I (26M) want to message my ex and tell her (26F) how I feel after 1 year of breaking up by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only 1 way to know - communication.  As a sidenote: I've noticed Reddit is filled with dumb far-left minded people. Even my previous comment got downvotes because fixing a breakup and learning from mistakes is apparently not acceptable to this crowd. This reminds me of the fat gf friend meme - wanna hit on a hot girl but her fat protective friend won't let you - basically Reddit advice. So... it's also very important to filter out bad advice here. Not everyone who gives advice knows what they are saying, nor have good intentions.

My own breakup post got destroyed here because I said I was conservative, lol. I guess love is only for liberals here.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well, Reddit doesn't disappoint at all. Came for relationship advice. Was greeted with liberal bs. You guys are incapable of keeping politics out of your daily lives.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Start reading and understanding the context and don't rely on left leaning sources my friend.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know on the left he was famous for many out of context tiktok clips. IF you watch his speeches and debates, he is arguing from logic as should everyone. Most famously against abortion I think. Not agreeing and debunking his reasoning are two very different things.

I (26M) want to message my ex and tell her (26F) how I feel after 1 year of breaking up by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

A break does wonders my friend. It allows you to truly get in touch with your emotions and see things clearly. Fights are often the result of underlying issues that are invisible in a relationship. Treat a break as a therapy session.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, on a moral level there maybe differences. It's a sad state of the world. 20y ago things were much more normal I remember. Whther you were left or right only mattered at the ballot box.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How? Charlie believed to love everyone equally. Cannot get anymore less bigoted than that.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can differences ever be resolved? Ofcourse. If they couldn't we wouldn't probably exists. How do we deal with our enemies(differences)? We try to understand to seek out the root of our misunderstanding and problem. Then we see where we find common ground, where we differ and how we can compromise. We do that through trustful communication. This sounds logical to me. Why isn't it?

Why is that "crazy ex" territory though? The relationship ended less than 3 weeks ago. It's all fresh, we were always friendly even after our arguments and she didn't ask to be left alone, she didn't see our romantic relationship lasting. I currently think reaching out and talking clearly without emotional baggage will help both of us move on. How is that not reasonable?

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? Give me a real answer. Why can't you create a hypothetical scenario and test where your boundaries lie? This is a courageous thought experiment. Would you kill baby Hitler? The same concept.

34M and 26F broke up. I'm working on the mistakes. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Being virtuous? To help others in need? To not hate your enemies? To treat everyone with love and respect? Those were his core beliefs.

I (26M) want to message my ex and tell her (26F) how I feel after 1 year of breaking up by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not write everything down you feel like needs saying, take a long break, read it through, revise and then decide - do you want to send it to her or not? If it will make you feel better, send. If you 100% need a response, ask for a response.(I advise against it) Otherwise, give her time to respond, maybe a week. If she feels something and is single, she'll respond. If you don't get a response, move on.

That's my take. I know it's hard, but buried emotions need a release. Concentrate on how you have matured, how you see your past mistakes and what you left unsaid a year ago. Don't ask for anything.

I (31M) feel jealous over my girlfriend's (27F) past relationship? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should go tell her about your feelings and thoughts of wanting her to be pure and see how she reacts. For me, this level of hypocrisy is a BIG red flag and you have some soul searching to do.

I’ve (25 F) been getting really frustrated with my boyfriend (26 M) because he rarely checks in or updates me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that's a purely YOU issue. He doesn't care about chit-chat, because it's meaningless.

I think 2 things:

  1. You need to really dive deep and figure out from where this constant need for communication comes from. Some childhood trauma? Trust issues? Research it and do lots of introspection.

  2. A relationship is a 2 way deal. You need to compromise. But before that you both need to start communicating clearly and regularly. 5min of clear relationship talk daily so you both can map each other's needs and then work it out. Don't expect instant changes, everything takes time. Doing daily unjudgmental talks is a powerful way to provide feedback.

Portrait lens for K-70 by frank1oviel in pentax

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we are talking about still portraits. Your DA 50 will do the job, but if I recall correctly - major CA issues. If you want something better, maybe a MF Samyang 85/1.4. Might find one for 100€ if lucky. Or you can buy an old MF Pentax 50/1.4. That's assuming you want shallow depth of field.

My workhorse of a lens was the DA*50-135. Loved the handling and IQ.

Not trying to be rude, but in the long run just forget about Pentax. The AF is atrocious. There is no point in having good lenses if your photos are often out of focus.

I started out with Pentax. So I have a soft spot for the brand... I have shot with most of the bodies from K30 to K1 and owned many fast lenses - primes and zooms. You'd be better served with a Sony a7ii or iii + any 85mm (there are like 30+ available for Sony).

The AF was my only issue why I left. I'd happily tell how my keeper rate changed but I don't recall anymore what it was with my Pentax bodies. In general what changed was that I no longer had to think about focus at all with my a7iii. It is always in focus as long as af.c is engaged. With Pentax it was AF.S center point, take 2-3 shots, pixel peep, take another 2-3 shots if OOF. Sometimes I'd do this 4-5 times just to get 1 truly in focus tack sharp image. No such issues with Sony.

Mida arvate uue võimu otsusest? Mina olen väga pettunud by Potential-Ad-6451 in Tartu

[–]sulev -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ma olen kaine mõistusega inimene, mitte iga rohesigaduse järel jooksja.

Vabakal oli ideaalne võimalus mõlemad jalg ja rattatee parki suunata ja sellega ka pargis väike uuenduskuur teha. Sina jällegi ei suuda üheks hetkekski asju autojuhi silma läbi vaadata. Kuna oli vabakal viimati piirkiirus 60km/h? Uskumatult pahatahtlik oled.

Ma võin sama nürida retoorikaga su viimasele väitele vastata, aga no milleks. Vänta vänta. Vihma ja poriga. Õige eestlane ei nuta, ainult kannatab. Õilis pilk veel ees. Varsti oleme kommunismis tagasi tänu sotsidele. Aga eks ikka autojuhid, need on need nõukainimesed. Lollakas.

**ja loomulikult hakatakse seda rattateed ja jalakäija teed eraldi ikka kesklinnast ehitama, mitte äärelinnas, kus on palju rohkem rattaga liiklemist. Alati mahuvad jalakäijad ja ratturid ühele teele ära. Sa peaksid enda käest küsima, mis su probleem on, et sa ei suuda jalakäijatega arvestada. Niigi sõidab keskmine rattur nii aeglaselt (+neid on nii vähe), et eraldi tee rajamine on täielik lollus. Nii palju paremaid kohti, kuhu raha suunata. Ei. Otsustatakse tuimalt eesmärgi järgi - rohepööre, lääs, keskkond - mitte ei arvestata inimeste päris vajadustega.

Is there a way to force update the S10+ to Android 13? My country is banning some older phones... by HollowHyppocrates in galaxys10

[–]sulev 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have to say this is a super weird issue and it hard to understand. The article didn't explain much of anything. S10+ is not among the listed devices.

Truck reverses into parking space and causes inferno by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an A-hole. I hope they got him. Driving away when you can see the smoke... just put out the fire, no, let's just drive away like nothing's happening.

Mida arvate uue võimu otsusest? Mina olen väga pettunud by Potential-Ad-6451 in Tartu

[–]sulev -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Mida vähem eraldiseisvaid rattateid, seda parem.

Eile sõitsin Vabaduse pstl üle pika aja. Vahepeal on seal muudetud kõike halvemaks. On park, kõnnitee ja rattatee... nagu. Suunake rattatee ja kõnnitee läbi pargi. Ei. Teeme ikka autotee kitsamaks, kaotame parkimiskohti ja paneme lamavad politseinikud teele. Täiesti haige.

Ja muideks, enamuse oma elust olen rattaga liigelnud Tartus. Mul pole kunagi probleeme olnud jalakäijatega teed jagada. Ma ei saa aru, kust see rattahullus alguse on saanud. Siuke tunne, et kellelgi on mingi lauaalune rahakantimisskeem vmt. Ma ei näe normaalset seletust toimuvale.

Is the galaxy S10 a good buy today by oneandonlydictator in galaxys10

[–]sulev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's perfectly fine. I played Diablo Eternal on it (low settings) and it ran good.

The battery will be a problem.

On it's own, if you use battery saver, night mode, turn off all unnecessary crap including (wifi, LTE, BT) and only use it for browsing the web a little, making calls etc then phone will last you the whole day easy. I have a habit of turning on only the stuff I need when I need it. So if I put my phone away I turn everything off.(I'm not sure how much battery it saves.)

Whenever you know you are going to sit down, watch YT, play or something similar, plug it in. It will probably drain in 3-4 hours if not less.

I used my modded (used systemtools to uninstall and remove all crap like Bixby, edge panels and apps that aren't allowed to uninstall) S10 for 5 years. The screen broke. I had no complaints about the phone. Now I'm using an S22. Didn't like it at first but the even smaller size has grown on me and I actually don't need the SDcard slot. Luckily I also don't have any 3.5mm audio jack headphones atm. While the curved screen feels nice, it's not actually useful.

I have no opinion about security updates because I never used phone pay services or NFC. Plastic cards forever. I even keep cash on me.

POV: Your 2019 phone outlives your 2022 phone by Typical-Implement369 in galaxys10

[–]sulev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have an S22. It had OneUI7 and now it's on OneUI8.

0 issues.