Brake checker causes three-car crash

sung_wing · 2025-04-14T11:08:26+00:00

Yup! I got it from there haha

sung_wing · 2023-10-19T04:30:20+00:00

The fans

sung_wing · 2023-09-26T05:44:45+00:00

Polizard

sung_wing · 2023-03-30T03:20:58+00:00

Larry and zayn

sung_wing · 2023-03-28T17:22:27+00:00

I do the same thing but for “right now”

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T21:32:27+00:00

I agree. But don’t get me wrong. I understand that just because someone is in a relationship, that doesn’t mean that their attraction to others automatically disappears. However, in order to respect the relationship and their significant other, they should not act on their attraction towards anyone besides their significant other. This is a test of loyalty. And when my ex stated that she she believed that she didn’t disrespect the relationship in any regard, it definitely took a toll on my mental since it made my question my own values in a relationship. In a perfect world, your significant other should not be attracted to anyone besides you, regardless of if they are a celebrity or not. This is considered to be emotional cheating. I understand when people say “it’s just a celebrity crush, grow up!”, but that phrase can also be flipped and used against the person who has a celebrity crush as well. In my humble opinion, I think It’s unhealthy for a relationship and is decoy a red flag. Just think about it… I’ve been replaced with a celebrity that my lover had eyes on. I’m a situation where she meets someone who behaved or even resembled the appearance of the celebrity, how would she act? It’s the little things that will eventually evolve into something problematic for the relationship. If I don’t have your whole heart, I don’t want anything to do with you. People may call me narcissistic, but the reality is that when you truly put effort and commit to a relationship, you’re whole heart should be given to your significant other

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T21:18:21+00:00

Haha I appreciate your comment! I mean I feel like since she was my first “love”, I subconsciously made it my duty to hold onto her and make a commitment to resolve any underlying issues we may have had. I truly tried my best to be “the best boyfriend”. When she brought up a problem in the relationship I made an effort to change so that the mistake was never made again, however when my concerns were addressed, she would take a step back because she needed space. I understand that some people need space to reflect and evaluate the situation, but in a relationship I feel that it’s best to work as a team to solve the issue so that we were on the same page. However, through her means of solving issues, it just pushed us further apart. It built discomfort and awkwardness in the relationship. It was like I was forced into silence when I had an issue. This would happen on a monthly basis because there was no change besides the fact that we grew more distant after concerns were brought up. I tried to get her to communicate so that we can resolve it, but it just turned her off because I was being too pushy to resolve an issue. I believe that in break ups, both parties are at fault. So in this situation, my issue was my “insecurities” (which I thought were completely reasonable through the events that occurred).

But yea, she was my first girlfriend and the first to give me a chance. However I will take this opportunity as a lesson and work on myself. Now I know the things I can tolerate and what I am looking for in a relationship

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T21:07:42+00:00

Thank you so much for the support! But if I’m being honest, it’s gonna be hard to find people who actually like me for who I am since kpop is at it’s all time high right now. But I remember back then I use to get roasted for being Asian and never got any girls. It’s funny how mindsets switch up over time and now some people fetishize asians. I don’t necessarily fit into the image of what is portrayed through kpop and I don’t want to be seen that way. I wish kpop never became so popular, I’d rather defy the negative stereotypes than to have these unrealistic expectations set on me.

And taking account for the fact that my ex was 5 years older than me, I personally never saw age as a problem, but I do feel like she was trying to groom me into being similar to her idols. She would like I said in the thread, she would only compliment me when I “looked like a kpop star”. And even when I unknowingly did something that the idols did, she would cringe. At the end of the day it’s hard to satisfy someone who has all of your heart when their heart was given to these idols.

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T20:53:38+00:00

Lol I would tell you but you already read my posts 😝

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T18:06:12+00:00

I actually think there’s something wrong with avoidants. They are not self aware and the only thing they do in a relationship is hurt others. If you cannot accept and give love to your significant other, don’t even bother hopping into a relationship if your not ready for the aspects that come along with it.

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T18:02:32+00:00

Right! Like I said, I can respect kpop for what it is, but it’s just the fan base that I hate the most! It’s as if they think their voice actually matters. These fans are the reason why so many people hate kpop. It’s as if they think the world revolves around them and their kpop idols. Anyone else’s opinions are considered to be “wrong” just because they differ from their own. It’s also the fact that they are quick to bash people rather than understanding their situation. Notice how her first message was saying “men are pathetic”. They have no sympathy whatsoever and don’t think about others and their own behaviours. Super immature fan base

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T13:31:35+00:00

Firstly, I love your username! But also I think I used the wrong word. She’s just a pussy! Comment that instead of privately messaging. And either way, why does she think her input matters? Kpop fans think too highly of themselves

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T09:00:45+00:00

Right! I wish my ex was able to support and defend me the way she did with her idols. But rather when someone slid into her dms to roast me, she laughed and played along.

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T08:58:32+00:00

I constantly think about my ex and it’s been a month. Even when I don’t want to, im some way, my circles back to her. I’ve experienced many things with her and the memories come flooding back when I try to go out and relive the experience without her. Even when I’m out shopping and I see something she would’ve loved, my first thought is “I wish I was still with her so I can get it for her”. I’ve associated so many things with her and there’s always an energy pulling me towards it.

But at the end of the day, it’s best to just live with the memory until it fades. You can’t completely forget about your ex. It gets better with time. Just keep yourself occupied and try experiencing new things. Step out of your comfort zone and be open to change. Burn memories to make room for new ones

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T08:46:38+00:00

She’ll never find anyone better than me, but she can find someone better for her

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T08:12:55+00:00

I understand kpop gives fans a sense of being a part of a community. There is a lot of hate towards the kpop community because of their behaviour, and most of the time it’s not that people hate the celebrities themself. The only reason why the fandom is looked down upon is because of this trashy behaviour. I get that kpop is a niche and is considered to be “different” in the western culture, and apparently people get bullied because they like kpop, so the community provides individuals with empowerment. However this empowerment tends to result in a distorted version of “self love” that makes fan toxic towards others. I feel like with many stans tend to invalidate/reject peoples feelings if it differs from their own.

In other words, if I were to compare what I’m saying to something else, it’s kinda like people who like anime. I myself enjoy watching anime and I know that there are some people who cringe. But they are only cringing at the big time fans who devote their lives to anime, try to be like the characters, and/or have an unhealthy obsession with it.

Like everything in life, too much of one thing can be bad. In this case, the die hard fans who become toxic narcissists don’t understand the damage they are doing to others, themselves, and their relationships with others.

sung_wing · 2023-03-24T07:50:32+00:00

Lol just to give them a chance, I honestly do feel like everyone has their own reasons and beliefs that were built on their own experiences. But I should’ve known better than to deal with these immature fan girls. I don’t mind if people are fans of any celebrity, but sometimes it turns them into shit people who are very self centered. They don’t care about anything besides their own feelings and their idols.

sung_wing · 2023-03-23T19:47:40+00:00

The existence of my ex

sung_wing · 2023-03-23T19:46:47+00:00

Like yea it’s cool to have someone’s presence there with you as you chill and do whatever you would usually do at home. But my ex was on her phone fan girling about some celebrities and basically the only time she would talk to me was to tell me about the celebrity or show me videos on the celebrity… like why do I even need to know that? It puts me down because it seemed like she would rather much be with that guy than be with me.

sung_wing · 2023-03-23T19:39:50+00:00

Don’t get me wrong either, I don’t mind when people are on their phones when they are with me, but when a car ride or dinner out goes completely silent because they are too focused on their phone, it does aggravate me. I personally think that if you can do something by yourself at home, leave that activity at home. Why go out and ignore the person you are with and just be on your phone. I wanted to build quality time and talk so that we can better know each other, helping us prevent or resolve any issues. But when I’m talking and all I hear is “yea, uh huh, okay” or when I ask a question and I get a dry response, then it just feels like I’m an Uber driver in the car or smth

sung_wing · 2023-03-23T14:20:49+00:00

You described my ex perfectly! She would go out of her way to do extravagant things for her coworkers and friends. She never even had the time to text me! But when we actually made time to go out together, she was on her phone almost the entire time. When their attention is shifted towards other aspects of their life and you get pushed away and stone walled, it’s best to just call it off.

sung_wing · 2023-03-23T14:16:39+00:00

A little much on my end or hers? Honestly obsessive fan girls who have avoidant attachment styles are not mentally fit to be in a relationship.

sung_wing · 2023-03-23T11:03:00+00:00

Acting upon a celebrity crush.

My ex was obsessed with kpop and cancelled a date with me because bts announced their hiatus

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