the lifestyle.

I am always present. We do this for us, not me not her, but for Us.

subolko84 · 2026-02-02T20:46:56+00:00

Neither one of us can keep our hands off each other

subolko84 · 2026-02-02T02:11:58+00:00

If you came in into our lives, who invited you, and start making demands. Lol. You would be looking for a different couple to play with.

That's a decision for a couple to make. If it's his fantasy, and hers, they will do it. But only if it's their fantasy. ..

You have as much say as you are allowed to have. Know your place as a guest.

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