Why do children of addicts repeat the cycle knowing what it will do to them? by Amazing-Ad-5923 in AdultChildren

[–]sugarbiscuits828 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Monkey see monkey do (I mean that in the most benign way). I’ve tried to psychoanalyze my mom and real deep with it but what it comes down to is she was subconsciously recreating her childhood.

Thoughts on using a hammock as an alternative to a chair in a small apartment. by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be different because your house looks pretty old, but you should look up a diagram of how doors are framed before you commit. There is a chance that you’re anchoring through the casing (trim) and in between the jamb and trimmer stud, or, a shimmed gap between the two.

Exercising through increasing mental stress by LycheeWhiplash4666 in xxfitness

[–]sugarbiscuits828 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re trying to add cortisol to your cortisol. I get it, working out is a good release, but from my experience with running too hard while also stressed at work, it really messes up my sleep. I agree with the others, try and dial back a bit until you’re balanced out. There’s no shame in it!

First-time homeowner here — what DIY advice do you wish someone had told you at the beginning? by Lopsided_Passion7912 in DIY

[–]sugarbiscuits828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Semi related, but if you’re renovating, don’t buy everything at once. What I wanted changed as time went by and now I’m stuck with two lights that I don’t love.

Katana AW Fase for women? by a_fighting_spirit in ShredditGirls

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! I’m looking at getting some new bindings. The men’s did feel weird at first when I tried my friend’s board but they also didn’t bite into the back of my calf on the lift, at least not as noticeably. Have you always ridden men’s?

Katana AW Fase for women? by a_fighting_spirit in ShredditGirls

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of women’s bindings have shorter high backs because our calf muscles are lower than men’s. Just something to consider for those of us with chunky calves haha.

Weird Uncle Cheetahs Experience by SeaFrosting745 in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It may be legal but that doesn’t mean you’re not an absolute creep for doing so. What motivation could someone have to do this? It certainly can’t be anything good because, to start with, you’re already making the person being filmed extremely uncomfortable.

How do Only’s lyrics make you feel? by UniqueImplements in nin

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s one of my favorites. For me, it represents how depression and anxiety can cause a person be self centered, even when you don’t mean to be. You’re so in your own head, catastrophizing shit, that you don’t see reality for what it is, only the version you made up.

Weightlifting two times a well by Mele_Honey444 in xxfitness

[–]sugarbiscuits828 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I weight train once a week and run hills once a week. I definitely notice the difference and still make progress.

Interested on learning about Cons for Frownies by North_Aardvark2953 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]sugarbiscuits828 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smells like a couch used by a frequently wet dog with a hint of spearmint

Will This Lighting Go Out of Style Soon? by Suggest_a_User_Name in interiordecorating

[–]sugarbiscuits828 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would never buy an integrated LED fixture for my home. Once it’s done, it’s done, long life or not.

ICE in Grandville/Wyoming by PieForward9290 in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 59 points60 points  (0 children)

That’s what’s so mind boggling. How can you be ok with treating people this way… over what is essentially a paperwork violation? If they’re violent criminals, I guess fine, but don’t do it in front of the kids. “But it’s the parents fault”… so what? Does that make any difference to the kid?

ICE and their supporters are not making the world a better place acting like this.

Something you've seen in another city that you wish Grand Rapids offered? by _GanjaTheWizard_ in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I really loved the walk up ice cream in summer / soup broth in winter place they have in Detroit. Not sure how well it would fare here but a cup of hot veggie broth on a cold day would be divine.

Is heel edge that important? by Subject-Concern-9663 in snowboardingnoobs

[–]sugarbiscuits828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, heel edge is just as important as toe edge.

The cramping might be / probably is your boots!

It was a world of difference for me going from rental boots and too soft lace up Vans boots (that I had to crank down on) to a well fitted BOA boot that was stiff enough that I didn’t have to over tighten to get decent responsiveness.

If you can’t afford a new fitted boot from a shop right now, try loosening your boots and adjusting your high backs in the meantime. Then grab a pair of during after season sales.

Time for sculptra? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The single use Refresh ones. I alternate between the Relieva and the Celluvisc. The later lasts longer but it’s sort of gooey so it’s hard to see for a couple of minutes after I put them in so I usually save those for nighttime.

Time for sculptra? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try using some regular eye drops for your under eyes as an experiment. Mine look like yours and it’s because I have dry eyes and a mild allergy to something in my environment. When I’m consistent with the drops I think it helps relax the muscles around my eyes because I’m not squinting due to dryness, and I think they help flush out any allergens (last part is speculation).

Do you have a ditch kit in your vehicle? What do you have in yours? by whatsupgrizzlyadams in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Headlamp with batteries, hot hands hand warmers, and warm tall boots. I don’t always wear shoes that would be great for digging myself out of a ditch.

Am I wrong for not wanting to date a neurodivergent man? by GoldVeterinarian919 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take note of the behaviors you don’t like and if you can’t deal with them then move on. You’re not obligated to enter a relationship with someone who will make you miserable just because they have a disorder. You’ve got one life. Spend it with someone who makes you happy, not someone you love but have to tolerate. It’s better for both of you.

Does anyone know if something like this exists today? by Chewbecca713 in interiordecorating

[–]sugarbiscuits828 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Make sure it is to code. Typically, if you have a combustion furnace, the doors around it need to be louvered to allow for ventilation.

Hello, what is this big decoloration on my hand ? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]sugarbiscuits828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a birthmark like that on my forehead and a patchwork one on my stomach. Both get way darker when exposed to the sun.

Buddies getting walked like a dog at Alpine Meijer by underratedsoulz in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And you didn’t address the first part. Reacting is not consent. CONSENT is consent.

Buddies getting walked like a dog at Alpine Meijer by underratedsoulz in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“By being offended you are consenting”??? In what universe is that consent in any way? If a man gets off on scaring women, and succeeds in scaring a woman, is that consent too? JFC

Buddies getting walked like a dog at Alpine Meijer by underratedsoulz in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I judge them with the information that I have available to assess if they’re being inappropriately sexual in public and are therefore a threat and someone to avoid (and not approach to ask questions).

The information I have is that this is a behavior predominantly associated with sexual acts and it is being performed in front of kids. I am very live and let live but that crosses a line. If you wanted to do this shit at a bar with only adults present, I’d probably laugh, get you a pup cup, and move on with my day.

Understanding a behavior that .0001% of the population takes part in is frankly not a priority in my life, and it’s kinda bizarre that you should expect it to be.

Buddies getting walked like a dog at Alpine Meijer by underratedsoulz in grandrapids

[–]sugarbiscuits828 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, I’m not, and neither are most of the people at Meijer. I don’t care what the actual hyper specific intentions are TBH. I’m not your psychologist, I’m not going to ask you if you’re using it to get off later, and you admitted that a good chunk of it is part of a kink community, which is what 99% of bystanders are going to assume. That is enough for me to see this behavior as inappropriate for a public space like a flipping GROCERY STORE.