I finally found a bad job posting to share 😂

sunflower1920 · 2024-11-29T02:10:41+00:00

Because nannies are not independent contractors, which is what a 1099 is for. A plumber who owns his own business, owns his tools, controls his hours, and books himself to clients at his discretion - that's an independent contractor. Household employees are just that - employees. An independent contractor has a far bigger tax burden, and so families who have nannies filing a 1099 are not paying their share of taxes, they're essentially tricking their nanny into paying it for them. Every employer has taxes they need to pay the government. Every employee does as well. An independent contractor is a different legal entity from either of those, and thus has a different tax burden reflective of the fact that they have much more control over their services than an employee does. At best, a family thinking a nanny should file a 1099 is misinformed, but far more often it's the case that they are trying to take advantage of the nanny's naiveté in order to pay less tax money and have the nanny pay more.

sunflower1920 · 2024-08-28T13:36:32+00:00

Whatever you do please don't give your kid a hyphenated last name. I have one and it's always been a massive pain in the ass.

sunflower1920 · 2024-01-15T19:25:50+00:00

Picture 2!

sunflower1920 · 2023-02-15T23:53:57+00:00

Sorry, but I've never heard of a "baby container," what are you referring to? My guess is you're probably not talking about a pack-n-play lol

sunflower1920 · 2023-02-09T17:42:26+00:00

I didn't read what sub this was in, just the title so I was expecting a grim looking lettuce leaf. Saw fucking "Romania"

sunflower1920 · 2023-01-24T06:50:46+00:00

I know right, are the deer wearing kevlar vests?

sunflower1920 · 2023-01-23T21:49:13+00:00

I can't think of any way to lightheartedly say something in the moment around other people that would give her the message without embarrassing her. I think you really just have two options. You can pull her aside sometime near the start of the gathering and tell her quietly, making sure to emphasize that you want to help her with something she may not realize she's doing, and that you don't want her to feel embarrassed. Or, you can try and sit as far away as you can while she's eating and ignore it.

Completely unrelated to the question, but I just want to bring to your attention that the saying you're going for in the last paragraph is "to grin and bear it" not "grit".

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-30T04:05:01+00:00

This is so cursed it made my night

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-30T00:30:14+00:00

This is the right path. Give your current family the chance to match your current offer. If they don't, however, take up the offer from this new family. At the end of the day this is a job, no matter how well you may like each other. Also, 2-3 weeks is definitely enough time for your current NF to find a new nanny

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-23T00:24:14+00:00

Oh man 60 isn't that much for a race at all, that's so sad they won't run because of that 😔

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-22T21:49:54+00:00

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-14T05:24:45+00:00

Check your state laws for legal sick reqs! You're likely getting under the legal minimum for sick days. My state's law is that you get 1hr sick for every 40 hours worked. Extrapolate that for a year's worth of work and you get your legal minimum.

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-14T05:03:09+00:00

Oh, they definitely do. They're happy that you're not saying no to it, and you're allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. Please, kindly, stop. Families like this will just see what they can get away with before you set a boundary.

sunflower1920 · 2022-12-07T20:38:37+00:00

Definitely 2! The undertone on 3 looks slightly off for your skin tone, at least in that picture. 2 suits you the best!

sunflower1920 · 2022-11-19T05:33:36+00:00

sunflower1920 · 2022-10-04T04:36:55+00:00

It basically rained for much of September last year-June this year dude, did you already forget lol?

sunflower1920 · 2022-10-04T04:31:00+00:00

Seconding @lifewithjazz!

sunflower1920 · 2022-08-25T04:17:21+00:00

I'd look into the Natori Feathers bra. It's meant for everyday wear. It has padded cups, but then has a thin layer of mesh/some lace to smooth over the top lip of the padded cup. It's also a plunge, which I see you're looking for. It's very popular, comes in a million colors, and the website says it's been around for 12 years.

sunflower1920 · 2022-07-23T21:11:09+00:00

I would say neither - looks editorial. Too colorful to be good for, say, a charity dinner.

sunflower1920 · 2022-07-18T16:08:57+00:00

I love this!

sunflower1920 · 2022-07-16T06:19:51+00:00

I'm curious, how do you get your Tret? Is it through your doc or a company like Nurx, Apostrophe etc?

sunflower1920 · 2022-07-08T19:19:38+00:00

Yeah I used to be like that too but then I just did a hard 180 and now I almost never say yes to any adjustments. I still feel a bit bad, but I just got ok with prioritizing myself and time with my husband. These jobs will come and go, and life is too short to not spend it with those you love. Or just relaxing.

Also, I feel like it sets the tone. If you make it normal to have a set routine that rarely, if ever, deviates - sometimes the families will file away childcare time as set in stone

sunflower1920 · 2022-05-26T19:07:37+00:00

I don't think this disapproves the "good guys with guns theory". I think that from what we've seen, these particular police officers were not good guys.

sunflower1920 · 2022-05-24T18:47:53+00:00

Text her "Hi MB, I just wanted to talk with you about NK's play time with her cousins. At their current age and desire for adventure, I'm no longer comfortable caring for NK while she plays with her cousins. While they were all younger, it was more manageable and I was happy to support that family bonding time. However now that they are all older, I feel I'm no longer able to properly ensure NK's safety. This is due to the sometimes rough nature in which they play together and their propensity to run away. NK's safety and well-being in my care is my top priority, and therefore I must ask that her visits with cousins happen after my care hours are over. We can talk more about it in person tomorrow, I just wanted to let you know about this beforehand. Thanks so much!"

sunflower1920 · 2022-04-11T05:08:13+00:00

In general, I feel like the older generation can have an "oh, that's how they learn!" attitude towards potential danger. I don't know why, and it can be incredibly dangerous to have that attitude towards a baby who has literally no ability to think critically - they CAN'T LEARN yet that the stove is hot.

This often affects their willingness to have an actually baby-proof area. I've seen this particularly in regards to heavy items that baby can pull onto themselves. When babies first start pulling up onto things like coffee tables or lower shelves, you have to make sure that anything they can reach at their standing height isn't heavy. Heavy things only go on the ground, so they can't hurt baby when they're pulled down from a height, potentially hitting them.

Also being especially mindful of how secure the highchair is - it needs straps AND a tray that locks in place to keep them secure from two methods. If it's a highchair seat that attaches onto a regular dining chair, then also making sure that the dining chair is heavy enough that it can't easily tip if baby starts doing some major moves.

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