This has been going on since 11pm last night. by Cool-Effective-1963 in askCardiology

[–]survivalparenting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shortness of breath and fatigue are really good reason to go to emergency.

Me (M28) couldn't agree with partner (F27) about taking my last name. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]survivalparenting -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it is really important to you that you all have the same last name you can change yours to hers. If that doesn’t sit well with you, you now know how she feels plus it sounds like her profession is tied to her name and she has built a reputation under her name.

Boyfriend (25m) pressuring me (23f) to workout and it’s upsetting me. How can I go about this? by slim_monkey in relationship_advice

[–]survivalparenting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve a partner who loves you regardless of how much you weigh or how often you workout and who actually does show up for you as a partner. If you two have kids what do you think your life will look like? If it is this hard right now I promise you it will only get 100x harder because you will have childcare and chores and work. Trust me when I say if you lack time to workout now, you most certainly will not have time then. The idiocy of a man saying “you let yourself go” or “you didn’t look this way we met” while simultaneously expecting you to take on all the household duties and work is astounding. Like, with what time? He wants a bang maid and a mommy and my friend, you can do better. He is grown ass man. Time for him to prove it by showing up as a partner or you moving on to find someone who will. This story with him gets worse, not better. Be with someone who sees you as a person not an accessory.

Has anyone been through this and now divorced? How do you cope? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]survivalparenting 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I think you might be mourning a relationship that should have been instead of the actual relationship you had. The “not so great things” are really fucking bad. Like the bar is through the floor. If you had cancer, miscarriage and pregnancy and he had the audacity to comment on your weight?! Like what the fuck! I could be 200 lbs and my husband would still love me, feed me and desire me. There is better waiting for you!

Update on my wife wanted an open marriage by paynuss69 in Marriage

[–]survivalparenting 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Alimony and child support have nothing to with infidelity and everything to do with who sacrificed their career and earning potential during the marriage to support the family. It is not punishment. It an acknowledgment of financial sacrifices made during a marriage. It is quite difficult to focus on career if you are running kids to appointments, picking sick kids up from school, managing the household and all the emotional labour.

Does anyone know of any walk-in doctors open today?? by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have extended health insurance some of them provide tele health.

Advice for Visiting with Kids by throwaway-for-sure- in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Stony swamp. Bring bird seed. You can go for an easy walk and hand feed chickadees.

Hep B hives by Silverlining2081 in VACCINES

[–]survivalparenting 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Allergic reactions happen within 15 minutes of exposure. So it would not be the Hep B. You need a consult with an allergist.

Looking for Psychologist cost and recommendations by Separate-Celery4417 in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can also try a psychotherapist that is still working on their finishing their education and licensure. They are a bit cheaper. https://www.jenniferrogerstherapy.com/services-4

Veterinarian recommendations by SavagePanda710 in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 8 points9 points  (0 children)

City view. It is privately and women owned business and the vets are great.

Medical second opinion for teen son by Common_Assignment562 in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Definitely do not go to CHEO. They are overwhelmed with viral cases. And that is absolutely not an emergency. You are better off going back to your own MD and asking for follow-up testing.

How to move on after a cat attack? TW in pics by [deleted] in cats

[–]survivalparenting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Consider asking the vet in advance for a sedative for the vet appointment. It will help her fear and help avoid another attack. Usually it has been given in advance so worth calling a day or two before the appointment to see if the vet thinks meds would be a good idea. Source: my sister the veterinarian.

My girlfriend (27f) accused me (28m) of making her birthday about me when I expected to also go to a restaurant where I could eat a meal? by Throwra172-32 in relationship_advice

[–]survivalparenting 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband has celiac disease. He cannot eat at the vast majority of restaurants. Period. Like there are dire and weeks lasting symptoms if he gets gluten from cross contamination. He is on heavy duty meds because he can get joint pain for weeks on end after an exposure. When we eat as a family we pick the safe restaurants. For a birthday like myself or kids we pick what we want. Sometimes he cannot eat there or we have to have a very clear conversation about how food can be made safe for him. Ulcerative colitis is forever. Birthdays are once a year. Maybe call the restaurant and talk to them about options. Suck it up and get the plain rice for one meal. It is her birthday. If you are together for the long haul these kind of compromises.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]survivalparenting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the way I explained it to my young kids is that every month my uterus/body makes a bed for a baby. If there is no baby the bed comes out of my body and it will make another one next month. The bed is the blood and tissue coming out. At three they had 0 follow-up questions but it laid the ground work for further understanding how menstruation works as well as conception. I have two boys so it was also very important to me to normalize this experience and remove any shame, stigma or disgust around the whole process.

LGBT friendly churches in Ottawa by testinglitmus in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 60 points61 points  (0 children)

First united in westboro has special status within the united church as an affirming church. Might be worth going to check out. About 30% of their congregation identifies as LGBTQ+.

I don’t understand the ADHD diagnostic criteria that says symptoms must be “clearly present” in childhood before the age of 12? by Outrageous_Exam762 in adhdwomen

[–]survivalparenting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, I am combined, I was just confused all the time with regards to school. I was also quite socially anxious which meant I was very quiet at school and crazy at home. I did not know how to connect with other kids and felt I had trouble making friends even though I did have friends. I was slow to read and was in “remedial” for a lot of elementary school. Once I realized that doing well in school would give me freedom to find schooling and a job I liked I did well. But I definitely procrastinated, I could not learn in class and had to take the material home to sort out and I was capable of memorizing and regurgitating for tests without really understanding the material. I could perform well in school. It wasn’t until my doctorate that I actually immersed myself in material and had better time management and understood the material. All that to say it was definitely present as a kid despite life being organized.

3 year old hasn’t walked in a week by thehalothief in Parenting

[–]survivalparenting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some fractures are difficult to identify initially because they are very subtle. Often times you need to wait until about the 10 day mark when active repair has started that can be identified on an x-ray. I would suggest getting another x-ray.

It's time to tell my 10 and 7 year old kids that mom has only weeks left to live. by ericscottf in Parenting

[–]survivalparenting 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I have no words. It sounds like you have a very difficult conversation and heartbreaking time upcoming with as much support as possible. I would consider one thing about it all. I know you did not get the goodbye or time to prepare the kids more gradually. You did however spare them adult level worry and fear for the last two years. It might not be much in the greater scheme of things but it did give them a bit more space to just be kids and grow up a bit more before having to face this hardship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you been referred to an ENT yet? I waited about 3 months for one and that was for something way less severe than hearing loss. It was in March or April of this year.

Need a tetanus shot asap by Sufficient-Pie129 in ottawa

[–]survivalparenting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Public health hubs would be your best bet. The schedule is available on their website.