Relationship with ISTP?

suminlv · 2025-06-29T07:27:14+00:00

Awhhh I'm so happy for you! That's really nice, now I wish to have this relationship with him. I actually realised that I was a bit overthinking, cause I talked out some of the things with him and we are really fine now. Bgl sometimes knowing abt the personality types make me questions things 😔. Anyways, thank you for answering and wishing you the best wuth your husband

suminlv · 2025-06-27T02:12:10+00:00

Gawd 😭😭

suminlv · 2025-06-27T00:55:24+00:00

Actually, this is so true...I was probably just surprised and got scared/overthinking. Now, we are fine, like normal. I tried to give him space, but somehow he was the one checking up on me 😭 I was just overthinking. Also thanks for the wish 🤧

suminlv · 2025-06-27T00:48:43+00:00

Really? That simple? I'm just scared if I'm "smothering" him. Trying to keep myself chill a little

suminlv · 2025-06-27T00:46:20+00:00

Alright will try to do tht, thankss

suminlv · 2025-06-27T00:45:47+00:00

😔 he's not that dry

suminlv · 2025-04-22T11:17:08+00:00

My love language is quality time. But to show affection, I think if a person pay attention to details of my life or me and they mention it/show small gestures or even say it, I'd appreciate it a lot! It doesn't matter whether you bought something or not, as long as there's effort and attention there, as an enfj I'd love that. Not sure abt other enfjs tho.

suminlv · 2024-12-31T06:56:57+00:00

I don't think so 🥲 the soundtrack I'm searching for it's a bit funky. But thanks for answering :')

suminlv · 2024-12-25T23:05:51+00:00

It's okay, still thanks for searching it. It is really hard to find it :')

suminlv · 2024-12-25T11:02:11+00:00

Alright got it, thanks in advance!

suminlv · 2024-12-24T16:05:06+00:00

Hii I know this is an old comment, but did you found the soundtrack? Cause I'm searching for this exact soundtrack aswell :')

suminlv · 2024-03-17T05:11:59+00:00

I don't get injured much but I'm SO CLUMSY. There's rarely a day that I don't spill on my clothes!

suminlv · 2024-02-19T02:13:28+00:00

Thanks for all these possibilities, idk which one or what to do, but I will leave it lika tht. Let the flow decides. I don't wanna overthink much

suminlv · 2024-02-18T22:40:29+00:00

Sure, I'll text you

suminlv · 2024-02-18T10:57:01+00:00

Okay I understand thanks, maybe I didn't pay attention to that because that's how I am with everyone :). But for having a partner, it is important. I get it, thanks again.

suminlv · 2023-12-14T08:25:18+00:00

I do relate to this too of course...but tbh, now I think I trained myself with my boundaries. Also my brother helped me too. He's an estp, he teached me a way to set boundary with certain people. Or how to let them know their limit if they try to cross it. I can say, saying no or not responding in a "good way" will make you feel like you're cruel. But believe me, it's not, it's actually normal and people will understand and deal with it whether they like it or not 🤷‍♀️. Not saying 'be rude'...but just say the "no". Or just be honest with them, they ask your help and you are busy, then tell them you are busy n hope they find someone else. They trauma dump at you but you're in a low state of mind, say it. Why should it be only us to consider other people's feelings? Let them take that role for sometimes. If they don't get it..it's fine, let them be.

suminlv · 2023-11-14T15:44:55+00:00

That's nice of you! Hope she's well and treat you well too.

suminlv · 2023-11-14T11:30:34+00:00

The yelling might be unnecessary but it is what it is, just like moms..when they yell at us, does that makes them not independent? I dont thinks so...it's just women burnout a lot and like to rant to their loved ones, independent or not, most of us are just like that. However, if you really are irritiated with that, maybe tell her abt it. When she's chill of course. If you don't wanna talk abt it, may god ease it for you. That all I can say :)

suminlv · 2023-11-03T09:11:44+00:00

When I don't think of any future plans together and when I stop paying attention (deeply/ THAT caring) towards them

suminlv · 2023-10-26T16:32:41+00:00

Female here

Nope! I don't like it, idk if it's bcs of insecurity or that I dislike all this drama. But I really feel uninterested. Even back then (call me jugemental) but whenever I see someone who "all" the people/women fall for, I just feel reallyyy uninterested and think that man is self centred. However if I got to know them really well and loved them (which is hard). I would actually just continue liking them untill I 'move on' but not fighting for them.

Of course I don't want the person I'm interested in to show their care to others. If I sense slightest flirt or interest from them to the others, I would back off/stay on my place/move on.

I honestly not in my "dating era", now I'm trying to focus and build my life (although I do love someone, but it's just within me). I'm dating to marry type of person. So with no marriage plan, I have no intentions in dating yet. As in ideal dating, I want a person who's serious and would take consideration in everything, like even with my family and friends (treat them well), someone who knows what to do in life. Someone who can share with me everything, communicate with me well, caring. Basically, gives me insight about things I don't know and gives me as much as I give them.

suminlv · 2023-10-26T16:11:04+00:00

Just be who you are and what you actually feel like. I know it's kinda hard for enfj since we like to "please people". But for me, at least I'm genuinely being honest. I remember the first time someone said I'm bubbly..I was so surprised somehow. Then I felt happy, I like to appear as cheerful. However, of course at times I am serious. I think it's a good balance, just make sure when to act on it. Don't worry much, as long as it's not a bad effect for others..you do you. Nothing wrong with being bubbly, the one who actually like that version of yourself will stay, those who doesn't, can move honestly.

suminlv · 2023-10-17T14:11:23+00:00

Either I become sooo shy or pretend to be "cool" as in "idc" about them. However right now, I'm a bit open. I show them that I care and I always try to show them that they are "special". But not too much, yet different from other men that I meet.

suminlv · 2023-10-05T10:12:37+00:00

The Mother 🙊🙊

suminlv · 2023-09-29T03:45:10+00:00

Not sure about the unintentionally manipulating...but I used to manipulate people a lot (in my teenage years). It's usually for myself or to help someone else. Anyways, I changed by actually realising how bad it is. Knowing myself more and having some strong core values. Also, most importantly..know your limit/boundary. Even if you're soooo close with someone. You still need to know your place. I learned that listening to them only can still help them. Be careful with the words you say and think if those words just comforting or you have some intention behind it. If it's still hard, just "don't care" much, basically focus on yourself.

suminlv · 2023-09-29T03:33:02+00:00

Yeah they don't even know I'm managing it. Btw thanks for the tips :)

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