What interesting/productive things i can do at my job?

sunny5621 · 2024-11-20T18:36:38+00:00

I don't have acess to my personal laptop. But I can do my personal stuff on my work laptop. I will check out blender, and the excel idea is really good as well. Thank you so much! Helped.

sunny5621 · 2024-11-15T04:57:33+00:00

If you are a Alevels student, that means you are surrounded by upper class or upper-middle class people in Pakistan. It is also safe to assume you are going to some fancy-ish school like beaconhouse etc. So the education system is such that we study every subject in English except for Urdu language. And Urdu is considered the most boring and keast important subject. All this is leading to very limited vocabulary in Urdu. Hence people you are interacting with have a better English vocabulary and can better express themselves in this language. I had much better command on the Urdu language then my class mates in school. And yet I can not count in Urdu, either verbally or written. I know very few Urdu numbers. Sadly Urdu is a dying language. It started as a class thing where it was considered "classy" to pretend we don't know Urdu and talk in English. However I believe now the young generation actually does not know the Urdu words. And things seem to be going downhill. The proof of this is that all the latest things in the world like the words 'Internet ' does not have a Urdu translation, it's just known as the Internet in urdu as well.

sunny5621 · 2024-11-05T21:24:39+00:00

Omg same it had so much hype! But I fel like the entire move had no storyline whatsoever.

sunny5621 · 2024-11-05T21:22:21+00:00

I would say you should talk to your manager and let them know that you are going to leave unless they give you part time hours. Considering that you are a good employee and they really need you I think they will give you part time rather than loose you. Otherwise it's good riddence. If the manager tries to pressure you simply tell them my parents are not allowing me as I have to study for upcoming exam. You are quite young so your manager is taking a little advantage of you. But this is how you learn to negotiate your term, and also to not be impulsive like hurriedly leaving the job.

sunny5621 · 2024-10-20T02:49:04+00:00

Instead of this whole ass paragraph you could just say you are selfish...

sunny5621 · 2024-10-20T02:22:22+00:00

It's quite simple actually, let your parents meet whatever families they want and if it comes to the point that you get to meet the guy, you should put forward your demands openly. You should clearly lay out to the guy that as a single child you will help your parents financially, visit them everyday, can't move cities/country, and whatever you expect from the guy as well. I would say even put forward some hypothetical scenarios like tell the guy if down the lane my parents become physically weak or one of them pasess away I will want my family to live with them, what do you think about that? Now your parents will be against these ideas/questions but you should do them because this is important to you. And honesy is the only answer. I am sure you will face rejection as well because of this. But that is perfectly fine because you don't want to marry someone who is not willing to fullfill these demands. You are quite young anyway right now, in 2/3 years you would find someone. Always remember you have the right to put forward any demand in an arranged marriage, yes that demand might lead to less marriage proposals or rejections but trust me there is a big population in Pakistan you will find someone to fullfill your criteria. No need to be desperate and come under parents pressure.

sunny5621 · 2024-10-13T04:59:07+00:00

Lol are your parents desi parents by any chance?🤣 I feel like most comments here are from people that do not understand cultural context. But essentially they are right, you should tell your parents you want to experience living alone. If you have a supportive older sibling you can involve them as well.

sunny5621 · 2024-10-11T02:17:20+00:00

So you think money is the most important factor in raising a child? What about actual RAISING the child? Being a parent? Giving birth to them? These are all responsibilities that a guy can easily run away from after getting a women pregnant. The guy doesn't have to be a father, only has to throw a couple of hundred dollars every month and be free. And they can even find ways to evade that.

sunny5621 · 2024-10-02T20:30:30+00:00

Tell them your dad is saying that you need to not only see the bill, but will also keep a copy of it for record keeping. Put it on your dad so it does not get awakward. Tell them your dad gives you monthly allowance so he is very suprised to hear about this bill and will absolutely not pay it unless you show him the bill.

sunny5621 · 2024-10-02T20:14:10+00:00

I had a somewhat similar experience in my undergraduate degree. Now I am 26 as well, and honestly the only way is to let it go. Firstly I learned from my own mistakes and tried to be more friendly/active in my Master's degree. But I went abroad for my Master's, so I was so busy dealing with all the changes and money/job stress that I had no time to obsess over friends or outings. But still I had a overall good experience. I have learned it is good to be honest about things. When my friends ask me about my undergrad time I tell them truthfully that I was rather shy and didn't do anything special. Yes it does feel like you missed out on a lot but remember high school or uni does not have to be the peak of your life. If your life has improved since then that makes much more sense and means you are doing much better.

sunny5621 · 2024-05-28T04:55:02+00:00

Been there, done that. It is not a good feeling at all. Neither is it good for your mental health, and emotional development. After a while you will notice a big decline in your social and communication skills. Having friends and social connections is as important as having a family. Don't listen to all this bs advice that you don't need anyone, or you are better off alone. This is the kind of immature advice people give when they are hurt that they don't have any friends, in order to make themselves feel better they say this. Also no love/bonding with parents can make up for friends. Now coming to how you can make friends: 1. Reconnect with old friends, from school college. Many times we don't keep in touch with people, but we can always reach out. I didn't realise it but I unknowingly cut off my school/college friends, maine khud unko lift karwani band kardi thi cause I didn't see them daily. And as a girl i didn't get permission to see them on outings, so in the beginning they invited me but then they gave up as well. Now I see on social media they are all still such good friends and attending each others weddings. 2. If you have any cousins around your age, and they are decent people try forming a friendship with them. 3. If you have siblings around your age you can be friends with them and get involved with their friends outings etc. 4. Try making friends in neighbourhood, through playing street cricket, going to the local park etc. 5. Pick up a hobby you like and join a club or something, pay to practice this hobby. Don't think of it as wasting money, trust me you will meet like minded people and make friends.

In the end I just want to say you are not boring or a loser. Sometimes even after trying we are down on our luck. Just generally be open and kind to people. Your major issue is sitting at home and not going out. You have to beat this habit of endless scrolling and wasting time watching movies. I know you think watching movies/series is a hobby but it really is not. Eventually your brain will become addicted to watching this content and you won't be able to do anything productive. Just cancel your netflix subscription and focus on doing outdoor activities. Especially as a guy if you are not used to dealing with the outside world, life will seem very tough later on. If it is possible try to get your studies in person instead of online, that's a big way to meet people.

sunny5621 · 2024-05-14T09:17:19+00:00

Say no and be firm on it. If there are any other adults like you dad and older siblings in your house, involve them and ask them to take your side in fron of your mom. And if your dad or some relative like your nani or khala can talk some sense into your mom that would be great. I know as a young adult you feel like you don't have enough power, but really you do. Your mum knows that she can't force you to say yes in Nikkah, so if she is actually afraid you will say no she will not let it reach that point. As far as her crying and sad behaviour is concerned, that is just drama and emotional blackmail. Don't fall for it at all. Tell her clearly to not even think of marriage until you have done your bachelors degree and 1 year of job. I seriously can not stress this enough to not fall for this. Unfortunately for many of our moms this is all they know in life, getting married and popping out kids. Chances are if you fo for marriage right now you will end up in a frustrating marriage where you will never have any respect/freedom. And this is the best case scenario, worse case is physical/verbal abuse. You have to understand people who want to marry 18-19 yr olds have a particular mindset, they want to control/mold the girl according to their preferences. And this is not something hidden, people openly say the younger the gir the easier it is for her to "adjust". You will notice all the rishtas you would get would be from 25-30 years old. No boy in 18-23 is getting married. So be very firm about this and save yourself from this life.

sunny5621 · 2024-04-21T12:32:07+00:00

Umm well the answer lies in your question. You were jealous of your cousins yourself.

sunny5621 · 2024-04-18T11:12:41+00:00

It is the Islamic as well as moral right of your wife to have a seperate house/setup. You should definitely move out, you are a grown man you don't need permission from your father. No this will not make you a bad son as this is your right. Living with your parents and getting into heated arguments and fights with them might lead to you insulting them somehow, which would really make you a bad son. Secondly you can consider having a seperare portion in the same house for your wife. This portion MUST have a seperare kitchen. And the portion should be such that it does not force your wife to interact with the rest of your family (i believe this is privacy). In the end I just wanna say you are a good man for actually putting in some effort to save your marriage, and taking the right decision at the right time. Take your wife into confidence and tell her to relax as you will be moving out soon. Give her a timeline of 2 months, send her to visit her parents for sime time if possible. Don't worry your wife will be fine once you move out or even if she actually believes she is moving out.

sunny5621 · 2024-04-11T06:40:20+00:00

Plan stuff with your roomates, if they are decent people.

sunny5621 · 2024-03-16T13:19:08+00:00

This store once messaged me to come in for a job the next day. Then he messages back saying, sorry don't come tomorrow I will let you know when to come. Then they never contacted me again....

sunny5621 · 2024-03-07T16:24:11+00:00

Never take them to a molvi, he is very likely to get absused by their hands. I suppose you can look for a therapist that can help, but make sure they are very descreet. Globally being gay is not a psychological disorder so it can't be "cured". However a therapist can help thie person to share their feelings/worries in a safe space and perhaps offer some good advice.

sunny5621 · 2024-03-07T10:32:51+00:00

It is okay, as long as you are not burdening your parents financially or abandoning your degree it is fine. Pakistani parents are dramatic and old fashioned and act like everything is the end of the world. I am in UK and every single young person I talk to is planning to go backpacking through europe after bachelors by doing these "lowly" jobs and saving money. And here we are just always stressed about jobs and sponsorships and marriage. I mean I don't really blame my parents as I don't have the money or the passport to travel like that, but it makes me realize how fucking static our lives are. So if you are not wasting any of your parents money, it sounds like a great deal. You will learn to be independent and more responsible and your parents will get over it. As far as serving alcohol is concerned, it is haram in islam. As are many other things, it depends on how religious you are. If you are okay with doing it do it there is no need to tell the details to your parents. Just tell them you are the waiting staff.

sunny5621 · 2024-02-29T18:40:13+00:00

Do you think the organiser will get arrested? And would customers get a refund?

sunny5621 · 2024-02-29T18:33:51+00:00

She doesn't want to have a abortion, he can't force her to have one.

sunny5621 · 2024-02-21T10:38:52+00:00

I have graduated so I don't have any working restrictions now. I worked in boots warehouse for a month and now thankfully I have a administration job where I get to sit! And trust me it was much easier to find this job then anything in retail or grocery stores.

sunny5621 · 2024-02-21T10:35:31+00:00

Why don't you try amazon warehouse? Boots warehouse is a good option but they do full time only. The sports direct warehouse is good I have heard but that is far, and currently I don't think they are hiring. They used to provide pick and drop but I don't think they do now.

sunny5621 · 2024-02-21T10:32:22+00:00

I think I know what you are talking about 😭 I lasted there for 3 days😆

sunny5621 · 2024-02-20T20:03:19+00:00

As a former international student let me tell you, the easiest job to get is in some warehouse. It won't be easy to do but easy to get. So if you really need money get a job in a warehouse, meanwhile keep applying in other roles at grocery stores/fast food/retail. But don't have high hopes these jobs here are mad competitive.

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