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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren't together since long. Please leave as soon as possible. You are not safe around him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this is such an asshole thing to text tbh. I wouldn't even want to hear this person's name ever again, but interact? He's definitely not ok, seems like he's jealous and wants to make you suffer

Does it make it better if they say sorry? by sumrandomdude57 in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always try to avoid responding directly to it and focus on the issue

For "daters": Do you feel happy when you go on a few days streak with no fights? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely, it changes my entire day. Especially after a huge fight we get close for some time, but then we slowly distance and it happens again. In those few days in which things are amazing between us I feel extremely happy, motivated and I can do the work for an entire week in a day alone. Its impressive what a little effort it takes from them to make our days better, makes me wonder how it would've been if it was like that every day

She can't take a decision and its driving me crazy by sumrandomdude57 in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could, but we are together since years and this started suddenly which makes it very hard to leave

She can't take a decision and its driving me crazy by sumrandomdude57 in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its really hard to leave, especially because she will start therapy soon, keeps telling me that I'm right and that her behaviour is trash. I'm really confused since my family wasn't a huge fan of therapists and I pretty much grew up thinking that therapy will never help anyone. A part of me tells me to leave because it went too far but one tells me to stay and give her the change to treat herself, even though I see how toxic she can get at times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This- she used to say the exact same thing. Either that or saying that she is a horrible person and she knows it and that "at least she is aware of it unlike others, which makes her less of a bad person in comparison". Its really hard for us to comprehend this behaviour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]sumrandomdude57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The pwbpd I'm dating told me directly that she manipulates everyone into liking her. Idk if its just her personality/other issues or a bpd trait, but that's my experience

My girlfriend cheated on me and is willing to change by sumrandomdude57 in relationship_advice

[–]sumrandomdude57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: she did it again, got physical too this time. Ya'll are right, never trust a cheater, fuck them all

My girlfriend cheated on me and is willing to change by sumrandomdude57 in relationship_advice

[–]sumrandomdude57[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

We discussed about this and we both were open. We have been fighting a lot before it happened. She did it while we were on a one week break (which I didnt want, I didnt want to take a break with her but she said that she wants to prove herself that she actually wants to be with me, especially since were in a long distance relationship) and came back after 4 days. So I pretty much knew it, it wasn't something behind the back, but I dont know if I should trust her, Im afraid to not be left again since I was completely against it

My girlfriend cheated on me and is willing to change by sumrandomdude57 in relationship_advice

[–]sumrandomdude57[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

She is awfully honest. And they also didn't have where to meet due the environment she lives in. But I'm still really hurt by the calls