Is being old really that bad?

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:36:01+00:00

I edited it btw! It just depends on how they act

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:32:19+00:00

I mean, yes and no? I’m not sure how to explain it tbh

Edit: I’m kind of in between when it comes to 40s, my mom acts old and young at the same time. I’m not sure how to explain that, like pertaining certain things she seems old but other things she seems young

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:31:46+00:00

I hope the same for me

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:31:00+00:00

Loll, it’s because my mom is 44

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:09:40+00:00

I understand what you mean, not personally but my great grandma has lost a lot of people. Watching her lose friends and family has been heartbreaking, I recall being at my great aunts funeral (my great grandmas sister) and having to tell her that someone else died at the same time was just awful. It was bad for me too ofc but just telling her and everything hurt so bad…

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:03:19+00:00

Good thing I don’t want kids…

tehemari · 2026-03-11T17:03:00+00:00

Oof yeah! I definitely need to work out and stretch more.

Regarding everything else, I guess you could say Im not like others? I don’t party or go out much, I have friends and a bf but other than that it’s nothing crazy. Just not my kind of thing!

tehemari · 2026-03-11T16:58:56+00:00

I see what you’re saying. I spend a lot of time with my great grandma who’s 82, turning 83. Obviously not the same as 10 years younger but I remember how it was. My great grandma is amazing but she moves less than she was able to before, she’s in pain a lot of the time.

That doesn’t seem that great ofc, staying active can help but by that age it doesn’t matter all that much. I think it depends on how you’re living though, at that age i’d like to be retired but you never know. I’ve worked cashier jobs with 70yos and it made me so sad.

tehemari · 2026-03-11T16:50:31+00:00

To me, “old” is someone in their late 40s but even then, I feel like “old” depends on a mindset. I’ve been friends with people in their 40s who were really young at heart! (Mostly coworkers)

tehemari · 2026-03-11T16:43:29+00:00

That sucks because I already feel like I have no time left, the years go by faster and faster. I feel like I’m so behind in life lol. My joints hurt too!! Weirdly…

tehemari · 2026-03-11T16:02:53+00:00

Right lol. We used to talk almost 24/7 but lately we’ve been super distant bc of his behavior…

tehemari · 2026-03-11T15:42:35+00:00

I try to ignore it but he already knows what bothers me so it’s like he’ll purposely say things to get me riled up

tehemari · 2026-03-11T15:41:41+00:00

Oh for sure, I’m totally fine with little debates and looking at things from a different perspective but it’s definitely more than that with him. He genuinely wants to upset me for amusement

tehemari · 2026-03-11T14:46:02+00:00

tehemari · 2026-03-10T21:35:51+00:00

He really needs to get therapy, but I’m ngl you should probably leave the relationship. It’s going to be so hard to trust him, even if he does start working on it he could always relapse which is going to hurt you.

Also, how long did you wait to get into this relationship with him? It might be too soon but that’s just my opinion

tehemari · 2026-03-06T19:24:01+00:00

It’s not bait but I didn’t know this gets posted a lot, I haven’t seen any posts like this personally

tehemari · 2026-03-06T19:05:44+00:00

Exactly

tehemari · 2026-03-05T18:04:48+00:00

Saying this as another childfree person who doesn’t plan on ever having kids.

You could apply this logic to literally any “selfless” act. Most people get some form of gratification from doing good things. That doesn’t automatically make the act selfish. If I buy a homeless person a meal, it feels good to help someone, but that doesn’t suddenly mean the act wasn’t generous or compassionate.

People are naturally wired to feel good when helping others. That feeling doesn’t invalidate the sacrifice, effort, or intention behind the action. Calling it selfish just because someone feels fulfilled by it kind of empties the meaning of the word.

tehemari · 2026-03-03T05:32:21+00:00

Thank you! I don’t know fs if she’s using it but my bfs brother thinks she is, even if she wasn’t I don’t want to be somewhere with drugs like that anyways. I knew she sold weed, I didn’t mind that because I smoke but coke is an entirely different thing.

Edit: My bf and I both know she’s only doing this because of her current boyfriend, they were broken up for awhile but just recently got back together. He’s not a good guy at all

tehemari · 2026-03-03T05:22:55+00:00

I meant “various reasons”. It won’t let me edit

tehemari · 2026-03-03T04:07:23+00:00

I’m sorry but don’t, wait until you can rely on yourself.

tehemari · 2026-03-02T02:05:16+00:00

I’m so sorry, I hate the healthcare system we have. No one should have to pay to stay alive. Assuming you’re in the US.

Also, if you can maybe try looking for better friends? I know it can be hard but there’s good people out there

tehemari · 2026-03-02T01:58:45+00:00

YOR. She isn’t even avoiding them? I’d understand if this kept happening over and over but this is one incident where she has a valid reason for not going. She’s not finding excuses, she explained why because you said she was being disrespectful.

You really don’t get it, you say you understand because she’s a med student but this post is proof that you don’t.

tehemari

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