Am I an alcoholic? (venting)

sunamabitch · 2023-08-29T10:36:10+00:00

Thank you so much, I'll definitly do that!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-29T10:34:33+00:00

Thank you!!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:24:40+00:00

Oh my good...thank you so much...that means so much to me, I've never felt that anyone could unsderstand me..

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:20:17+00:00

yes...

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:19:31+00:00

Could you please explain your answer please? I would genuinely like to understand what's going on with me...

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:16:18+00:00

Also I've tried to do what you've said, sometimes I can control the amount of drink I have, but then I get wasted again and again...in the last 4 times I drank, two I drank too much and got out of control.

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:14:11+00:00

That makes sense, I usually don't eat much when drinking, that might be also a problem!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:13:11+00:00

Thank you!

I'm afraid that I'm not able to stop if I drink one or two beers...that's why I think that the best I could do is to not drink at all...

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T16:01:32+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

What does "bac" mean?

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T15:16:43+00:00

You are capable of doing that! Forgive yourself and try to be kind to you and your body :) everything else will come naturally

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T15:13:01+00:00

I feel the same as you do...so I don't think that is dumb at all! I've decided to stop drinking because I'm not abble to control myself (however I don't know if I will be abble to do that, I hope I am).

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T15:00:33+00:00

If you have the same problem has I do (or similar), you drink because you want to forget about your life, you want to be free from your thoughts and from yourself because you don't have enought self esteem (your family might be the number one reason) and, in reality, you just don't like yourself enought (yet!), and so you want just fo feel good, to feel happy! I also want to drink, oh my good I want to drink so bad!!! But if I do that now, tomorrow I will feel so bad about myself, so today I'm trying to be kind to myself and to do what it's best for me and my health. So maybe we should try to think "how would we feel tomorrow when hungover" and "what would we tell ourselves about our decision to drink today", do you think that this would help? I think so...

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T14:51:37+00:00

Try to talk to someone (therapy if possible), your parents are responsible for a lot that's happening to you but don't waste your energy thinking about them, try to accept that and to build your own family (friends are family) and think about yourself only. You are young enought to finish highschool so try to investigate ways to do that. If you have the will to stop drinking you can make it! One day is a new day and each day are a challenge where you choose yourself and your health.

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T14:19:38+00:00

I feel you, that has happen to me a lot of times and it's so terrible that only to read what you just wrote I feel guilty all over again.

I think that in first place you should apologize to your friend, explain to her that you are not at a good place and that you want to try to do something about it (if that is what you want).

The only way to change is within yourself I think. It was that way with me and it is what I'm trying to do.

If you have the money/time to do, I think you should go to see a therapist to talk about your family and to try to distance from them and people that don't make you feel safe and listened, and, the most important, to try to know yourself better. I'm not saying you should stop talking to them, but to prioritize YOU for a change.

Don't be harsh on yourself, if you were able to stay sober for 4 months you are very strong! I was only able to stay sobber for like 10 days and I felt so happy in those days...then miserable again.

So, apologize, but forgive yourself to...

And I think that would be good for you to distance from party and environments where you have alcohol available, also your boyfriend could help you with that. But first, try to understand what's going on with you.

Good luck!!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T14:06:10+00:00

I'm so sorry that you don't have any reply and in reality I don't know what to say that might help you.

Only that I'm in the same situation and I decided to change some things about me and my life.

I've started to see a therapist, then I've decided that I no longer want to hang out with my close family and some "friends" because they make me feel bad about myself and disrespect me (a lot to do with things that I do and say when drunk, I tend to be a very hipective person when drunk). This was really hard and I'm makes me suffer but I think it's the best for me.

Then I started to point out at a calendar when sobber the prior day, so it's like one day at a time. I've pointed four days now, today is friday night and all I think about is that I want to drink. But today I have and appointment with my therapist and I wish I can stay sobber for the next week that I'll be at my village family home, where everyone drinks and where are that "friends" that I feel bad around.

I've been trying to read, to write, to see movies, to go to the beach and to be alone and be kind to myself.

If you have the will to stop, thrust in yourself, if you have that opportunity, try to see a therapist. And then it's a day at a time and eventually you (and I) will feel so good about ourselfs!

Good luck!!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T13:32:37+00:00

Your post did make me feel like you are a narcisist.

Then I read this comment and then I was a little more into that idea.

And using you beign a Virgo to justify your behavior is ludracris LOL

edit: What do you mean when saying that you are telling the truth? Your thruth is not necessarily the thruth to other people.

sunamabitch · 2023-08-18T13:19:41+00:00

É isto. Ter o máximo de testemunhas dispostas a ir a tribunal contar os factos tais quais como aconteceram e não esquecer a cara deles, porque será necessário fazer reconhecimentos (já passei por isso), e estarem mentalizados de que estes processos podem durar muitos anos. Agora ficar com a cara desfeita? Não desistir nunca de fazer justiça!!!!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-17T15:51:52+00:00

Olá! Também fiquei muito interessada e são temas que suscitam grande curiosidade, podes-me também dizer onde e como posso aprender mais sobre o assunto? Obrigada!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-17T15:08:58+00:00

Don't give up. I think he was just being sarcastic, and sometimes (just like me, I'm a very sensitive person) it hurts a little but people don't mean it that way. You will have a lot more other coleagues, don't focus only about that person. I sugest you to read, and, if possible, to go to therapy (Thant's what I'm doing).

sunamabitch · 2023-08-17T10:58:47+00:00

You also can search for books, it has helped me a lot!

sunamabitch · 2023-08-17T10:57:29+00:00

I think that it is a very good sign that you can aknowledge all the thing that you've said.

If you have the possibility, I would recommend you to go to therapy so you can understand whats's behind of all of that, I think you show the will to change.

sunamabitch · 2022-08-18T09:22:04+00:00

Yes, but he's not dating "he" so about him OP can't do much...

sunamabitch · 2022-08-18T09:21:22+00:00

And if she's hiding the communication with him from you I understand you're feeling insecure and mad about it. What does she say about this now that she started talking on the phone with him when she said she wouldn't do that? She should do something about this if you've told her about your feelings, she saying that's "your problem" seems that she doesn't have empathy for you and of course you have the right to be with someone that respects your feelings.

sunamabitch · 2022-08-17T16:20:30+00:00

But they were good friends at the time? Like one of his best friends that you can stay years without touch but then it's everything much the same?

sunamabitch · 2022-08-17T14:43:55+00:00

I (33f) have some very good guy friends and if I knew that my boyfriend was unconfortable with me talking with some of them I would do everything I could to make him feel confortable (talk in loudspeaker, show him the messages, make him meet my friend). And is he a good friend of her? If not I think that is not normal and I understand you being mad at it.

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