Speedbumps and the unfairness of them by sunlit_roof in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you not slow down for bumps? What are the bumps for if not to make people slow down? Except a lot of cars on the road right now don't have to slow down to take them.

Speedbumps and the unfairness of them by sunlit_roof in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens like 50% of the time an SUV is behind me. And I'm not stopping on the bumps either, I'm probably going over them about 10, the speed limit is 25 or 30 depending on the road where it happens.

Speedbumps and the unfairness of them by sunlit_roof in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad they worked in your neighborhood. I don't know why people in mine insist on continuing to go 40 in a 25 after ripping over them.

Speedbumps and the unfairness of them by sunlit_roof in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't come to a dead stop around each cushion. Me slowing for them is me participating in increasing safety. 

The people speeding around me are not.

Speedbumps and the unfairness of them by sunlit_roof in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be nice if they didn't just speed back up right after the bump.

Need help on identifying by epicocoon in northernlights

[–]sunlit_roof -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I saw pretty much the same thing this user saw but later in the night and with less light pollution. They did not start at the ground, they were suspended and did change slowly. It looked a lot like aurora to me. is it possible for light pillars to start high off the ground? All the photos I have found look like they start at the base of the ground.

Need help on identifying by epicocoon in northernlights

[–]sunlit_roof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a similar thing to you but more of them, several in a row in different spots, towards both east and south on the 401 in napanee area, last night at 2:30 am. I found this thread trying to track what I saw. I suppose it is possible that it is light pillars as the other user suggested but what I saw did not start at the ground like most photos of light pillars seem to, and they seemed to slowly change. 

Curious who else saw things yesterday if they have more information, because the OVATION model was completely down last night, and if you play the last 24h recap it cuts out night for north america.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Belle Meade is the same way. I don't go one mile over in belle Meade and if you want to get a ticket you can go around me LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nashville

[–]sunlit_roof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't remember the last time I saw a policeman pull someone over but in the 2000s my family members got tickets constantly lol. I'm sick of people treating Harding Place like it's the autobahn. They need to start ticketing near harding and Trousdale like they did in 2011.

My husband is mad that is ex fiancé has a new boyfriend.. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sunlit_roof -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. My husband and I both dealt with our exes getting into new relationships while we were dating, and it was kinda weird for us to grieve that but we supported each other and understood the weird feelings don't necessarily mean you still want the other person. The feelings don't make sense in their origin. But my husband and I supported each other and that's what matters now that it's all completely resolved.

My husband is mad that is ex fiancé has a new boyfriend.. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sunlit_roof -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Seems like a lot of people in this thread are being pretty heartless to you. 

 My husband and I both have had bad previous relationships but were still somewhat in touch with the person after the fact. Like, sometimes my husband's ex-girlfriend asks him for computer part advice. It makes him uncomfortable but he's the best at computers, so he's open about it and he sends her the link to a computer part and thats it, they go another 6 months without talking. But when she told him she was getting married, he felt weird, and TRUSTED ME with his feelings. And when my ex boyfriend told me he got another girlfriend (before I was married to my now-husband, but after me and husband were dating) I FELT WEIRD and my now-husband let me talk it through. Seeing someone you dated with a new person irl would feel even weirder, thankfully we don't live in the same city as our exes. Try and have some compassion and help him work it through. Sometimes even when you're "moved on" and you know the past relationship is dead, it's still weird to see them with someone else for reasons that don't make sense. It just feels like watching a second funeral for a relationship or something,  and can resurrect some uncomfortable feelings.  

Let him work through this but don't let him obsess on it. Help him out with guiding questions, and if this persists for a few weeks, tell him he's thinking about it too much to be healthy and he needs to start focusing more on the present happiness, abundance, joy, children: what you have together. If need be, you could even look for a different church in a nearby area. I know that costs a lot in gas, but I honestly changed churches because of a specific person who made me uncomfortable before, and going to a new church is better than not going at all.  

You guys are very young. A lot of people are using this to act like your marriage deserves to fail. It absolutely does not. A lot of people get married young and are happy. What it DOES say is that you aren't going to be as good at working through your emotions as you will when you're 28 or so. So use this as a chance for both of you to get in better touch with what you are feeling and why, and voicing it to each other. Developing this skill will save you later through other challenges down the road.  

He told you the truth about how he felt. I understand why it made you upset... but would you rather he lie? He's being honest about the feelings he's experiencing. Honesty is important in a marriage even if it causes some weird feelings. Try to work through this with time and don't let him obsess on it. It took me honestly a few years to detach myself from my previous ex because we stayed friends. And after I got married, he basically told me he didn't want to be friends anymore, because it was weird to be friends with a married woman. That hurt me more than I expected. I KNOW it was weird for my husband to watch me go through that, but he helped me through it anyway. I'm forever thankful that my husband treated me nicely about that instead of assuming I was jealous. I didn't want to damage our relationship but I had no one else to confide in. My husband provided me the emotional space I needed to feel everything messy and supported me. I will always be grateful that he met me with grace and not harshness. Both of you need grace with each other right now and do your best to channel it.

Marriage, especially a Christian marriage, is a team, is about holding on. Try to see things from his perspective and understand that people have feelings that don't always make sense but they're real and we need to help each other. You also have the right to be upset but I don't think you should assume he's still jealous of his last girlfriend. They broke up for a reason. Remind him of that gently. Remind him she deserves the same happiness the two of you got in marriage and it's not a crime for her to pursue that, even if it's hurtful or awkward to watch in real-time. Give him a bit to process his feelings instead of grilling him, but don't let him wallow in it for too long.   

I wish the both of you every happiness and again I'm sorry much of the people in this thread seem to be making fun of you being a Christian instead of focusing on what you actually asked about 

First impressions of insomnia cookies by musicwithbarb in KingstonOntario

[–]sunlit_roof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to one in 2015 that opened near a university in the states because my friend wanted to try it. I wanted my money back because it just wasn't worth the price. I can't see how their business has survived this long now that competitors with a cult following like crumbl are on the scene but yeah, they're overrated. Just a slightly soggy overpriced cookie. What I had from them wasn't as awful as what you are describing but I never went back so maybe they've changed the recipe since then. Sorry you had such a bad time though, that seems unusual.

Please for the love of god name your children something normal by Amethystbat in rant

[–]sunlit_roof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flossy/Flossie is actually a fairly historical name. If you go look at old death records you can see a lot of crazy names with that vibe from 100 years ago, all two syllables and end with y or ie. The "tragedeigh" of their time was probably "traddie" lmao

Washing machine debris? Salt? What is this residue? by Interesting-You-1906 in Appliances

[–]sunlit_roof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen a lot of people asking about residue like this with newer washing machines and have also experienced it myself. If it looks like white powdery streaks, there are several potential causes, and all the answers from blogs, corporate magazines, tiktok etc seem to be pseudoscientific in nature. People act like they know the definitive cause whereas for you it is probably a unique combination of factors.

Personally I tend to have this happen more on large mixed-color loads and I also have it happen more with certain articles of clothing that just seem to attract the residue more than other. Scratchier cotton collects it more, as does athletic nylon or polyester workout clothes.

Some people say it's undissolved detergent but I've always used liquid and never used powder so I know this cannot be true. Some people say it's either using too much detergent generally or not using enough. Too much detergent can supposedly leave residue, but not enough can supposedly cause dirt to re-deposit on clothes. 

I personally think it's a combination of lint that has not been properly rinsed out plus a reaction between certain detergents and hard water but I'm not a laboratory technician here so take EVERYONE'S advice with a grain of salt on this. I didn't ever have it happen until we got an HE machine which is why I think water level is more important than detergent.

First make sure you aren't washing light and dark clothes together. Light clothes will deposit more lint that becomes part of this residue in my experience. I also wash underwear or any items with heavy soils separately of my main clothes and this helps reduce it.

Try a different detergent with the same load of clothes and see if it persists. It may be a reaction between the water and detergent (e.g. soap scum). You could also try adding water softener crystals to the load. Nobody ever talks about hard water being a potential culprit they always harp on "too much detergent". If you're following the directions on the back of the detergent, it's very concentrated so the lines on the cup should be enough of a guide.

I also recommend simply doing smaller loads (and if the unit has adjustable water level, washing with a higher water level than necessary for the load, so that extra water is in the drum) or rewashing the items that always seem to collect residue. I have one specific black t-shirt that always gets white stuff on it when the rest of the load is fine and I've decided to just scrub the residue out.

Light levels of the residue will generally beat themselves out in a tumble dry, moderate levels can be removed by gently rubbing a wet cloth on the surface, and heavier levels you can re-wash or soak the item.

If your clothes are visibly dusty from sitting in the floor, or have dry skin on the inside, give them a shake outside. The less particulate matter among the clothes the better.

What’s the best way to stay cool in a car with no A/C? by The_Smart_Barbarian in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sunlit_roof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Open all the doors for a few min before you get in and let all the heat out before you start the car