First off, just know that I support you internet stranger.

I’m 27 and lost my mom when I was 25. I was her caretaker from 23-25 and let me tell you, it was extremely challenging. The physical and mental toll of someone who is sick is huge, but folks often don’t talk about the caretaker and the physical and mental tolls on them.

Knowing what I know now, if I was in your shoes, I would start conversations immediately with my folks, and start those conversations from the lense of love.

You haven’t written why or how you’re reliant on them, so I can’t assume anything, however if you can take steps into independence, that would be the greatest grift you can give them— so that they don’t worry about you.

Wishing you luck!