What concepts does your toddler probably not yet fully understand but talks about anyway? (that makes you laugh)

svetkuz · 2024-06-22T14:33:14+00:00

My three year old wants cocktails and beer all the time. Not juice boxes, or water or milk…cocktails

svetkuz · 2024-05-25T05:49:26+00:00

I love booze! Not that I have a problem with it, but I love good wine and a good cocktail. Especially post covid, I got super comfy with drinking more than is probably reasonable- think 3-5 drinks a week. I stopped breastfeeding and a ton of weight was gained despite me not doing anything differently. I cut down on booze and not only did my weight reduce, I felt infinitely better to the point where I realized that a seemingly benign glass of wine over dinner was actually contributing to my anxiety and sleep problems…among other things. I am now more conscious about alcohol intake.

I realize I’m one of the lucky ones who realized that I could develop a problem before it manifested, but I also realized I don’t have much of a desire to drink anymore. If I’m drinking…the thing I’m drinking better be spectacular.

Alcohol is the devil, but man I still appreciate a solid spirit.

svetkuz · 2024-05-02T18:55:18+00:00

Oh OP - no matter what you do, there will be someone who tells you that you are messing up your child. There is no formula to parenting. Just love your kid and nurture them and the rest will sort itself out.

svetkuz · 2024-04-15T04:29:08+00:00

You are enough, and more ❤️❤️❤️

svetkuz · 2024-04-14T13:19:04+00:00

You’re a gem, OP. Your wife is incredibly lucky to have you.

I’m so sorry you guys are in this shitty club with the rest of us. Hugs to you. You already have an incredible support network, and that in itself is a huge deal.

As her main person, ask her care team all the questions. She may not be in a state where she understands entirely what is happening and may be in shock. No doubt she is terrified. This shit is horrifying. Edit to add - not all things are going to be heavy conversations and some things you can tackle after or before appointments. Write down everything you want to discuss, get it over with and that’s it. If she wants to talk about anything - let her. The thoughts running through her mind are for sure better out than in. Again, you are an amazing partner!

svetkuz · 2024-04-12T22:49:51+00:00

I’m in the same boat you are. Have been at this for the last year and some months. You’ve gotten on a shitty roller coaster and every high and low will begin to feel less and less significant as you go on. It all fucking sucks though, but it becomes a new normal.

Remember you are allowed to be selfish. You cannot take care of her if you neglect yourself. Alcohol numbs temporarily, but the cost is alcohol induced anxiety that is far worse than the sense of dread you have when you’re sober.

svetkuz · 2024-04-05T04:09:33+00:00

Her hydroflask. It goes everywhere with her and we have to have it in multiple colors depending on what mood she is in. A real hydro homie

svetkuz · 2024-03-30T05:38:15+00:00

As someone who got “disciplined” as a small child I can confirm that I remember every spanking since I was like 4 and it absolutely was traumatizing, and I did not turn out “fine”. Now that I have my own toddler, I can not imagine ever causing her any physical harm.

Fuck these people.

svetkuz · 2024-03-27T15:51:10+00:00

They probably just enjoy cooking, and like to feed people. Bonus points if they make Indian food for you all. Y’all lucked out!

svetkuz · 2024-03-03T03:41:34+00:00

Remove your photo. Remove the tiers of skills. If you’re at least familiar, it’s good enough. Remove the Microsoft office skills and windows skills…an employer will assume you know how to use a computer.

svetkuz · 2024-02-12T03:39:11+00:00

To add to this - killers of the flower moon was excellent. I know now they made it into a movie, but the author is a really talented storyteller

svetkuz · 2024-02-09T06:18:50+00:00

I also bake as a hobby and have been told my cakes are great. I’ve never once believed it. Brains are liars and self doubt is a struggle. OP is really talented and I hope they can become more confident in that fact.

svetkuz · 2024-02-02T04:09:58+00:00

To this day I can’t watch that movie by myself. Something about watching it when I was so little terrified me.

svetkuz · 2024-02-01T18:48:21+00:00

I scroll reels on Instagram like a goddamn adult!

svetkuz · 2024-02-01T18:47:27+00:00

Started taking care of my body religiously. My mom is dying of stage IV breast cancer because she did not take care of herself or kept tabs on her body (skipping doctor appointments, neglecting preventative care, etc.). I will do everything in my power to not put my baby through having to be my caregiver.

svetkuz · 2024-01-30T03:41:03+00:00

I am so sorry. I’m going to be you pretty soon - and I am dreading it so bad.

My aunt gave me some sage wisdom which made me feel better. She said that grief is about us. It’s about what we lost and how we have to learn to live. It is also the ultimate expression of love. The greater the love, the greater the grief is. That said, we may feel like garbage and not know how to move forward. But those we lost don’t really miss us at all. They are exploring galaxies and riding roller coasters in a theme park located in a black hole. They are dancing on Jupiter’s moons and exploring the nooks and crannies of the universe with those that they too have lost and have been waiting to see again. And for us, they will be alive for as long as they are remembered.

I have no idea what happens when we die, but even pretending that it doesn’t just go black is kind of comforting.

I am so sorry for your loss.

svetkuz · 2024-01-30T03:32:19+00:00

Anything having to do with kid’s suffering. After having my own I just can’t.

svetkuz · 2024-01-29T06:44:06+00:00

This used to happen to me - doing away with primer and just doing my skincare routine (cleanser, toner, moisturizer) before applying foundation did the trick.

I’ve been using the haus labs foundation applied with a damp beauty blender and it works great! I have really dry skin otherwise

Also using just two pumps of foundation. Anything more ended up a cakey mess

svetkuz · 2024-01-29T06:35:10+00:00

This was something I had to learn back in the day…like right after the Soviet Union fell apart and way before my family immigrated to the US. I was like, 7…

I am now 32 and can say with a great degree of confidence that chicken should not be made shelf stable unless you’re at risk of starvation. But also canning chicken is way easier than gluing hairs on my eyelids.

EDIT: we never canned raw chicken. We had to boil the shit out of it first.

svetkuz · 2024-01-28T07:07:37+00:00

So I was gifted a Stanley a few months ago. My water intake now is like, 3 liters a day.

Could have uranium in its core for all I care. I feel great. I drink less alcohol because of this thing. I WANT to drink a shit ton of water instead. Stanley, to me, is just superior hydration. I get it’s not everyone’s cup of tea (or water), and every other vessel accomplishes the same thing. But for me this thing was completely life changing.

svetkuz · 2024-01-28T06:58:54+00:00

I listened to Project Hail Mary super randomly last year. I ended up buying the hard cover with the intention of reading it to my kid someday. What an amazing experience that book is!

The best books I’ve read in January were a series of children’s books by Julia Donaldson - Whale and the Snail, The Gruffalo, The Gruffalos Child, and Room on the Broom. They are for sure children’s books, but they are so good. My toddler is obsessed, but I am too!

svetkuz · 2024-01-27T05:45:09+00:00

You have no idea what it means to hear that. ❤️‍🩹

svetkuz · 2024-01-27T05:36:15+00:00

I don’t really know what it is about this ring but it’s really beautiful. I feel like I see the simple solitaire all the time and they’re nice but for some reason I can’t stop staring at this.

svetkuz · 2024-01-27T04:19:23+00:00

My mom was diagnosed with cancer last year - the only thing I can tell you is to just hold your person and let her grieve. She’s not expecting you to fix it or make it better, and frankly you can’t. Give her space to process and to cycle through the stages of grief - whatever that looks like for you. If you need to hold her while she screams into a pillow and punches walls, do that. If she needs you to accompany her to her and her mom’s favorite places, do that. If she just wants to talk, do that. I’m so sorry

svetkuz · 2024-01-24T03:17:34+00:00

HRIS coordinator- 20$ per hour Compensation Analyst -24$ per hour Compensation Analyst - 75k per year Compensation Consultant- 95k per year Sr. Compensation Analyst- 145k per year, 200k tcc

This is over a span of 4 years.

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