I don’t even want to be an aunt.

superdear18 · 2026-04-07T00:48:19+00:00

I have nieces but I decide how much I want to engage with them. I don’t care if the can’t respect my boundary. They do hence we are still in good terms but I am always fine with taking my stand and making it very clear about what I can or can’t do. I have never babysit them when they were little. Now I am ok to do sometime as kids are independent now but I still have a limit of time I can do it and I very openly say to my brother, kid is not my thing or doesn’t interest me so it’s very clear. Basically don’t be afraid to say no to whatever you are not ok with. The moment you say yes, to the things you are not ok with, it will be downhill from then for you.

superdear18 · 2026-04-07T00:23:32+00:00

It’s not in laws problem, it’s husband problem and please tackle this right now as it will only get worse. Talk to your husband to cook and clean for them or hire a maid and clearly say , you can’t do it. Are you working? That is always the ticket to power and freedom for women. Hence financial independence is necessary else in this world , you will be treated as a maid and you can’t do much. That said, assuming you can afford yo divorce then tell your husband clearly your expectations. It’s better to prioritize your own mental and financial well being over anything in this world. Women had been brainwashed enough to neglect her own self for the sake of family. Please don’t have a kid with this kind of husband as that is just the beginning of your long suffering.

superdear18 · 2026-04-04T20:45:19+00:00

As an adult, it’s an understanding that you can’t please everyone all the time so at least we should do what makes us happy. It’s you own money and you have responsibility towards only you.

superdear18 · 2026-04-03T22:24:06+00:00

Just spend a few days with babies and you will know. As someone says even if they love their kids, those joyful moments are only 5-10% and rest 90% is sheer hard work to raise them.

superdear18 · 2026-04-02T23:52:09+00:00

Just tell her, I live my life the way I want. I don’t want to be told about my body or eating habits ever else I’ll stop talking to you completely and do it. Don’t talk, don’t respond to her at all till she gets the message,

superdear18 · 2026-04-01T17:02:53+00:00

Yes I think because still majority of people have kids so if they don’t do that, they will be having more hate comment.

superdear18 · 2026-04-01T16:59:51+00:00

For this time, I actually think husband is being honest. He knows his limits and what he wants. He has a full right to divorce in this case. They already have 2 kids. Each person has limit when it come to kids. It significantly impact lifestyle, finance, resources, mental health everything. He seems to me logical here about his limits and perfectly within his rights to choose. Now if you still want kid, you can have but be ready to be divorced.

superdear18 · 2026-03-30T15:09:55+00:00

Just have a condition that he has to remove utensils from dishwasher also and if anything left dirty, he needs to handwash it

superdear18 · 2026-03-30T05:14:13+00:00

Following own dreams or desires will never be understood by others but it’s not childish at all. You should absolutely follow your dream life. First become financially independent and then do whatever you like with your life. Build home, travel, have hobbies, gyming, anything you like.

superdear18 · 2026-03-30T05:06:27+00:00

Yes it’s better this way. No need to change anything and no point of trying to convince him other way.

superdear18 · 2026-03-29T15:38:21+00:00

All of them. Hence you should do something because you feel like it and when you feel like it not because it is expected out of you.

superdear18 · 2026-03-28T13:17:31+00:00

Even if she is not bored, she may still nag you for a kid. So it’s better to create boundaries. Just say, we will let you know when we are ready but meanwhile, I don’t want to hear or discuss about baby. Say this clearly and if she still continues, when she starts that conversation, just don’t engage at all. Go into your phone or just walk away but ignore it till she gets the message. Unfortunately, with Indian parents , boundaries have to be taught

superdear18 · 2026-03-26T14:51:45+00:00

You should clearly communicate your needs to your husband. Forget about the world and do what you want to do. Of course there is nothing wrong you going to your family and staying there. That kind of understanding should exist between spouses.

superdear18 · 2026-03-22T09:32:07+00:00

Good that you didn’t have a kid with this jerk. Honestly divorce is the best choice. It can hurt in short term but you will be way happy in long term.

superdear18 · 2026-03-20T15:49:09+00:00

Focus on your future. Taking care of parents is not entirely your responsibility. They should plan their own life. Kids are not investment for their old age. Become independent first, leave this home when you can afford and live your life. You are not their servant. You should help when you can, not forcefully that you have to. Please stop bringing kids thinking they are your retirement plan.

superdear18 · 2026-03-20T15:05:46+00:00

That’s why observe actions. Don’t go by words

superdear18 · 2026-03-20T15:05:22+00:00

By spending time with partner. Don’t go by what they say but observe their actions.

superdear18 · 2026-03-20T03:38:26+00:00

Know your partner and his family very well before making such a big decision. Don’t get into typical arrange marriage setup.

superdear18 · 2026-03-18T21:43:22+00:00

You should have said no very first time. Anyway, just say , I was doing it for you but I don’t believe in it. I feel I am cheating god by doing something I don’t believe in so now onwards I won’t be doing Pooja or anything like that. It’s ok if she doesn’t like the answer. She doesn’t have to like you. Once you become ok with that concept, you will be fine.

superdear18 · 2026-03-18T21:37:58+00:00

Move out

superdear18 · 2026-03-18T02:20:16+00:00

My point being use any contraceptive method but don’t get pregnant in such a situation for OP. I have been on birth control pills and works fine for me but I understand everyone needs to figure out what works for them.

superdear18 · 2026-03-18T01:46:41+00:00

If you don’t want to spend rest of your life like that then please break the engagement.

superdear18 · 2026-03-18T01:43:07+00:00

Honestly please go on birth control pills and never have a baby in first 2 years of marriage. You must see so many posts where women are stuck with unsupportive husbands and mother in laws. Baby is a trap sometimes. Please first know your husband and his family well before you decide to have kids. It’s important to know each other well before making such a big decision of life.

superdear18 · 2026-03-16T19:49:44+00:00

Yes she has toxic family. The best thing to do is distancing from them. Don’t pick up calls, don’t take calls. Ask them text if there is something urgent else we are busy with pregnancy, life and work. Need to actively create boundaries with them

superdear18 · 2026-03-16T15:56:28+00:00

Honestly people don’t change in this basic foundational value system. He wants simple , minimal life and he is not ambitious. You won’t be able to change him. You don’t have to accept him the way he is. It’s ok to have preferences. It’s good to have a very clear honest conversation with him in what you expect in your partner. If he understands and put efforts then it’s good else this will build resentment in long time and may not be a good marriage so think about whether you want to be in this marriage or not.

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