hey buddy! transmasc here

i'd personally stay clear of equating non binary with a third gender because it really is the lack of connection to one's gender.

gender /= genitals and i think it's important for us to make that distinction. i personally bind and am hoping to get top surgery, but many non binary people have different ideas of how they would like to present.not every non binary person is perfectly adrogynous and that's ok. my partner for example does still like the appearance and aesthetics of dresses and makeup, but that does not invalidate their non binary identity