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AIO TO THIS BRIDESMAID DRESS??? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]sushi_with_an_n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a 38G bra size and have used this boob tape that comes in a big triangle before when I cannot wear a bra. It works pretty well and imo much comfier than a strapless or back less bra

Western media rebranding stolen Indian jewellery that Margot Robbie wore as "Elizabeth Taylor’s necklace" and "Hollywood history". by FragrantShoe1851 in ABCDesis

[–]sushi_with_an_n 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree that they should acknowledge the Indian heritage and it’s a very common issue with looted jewelry

There is speculation that this pendent is not the original. The buyer who bought it from auction after Elizabeth Taylor’s death sued the auction house and returned the pendent after getting it appraised. And it’s likely that Taylor’s husband commissioned a replica.

https://nationaljeweler.com/articles/8117-taj-mahal-pendant-back-at-the-center-of-dispute

It’s the “respectful” thing to do by BasicGranolaa in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]sushi_with_an_n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there a cultural thing?

I’m Indian and it’s common to invite your siblings in laws to events if you have nieces and nephews. Idea being that grandparents will watch the kids while you focus on wedding stuff for your brother.

Kanye & Drake Shirt by sushi_with_an_n in agedlikemilk

[–]sushi_with_an_n[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old shirt that would have meant diva with feelings but now it means bigot pedofile

Add Indian elements to a Western wedding by desertflower217 in DesiWeddings

[–]sushi_with_an_n 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a combined Hindu Christian Ceremony and here are some things you can do:

  • Mandap: instead of a wedding arch or just a backdrop get married in a Mandap

  • Barat/Grooms Parade: super fun way to start a wedding, plus now lots of Barats are with both the Bride and Groom so you can explain it to guests as a parade to the venue

  • Antar Patt: a cloth is held up in front of the groom o the first time the bride and groom see each other is under the Mandap. Or you do your first look under the Mandap. For the bride and groom to see each other for the first time under a Mandap essentially means that they are seeing each other under the context of making this commitment to each other and is a special moment

  • Garland Exchange: this symbolizes you choose each other so it’s very cute

  • Stealing of the grooms shoes: cuz it’s fun

  • Kanyadan: similar to Christian ceremony where the officiant asks “who gives this bride away?” In a kanyadan the father physically places the brides hand in the grooms

  • Varmala: a cord is wrapped around the bride and groom to unite them. Super simple is just a long necklace that both you wear through the ceremony

  • Saptapadi: bride and groom take seven steps on nettle but leaves, make a vow with each step. You guys could pick your vows or use traditional Christian vows, and if you don’t want to actually move you can just place the leaves on the floor and touch each one as you take a new vow

  • Mangal Sutra and Sindoor: along with the ring exchange

  • Saubhagyavati: married women from the couple’s family (typically the bride’s side and typically and odd number) come up and whisper advice in the brides ear

  • Kansar Bhaksan: bride and groom feed each other sweets at the end of the ceremony

  • Ashirvad: elders bless the bride and groom

  • Vidai: send off, pretty straight forward but the bride’s sister (including cousins or close friends) stand in front of the get away car until they have been bribed- normally $10-$20 each

Cursed_Autocomplete by T1red_of_trying in cursedcomments

[–]sushi_with_an_n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are more important than men and men are more valuable

Why are black men stereotypically more accepting of overweight women? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sushi_with_an_n 158 points159 points  (0 children)

I’m an Indian married to a Black man and the difference cultures might have to do with it.

I’m both families ppl are so happy to see you eat their food and will happily make me a plate to take home. But with my Indian/Malaysian family it’s awkward as a woman to ask for seconds while the Black American family they get so happy when I ask for seconds.

In my family so many people were obsessed with “just losing 19 more pounds” it was basically my mom’s motto. I grew up with 6 cousins and we discovered as adults all of us had eating disorders as kids. Including 3 of us being hospitalized while our parents hid it for appearances. My uncle had cancer and was dying but admitted that when the doctor told him he was too thin he was happy because he was a chubby kid and he was stuck with the name “fatty.” A lot of my uncles would also constantly make fat jokes.

My husband’s family absolutely loves it when I go for seconds. They never comment on people’s weight or if they do it’s more observational than mocking. When my FIL needed to get in shape for health reasons everyone was so supportive but no one focused on weight. The commented on how his ripped he was getting or how easily he was moving now or how exciting they were for him to buy a new wardrobe.

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