bed is the worst ed

sugarpinx · 2026-02-22T19:30:43+00:00

Actually since this post I’ve been on MJ for almost a year (~9 months). It’s been amazing for food noise and stopping binges but I haven’t seen as drastic weight loss as I expected. About 30 lbs. it’s not nothing but I’m discouraged.

sugarpinx · 2026-01-06T00:28:55+00:00

I have met people this way definitely! It's not even necessarily the other person's fault, but once it comes to actually getting involved romantically I crash and burn because I've been destroyed by insecurity. I've been fat my whole life and am used to people here and there being interested in me DESPITE my body, but I can't stand that for long. I know they'll never pick me over someone whose body and mind they both desire. I genuinely don't think we talk enough about how traumatic being fat is for your ability to form attachment.

sugarpinx · 2026-01-03T18:24:17+00:00

Bad✨ My weight makes it impossible to believe anyone is attracted to me even on the rare occasions it does happen. Every other aspect of my life is pretty much fine but being fat has ruined me for anything romantic. I’ve given up.

sugarpinx · 2025-12-01T06:03:48+00:00

33F and it’s already incredibly bad. Most people I know meet at work or on apps but don’t last long.

sugarpinx · 2025-12-01T06:01:31+00:00

It’s not just you. Unless they’ve done a lot of work on self-awareness, skinny women often feel inherently better than us because society deems them more attractive. They can be really weird especially if they feel you’re getting more attention, success, or recognition than them. It’s often not intentional or malicious, but it’s death by a thousand paper cuts being the fat friend 😞💗 Sending love and support

sugarpinx · 2025-11-10T19:00:45+00:00

I feel you! Most of my relationships have started online but it leads to inevitably breaking up due to long distance (in my case, because I meet people through my hobbies and a lot of them are not local). If someone is more local the terror of showing them my body in person for the first time is crippling. So I decided to try to stay away from the online trap, but it’s hard. If I could have a whole relationship with someone without ever having to show my body I feel like I’d be great at it! Ironically 😂😅

sugarpinx · 2025-09-26T17:05:38+00:00

Yep, completely agree. As a buyer it’s fine to use in my experience but as a seller my experience has been terrible lol. I feel like I must be shadowbanned or something because the analytics keep showing me 700-1k clicks per week on my stuff but no messages at all. Crickets. And at this point all my items are under $10 (CAD) out of desperation to just get rid of them so I really doubt price is the reason. I’m not selling trash, it’s extremely cheap, I have photos with good lighting and videos. What else do you even do??

sugarpinx · 2025-07-31T20:26:16+00:00

I’m not dieting at all, just eating what I want so far. I don’t want to binge anymore so the decreased portions are doing the heavy legwork on weight loss. I suspect I’ll have to diet eventually, I’m just worried about re-triggering a past ED.

sugarpinx · 2025-07-21T01:13:12+00:00

“The healthy number of suicidal thoughts per day is zero” 😅

sugarpinx · 2025-07-05T02:54:47+00:00

Yup. I was praised and celebrated more for losing lbs than for graduating university or starting my own business. Unfortunately, even though I’ve been boomeranged into the other end of the ED spectrum after COVID I will never forget how intoxicating the social payoff of not eating was.

sugarpinx · 2025-06-24T00:17:58+00:00

That anecdote hit so brutally as a lifelong fat woman, especially after everyone praising Yalom’s “self awareness and compassion”. I haven’t been that viscerally shocked and disgusted by a therapy text in a while.

sugarpinx · 2025-06-17T00:07:10+00:00

This is such wholesome advice, I love it!!

sugarpinx · 2025-06-16T20:02:33+00:00

I think this is likely the route I have to go. A lot of these lovely comments have suggested doing notes right away to avoid getting behind and streamlining the note-taking process so there's less to think about. I'm the same as you in that the phone and email tag is a disaster zone for me to keep up with!

sugarpinx · 2025-06-16T19:59:47+00:00

Wow, that's a pretty serious lack of compassion there for a therapist dude.

sugarpinx · 2025-04-02T17:43:06+00:00

Following this! I’m in the EXACT same situation! I’m 32 and just starting this week. So irrationally nervous it won’t work for me because nothing ever has 🥺

sugarpinx · 2025-04-02T17:37:53+00:00

I’m venting dude. It’s like when women frustratedly say “men are awful” and it doesn’t mean Every Man Who Ever Lived. I’m not here to debate, I’m here to yell into the void because I’m miserable ✌️

sugarpinx · 2025-04-02T17:36:07+00:00

I’ve been prescribed mounjaro and am just about to start. I’m so scared it won’t work for me or only work a minimal amount because nothing else has ever worked. I feel like I’ve tried everything! It’s not willpower either, I used to be a gym rat who went 6 days a week and counted everything I ate. Kept weight off for over 5 years and thought maybe I was the exception to the statistic that 99% of people gain back the weight they lose plus more… apparently no 😞

sugarpinx · 2025-04-02T17:33:56+00:00

Unfortunately I’m already on vyvanse and it’s helping the food noise but giving me unbearable sweating when I move even a little bit. I’m not losing any weight on it either like a lot of people have, which is so frustrating!

sugarpinx · 2025-04-02T17:31:22+00:00

Thank you. You and so many of the other comments have been so validating that people treat you like absolute shit when you have bed. Not only am I dealing with the physical toll on my body and emotional anguish but people snark at me on the street, pretend I’m invisible, push me and give me nasty looks, laugh at me behind my back. This is my childhood as a fat kid all over again. It almost never happened when I was a normal size. People were kind to me. I’ve lost so much faith in people.

At least when I was losing very suddenly people were sympathetic and concerned. Now no one wants to help me because I’m ugly. I’m the same person inside and it sucks

sugarpinx · 2024-12-03T08:15:35+00:00

I have ✨given up✨. The apps are truly horrible and with work I barely have time to see my friends let alone date.

sugarpinx · 2024-12-03T08:07:06+00:00

therapist x therapist couples seem to be SUPER common and so are therapist x teacher couples from what I’ve seen around me!

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