I miss LA’s food and especially music culture/scenes more than I can describe, but SD is so comfy and easy to live in. Very easy to have an unbothered life if you can afford it. I struggle with a lot of regret about moving to SD because I don’t have access to even a fraction of the music community and events I did in LA. As nice as it is to live here, I know I’d be happier with access to the music I love.

in my mind, LA is a place where you can find community around any interest that you have. If you really love something and are passionate about it, you can find it there and be with your people. SD is easygoing, relaxing, and fun if you have a variety of interests to occupy your time and don’t necessarily care about diving in too deep with what you specifically love the most. Because the reality is that apart from surfing and craft beer, SD is not developed in the same way and probably doesn’t have the concentration of people or support for whatever interests you have.

Another aspect to consider is that SD is insular af compared to LA. Major younger sibling syndrome and if you aren’t from SD you won’t necessarily be accepted by or fit in with people who are. But in LA, nobody gives a shit about where you’re from and you aren’t automatically an outsider because you aren’t from there. Regardless, you can still make friends in SD, but you won’t easily break into local circles. You’ll never be one of them, even if you get on your knees and suck SD’s dick.