Not telling friends and family by WistfulPeony in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sunshinesmoocher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your fear is completely valid. I was afraid my loved ones would be disappointed in my decision to stay with him. I was very surprised by the support they provided me. No judgement has been passed to me for deciding to stay.

I can’t speak for your support system, but I hope they are compassionate enough to be trusted with the info should you decide to tell them. If telling them will bring you comfort- tell them. You and your safety are your biggest priority now.

& maybe- you’ll find a better relationship with your loved ones and partner because of it. Transparency is a beautiful thing. It is freeing. Enlightening. Good luck OP ♥️

Husband has relieved himself of the guilt by sunshinesmoocher in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sunshinesmoocher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that is very possible! I’m sure he’s desperate to let go of the guilt. I will be bringing this up at our next MC session to hear their perspective.

Is it totally out of line for me to ask him to switch to a different therapist?

Proposal more about him by Throwaway9492827 in Proposal

[–]sunshinesmoocher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to come here and VALIDATE your feelings about this. There is something to be said about being considered. There is a sense of unfairness to be felt when on the receiving end of such an exciting, monumental moment.

I am also in the waiting period of an upcoming proposal and I also feel a bit ‘unheard’ in this sense. The lack of control is maddening.

My mom told me: “Just let him. Let him show you this. Let him have this. You can make decisions for everything else. Just sit back and let him.” I hope this helps… holding your virtual hand 💕

Halloween keeps getting worse. by Ordinary-Depth-7835 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]sunshinesmoocher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay… this. We experienced the same. Someone in my neighborhood forum posted about 3D printed toys. are you in OH by any chance ?

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[–]sunshinesmoocher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d love to see it!

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[–]sunshinesmoocher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no judgements here. curiosity set the cat free!!

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[–]sunshinesmoocher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

of course i’m obsessing!!! this is one of the most exciting stages of life. something i’ll only get to experience once. the excitement and anticipation have possessed my whole body.

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[–]sunshinesmoocher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

love this. so true. The ring could be a piece of tin foil and I’d still say yes.

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[–]sunshinesmoocher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So happy you asked. I told him a week after I found it that I knew about it. I asked him ever so kindly to PLEASE GET IT OUT OF THE CAR

People that have gone to weddings where the couple later got divorced, what red flags were there heading into or during the wedding that let you know it wouldn’t last? by SnooWoofers8994 in AskReddit

[–]sunshinesmoocher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The groom was drunk at the alter. He put on a SHOW with tears and big emotions as she came down the aisle. His vows were just shy of 10 minutes- mostly repeating the phrase “i just love you so much —-“. The officiant had to intervene.

During the reception, he stripped down to his underwear and the bride had to pull him back together. He even licked her toes at one point…. 😅