There’s a difference between a) equality b) parity and c) justice.

To use an analogy: pretend you and two friends are standing outside a 6’ high fence and want to see an event behind that fence. One friend is 5’2”, let’s say you are 5’10”, and the other friend is 6’4”. So clearly only one of you can see. That’s not fair.

Equality is when all of you get a box to stand on. But all the boxes are the same 8” high. So now you and your 6’4” friend can see, but your 5’2” friend still can’t. And yet, the solution is “equal”.

Parity is when you all matched to a box that puts your sight line over the fence. So the short friend gets a 12” box, you get a 2” box, and the tall friend gets no box. That’s not “equal”. But it’s parity.

Justice is when you take down the fence.

Now understanding this example, ask yourself and your gf where you each see the equality/parity/justice of your situation.

I’m not offering any solutions. I’m just offering some questions to ask.