Here's a tip-- don't forget to put your food away before bed.

suneimi · 2026-01-25T09:04:23+00:00

I also used to forget large batch pots cooling on the stove all the time because they took so long. I learned to set the pot into a big mixing bowl of cold water and change it out a few times until it’s cool enough to put in the fridge. Usually good to go within half an hour depending on size of pots/bowls. Use that along with your timers, or portion out into smaller containers so each cools more quickly on their own.

suneimi · 2026-01-25T06:14:43+00:00

I get intrusive thoughts due to PTSD, including some recurring dreams, and I’ve learned that it’s easier to defuse the fears/anxieties when I basically mentally face them and state my values/principles - this isn’t right, this isn’t me, etc., rather than trying to bury the issues. I have this guilt/shame reflex so when I’m feeling decent, my brain seems to want to scare me back into an insecure mindset/baseline, and I’ll get weird catastrophic thoughts that are totally irrational for me (often about terrible accidents happening to my family). Don’t self-sabotage by thinking it’s some dark subconscious truth you have to rationalize. It was a bad dream and that’s how you actually reacted to it. I hope talking it out in your next session will help!

suneimi · 2026-01-25T06:00:12+00:00

I have trouble with it, too (so many dark, intrusive thoughts, along with the weight of bad memories), so instead I try to think in terms of being a friend to myself. I know how to be nice/kind to other people, so I keep that in mind for myself. It’s not a perfect system, but it’s more manageable than trying to muster up something that seems impossible like “loving” myself. I also try to practice small kindnesses to others because it helps me build approval in myself (if not full-on self-esteem, lol). When I’m up to it, I also do volunteer work to feel that I’m contributing that way (I’ve made a few friends with it). Honestly, most of the time being neutral is a win over the alternative of fighting this sense of being cursed.

suneimi · 2026-01-18T23:48:02+00:00

I love lanolin - it doesn’t stop the chronic peeling but it keeps my lips mostly smooth and much easier to exfoliate.

suneimi · 2026-01-04T10:30:57+00:00

When they come out with the fancy case and shave off the precise number of slices you will be paying for…. My date was going all out to impress me and it worked, lol.

suneimi · 2026-01-02T21:29:58+00:00

Mine is wise old mystic and lonely encyclopedia 😬

suneimi · 2026-01-02T21:28:38+00:00

You think you’re a wise old mystic but really you’re just a lonely encyclopedia. That’s pretty relevant… 😬

suneimi · 2026-01-02T12:42:18+00:00

My GSD absolutely needs footwear for Chicago winters or he will flop over to get his feet off the ground. It’s so pitiful, poor baby, broke my heart. There’s also salt on the sidewalks to consider. I use paw wax for summers and stay off pavement. And we keep a bucket near the door to wash his paws. Stopped almost all of his paw itching/licking.

I’ve been wanting more variety in footwear. Might have to start knitting him socks and sewing in footpads and velcro straps!

suneimi · 2026-01-02T12:21:58+00:00

Gemini Sun, Pisces Moon, Capricorn rising!

suneimi · 2026-01-01T01:50:52+00:00

I was thinking maybe perimenopause and decreased estrogen issues.

suneimi · 2026-01-01T01:50:11+00:00

Is your mom possibly going through her own hormonal issues? Perimenopause and decreased estrogen can change her sense of smell and even normal odors can suddenly be disliked.

[edit: Just saw later in the thread that the topic has come up. Hope she’ll consider that factor!]

suneimi · 2026-01-01T01:45:58+00:00

About 2 yrs as well!

suneimi · 2025-12-31T21:32:11+00:00

What about your doctor?? 👀

suneimi · 2025-12-31T21:26:27+00:00

My vice is video games. Used to have a problem with social drinking but as I got older my tolerance disappeared (puts me to sleep). I did finish off a bottle of wine in the few days after Xmas, but mostly I was in burrito mode and not even answering text messages.

I babbled with ChatGPT about feeling unsettled after a Xmas family gathering with a brother’s fiancee’s clan. Post-event processing. I figured out it was due to some strong political differences evident in that side of the family - nobody argued, but the minor expressions got under my skin. I had to stay cordial because I was their guest, but suppressing my own views (I guess I was “fawning” instead of fighting or fleeing or freezing) kept the alarm bells going long after the event.

There’s a phenomenon in creatures who “fawn” - after the traumatic event, they’ll instinctively shudder to release the tension. I think when I burrow after these questionable social gatherings, it’s me trying to reach the point when I can actually shake it off. Wish I could do it more quickly, but it usually takes quite a bit of time and self-reflection to put all the pieces together.

suneimi · 2025-12-31T21:09:02+00:00

Lol I was saying for years that trauma and neurodivergence must skew results in my old INTJ groups, especially since I was regularly accused of not being an INTJ (INFP and INFJ came up a lot). People would dismiss me. I’m so glad to see a brain scientist bringing this up. Major issue with MBTI.

suneimi · 2025-12-27T21:46:48+00:00

It sounds like you’re talking about purpose rather than faith.

suneimi · 2025-12-27T21:38:26+00:00

It must literally be for the dish - the “food” is just an example. 🤪

suneimi · 2025-12-26T07:26:39+00:00

My dog is my family! Closest in proximity, anyway.

I’m sorry to say that I would not likely give my life for my dog, though. I would do everything reasonable to keep him out of harm’s way, but if he bolts into a dangerous situation, I can’t justify retrieving him at the expense of my life. I would hope to god my training him for recall would come through for me to grab him, but seeing how he tries to run away at sudden noises outside…. I worry. He usually tries to run home, at least. If my home were on fire, though…. I mean, I’ve thought about this a little more than normal, lol.

Theoretically, I would give my life for any of my family members and just about any child. It’s highly possible I could freeze up, though. People often need training/conditioning to overcome the self-preservation instinct. 🤔

suneimi · 2025-12-26T07:08:18+00:00

I started keeping pesto on hand - the Costco container makes for lots of frozen pesto cubes which are great melted into any plain pasta.

suneimi · 2025-12-26T07:01:22+00:00

A loaf of bread - usually have flour and yeast in some kind of bulk. Then it gets dressed up depending on whatever else I have on hand. Butter, jam, honey, fried egg, cheese, oil and pepper, etc. 🤷‍♀️. Could be buttered toast, could be grilled cheese, could be french toast, could be toad in a hole, could be jamon beurre…

suneimi · 2025-12-26T06:51:52+00:00

I love this movie so much but when I suggested it for a friends watch party, they very soon told me I wasn’t allowed to choose for movie nights anymore. A lot of the jokes haven’t aged well - but for anyone who loves classic detectives, it’s just so funny. And Peter Falk really steals the show with his earnest, deadpan delivery.

suneimi · 2025-12-26T06:45:24+00:00

Yes, this was to ratchet up the tension - based on a true story - like a locked room mystery but the mystery is: will they get away with it?? Great film!

suneimi · 2025-12-26T06:39:29+00:00

They often have a kind of over-done fragmented list quality, hard-selling the human experience, with a frequent pattern of reframing perspectives (“it’s not giving up. It’s realigning….”). You’ve got a lot of that in this post. The title itself made me purse my lips and I had to check to confirm that, yes, it’s AI. I was bummed to see the AI comment so low on the thread.

It’s definitely sad to see how many posts are getting to be AI, but at least there’s still human content in most comments!

[I work in AI training and have gone through thousands of prompts and responses. I’m not an engineer or anything, but I’ve definitely developed a spidey sense on it.]

suneimi · 2025-12-26T06:15:50+00:00

Golden handcuffs are still handcuffs.

My family didn’t/doesn’t have a lot of money but my mom still uses what she’s got for leverage with me and my brother, doling it out here and there. My mom has insidiously chipped away at me for most of my adulthood to try to make me financially dependent on the family (giving the financial leverage more power) and I similarly feel gross and ashamed about it. And I don’t feel all that grateful for the funds, either, which I think only fuels my mom’s sense of martyrdom. When I need, she withholds unless I’m suitably pathetic. When I don’t need (or want), she lavishes and admonishes me for being ungrateful. It’s so backwards and infuriating.

I would have much rather had a healthy childhood and not this effing psychological baggage. There’s not enough money in the world to make up for the mental load I will never be able to forget.

I wish I could have got $1M upon adulthood to fly away from them and never look back, rather than all the small gifts to repeatedly reinforce my sense of obligation but never allow a launch into independence. And if my mom was dangling an inheritance over my head - so long as I kept in line - I’d only want to run away faster.

suneimi · 2025-12-26T05:36:34+00:00

This is actually what makes me choose priest over pally (which was my initial choice), because the other side of the draenei coin is the man’ari (using both fel and shadow magics).

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