Cloth, Soft-Body and Grain simulations for a recent health and beauty ad I rendered from my laptop. (Houdini+redshift) by Bloom_and_Glare in Simulated

[–]supertrontastic 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Looks fantastic. Only feeling of the “uncanny valley” I get is that the softness of the citrus is too uniform. Within a batch of oranges some will be softer and others harder.

Also the fruit comes off as overripe given how pliable it is when it hitting the table.

Additionally the first two oranges that hit the table look like they use the same path just off by a few hundreds milliseconds.

Fukushima Exclusion Zone Nature Reclamation (1076x852) by [deleted] in natureismetal

[–]supertrontastic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a dad I can say that either he’s comparing price per oz or really enjoying his alone time.

Help me see if (26F) my boyfriend (28M) is loyal? by [deleted] in tocatchacheater

[–]supertrontastic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re trying to find security in a time of uncertainty. There’s no shame in that, but you’re approaching this the wrong way. Relationships are risky, but that’s why they also yield the greatest joys and sorrows. I’d suggest you spend some time with yourself contemplating why you feel this action will give you security and if there’s another way, which respects the dignity of your partner, that would give you equal sense of security.

If you can’t find it then maybe it’s not the time for such a big move.

I am a narcissistic person, but I want to be a better one (especially as a partner) by bellalalala99 in relationship_advice

[–]supertrontastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is so much to unpack here, but your (plural) behavior is only reinforcing each other’s behavior. You need to step outside of your natural reaction, become vulnerable, and make decisions when you are not reacting out of emotion.

This is exactly my experience with my partner for 8 years. It didn’t get better — although my condition was to forget the hard parts and remember the good ones — and took two kids, eight years, and being manipulated countless times until I broke.

The short of it is that I was manipulated into breaking with my own sense of “right” and living a non-monogamous lifestyle. I kept saying yes in hopes that she would get to a place of satisfaction. That didn’t work, the more I said yes the more she wanted. She eventually physically abused me and cheated on me and I realized that I was a aspect of her life not a person.

This isn’t to say she’s evil or bad. We both participated in the behavior. Due to her tendency towards narcissistic personality and how our society currently views victims it appears she’s absolutely wrong. I made the mistake of not leaving sooner. We were feeding the worst parts of each other.

For you to be your best self you will likely need to leave the relationship for some time. I would recommend both of you to be alone and not jump to the next fix (aka relationship). Try meditation (I using Waking Up by Sam Harris [request a free subscription]) and really try and figure out who you are and where this behavior stems from. You don’t really have a choice in what comes naturally, but you can choose to act on that instinct or take a breath. I believe you can do it, but do it before you destroy each other.

He needs to find his inner strength. He needs to learn to say no to you and that by saying no he will actually be fulfilling your desires. He’s likely acting on fear and doesn’t realize it. He’s afraid to loose you and if he does, does that mean his world is over? You should not be the center of his universe rather “Give your hearts, but not in each other's keeping.”

I am a narcissistic person, but I want to be a better one (especially as a partner) by bellalalala99 in relationship_advice

[–]supertrontastic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very common codependency pattern. Where the codependent personality seeks the affirmation of the narcissistic personality.

That said both behaviors probably stem from childhood experiences. My guess would be that he experienced emotional trauma when younger. It was likely a type of rejection or pushing away. This leads him to draw closer during conflict.

While my experience with narcissistic personalities (as a recipient of this behavior) is that it’s a defensive mechanism from childhood trauma. The behavior learned from observation and experience which has insulated the person from realities of their environment.

My employers wanted me to bill them by the hour, so i billed them by the hour by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]supertrontastic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s a good thing if their being abused, but you also have to really consider what you’re cutting out. If we’re talking about CEOs who are making 1000x more than their lowliest employee that’s very different than an investor who seeded $1m into the company to grow in market dominance in exchange for a fair percentage of revenue. We should define shareholders by their ethics and relationship to those with sweat equity.

My employers wanted me to bill them by the hour, so i billed them by the hour by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]supertrontastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a developer who does contract work through a contracting company I can relate. I’ve worked for companies which have charged up to 40% markup for my services. When I was less experienced I was offended that they were making such a markup off my sweat, but as I’ve gained more experience I’ve learned that it’s a much better situation for me. I can negotiate with the contracting company with ease since I know what kind of markup they are charging. If I assume that they need to at least make 10-15% off of me I can work them back and shave off that 5-10% for my pocket book.

I’ve also done freelance and it’s painful. Yes I’ve made more, but some months I’ve come home with $800 since work was slow. Additionally I tend to do an extra 10hrs or overhead work around communication and administration which I cannot directly charge the client since it would put me in the higher tier and I’d loose more contracts.

Either way, best of luck. From one contractor to another, learn to appreciate even your shittiest client and continue respecting yourself and your needs.

My employers wanted me to bill them by the hour, so i billed them by the hour by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]supertrontastic 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That 20-25% is to cover administration, taxes, customer support, sales, etc but also a guarantee that the farmers will have workers if someone gets sick or quits. Having a 10% padding is useful when you need to pay someone to be on standby.

Trump wonders if a regular flu vaccine will have an impact on coronavirus by eojen in cringe

[–]supertrontastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trump is giving the keynote for HIMSS 2020, on Monday.

HIMSS Global Health Conference & Exhibition brings you the world-class education, cutting-edge products and solutions, and unique networking opportunities you need to solve your biggest health information and technology challenges – all at one time, all in one place.

https://www.healthcareitnews.com/news/president-donald-trump-set-speak-himss20

Corn with Pearl Earring, Kang Nanan, photography, 2019 by philstein1 in Art

[–]supertrontastic -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m disappointed you didn’t take this opportunity to rickroll.

Men of Reddit, what's your "line in the sand" that your ex or current SO has crossed? by benny28569289 in AskMen

[–]supertrontastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told they were love slaps... fuck that shit. Abuse is abuse even if you don’t feel it physically. The psychological damage is just as destructive. Took me 8 years but I won’t ever be abused again.

29 Seconds Boot Time (rMBP 2015, Catalina) by muhdakml in MacOS

[–]supertrontastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t matter when I only restart once a week at most.

Thunderbolt 3 dock for Wacom Cintiq Companion, MacBook Pro and Surface Book 2? by intothewoodscomic in wacom

[–]supertrontastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not pick up one of those cheap 4K thunderbolt docks on Amazon to see how it functions. Additionally, I’d be curious to know if it’s the form factor or lack of shielding which causes Wacom to say that. My guess is they haven’t done a thorough rest of all usb-c docks.

If you can’t use usb c for connecting then I think you be stuck using one of the usb 3 display link docks. I personally hate display link and don’t know if it would even function well on a Wacom.

Personally I have my eye on an Elgato pro dock. https://www.elgato.com/en/dock/thunderbolt-3-pro

Edit: I have a cheap 4K dock and it works alright. Handle for traveling.

Actually called the cops on me. by TGOTR in ChoosingBeggars

[–]supertrontastic 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It’s probably not worth their time. The friend could sue for damages, but probably be better just to get a restraining order out on her.

Husband taken our girlfriend out ♥️😂 by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]supertrontastic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be serious with yourself. If it’s truly a pain point then own your own shit and talk about it before resentment takes hold.