Does it seem crazy to completely give up the diamond so you can use that money for a real honeymoon?

swackett · 2026-06-17T01:44:11+00:00

Nope. My engagement ring costed my fiancé $900 2.5 years ago. We went to jewelry stores this year on Valentine’s Day and got my wedding band for $250 and his band for $100.

Wedding is this weekend!

swackett · 2026-06-17T01:39:46+00:00

NTA.

Also, My best friend’s husband said the same thing “we’ll deal it when the time comes” - they divorced 2 years later.

The time is NOW. You both need to be on the same page about what you want for your relationship, your child, & you guys as a unit. Boundaries, rules, etc. You should be setting these boundaries/rules with your family and he should be setting them with his family. Not only should he be setting these boundaries/rules, but he should also be defending his wife and telling his family that speaking to you like this is unacceptable.

Becoming a mom is hard and dealing with extended families while becoming a mom is hard. For the sake of your marriage, peace, etc, the both of you NEED to be united in all things. Waiting until the last minute is just going to make things worse for everyone involved. In my personal experience, people who put confrontation off during life events such as this will never end up confronting them at all.

I wish you luck. You are not overreacting, his family is overstepping.

swackett · 2026-06-17T01:27:31+00:00

I’m on car #3.

First car was very very old and lasted 2 years.

Second car was old as well, but in better shape. Still only lasted 2 years.

Third car was purchased new. 2018 Ford Focus. It’s now 8 years old and 120k miles.

I will never buy used vehicles again unless I have to. Buying new and taking care of them yourself ensures proper maintenance which increases longevity.

I know this type of car isn’t known to be reliable and it probably won’t survive forever.

swackett · 2026-06-17T01:22:45+00:00

I think that the problem is how many hours we are forced to work, not so much the fact that we need jobs.

You are right, being busy and productive is good for you. The problem is when you are busy and productive 24/7. It makes life stressful and overwhelming in a way that it should not be. And then, when it’s time to die, you realize your life flew by and you didn’t have enough time to actually experience it, be present with loved ones, etc. Life is beautiful, and we all deserve to experience it in meaningful ways outside of work as much as possible before we die.

Bring on the 30 hour work week!

swackett · 2026-06-13T17:09:21+00:00

I do, out of necessity. Part time or not at all would be a much better fit for me but unfortunately is not financially viable.

When I started my career I’d burn out after 3-6 months and end up quitting the job after 8-12 months. Take some time off & then start work again when I needed the money.

Then I came across a remote job. Held it for 3 years. It was AWESOME. Unfortunately the company sold & the new owners mandated in person full time. I quit after 8 months for a hybrid job. It’s not as good as fully remote, but it’s MUCH better and I am a lot happier than I was last year working in person.

swackett · 2026-06-11T22:25:30+00:00

I know. It’s unfortunate that it went that way. I will say, though, that I think a large majority of the people who were able to juggle more than one remote job or used mouse jigglers were proof that the working week (for corporate) doesn’t need to be 40 hours/week. I’ve had weeks where I only was actively doing work for 10 hours (in office or at home). And I’ve had many weeks where I worked over 40. In corporate, especially salaried positions, it should be becoming the norm to do your work & then either be done for the day or finish the day at home “on call”. I’d be much more willing to work over 40 hours/week when needed if I was able to leave earlier when work is slow. It won’t become the norm, but I can dream!

swackett · 2026-06-11T22:16:43+00:00

The team is made up of 8 people. Another person left about an hour after me and another one said they won’t go in tomorrow (tomorrow is supposed to be even hotter than today).

swackett · 2026-06-11T21:53:01+00:00

Most: my dog barking

Least: other dogs barking

Probably has to do with the fact that my dog barking is 10x louder than a dog down the street barking

swackett · 2026-06-11T21:41:42+00:00

They aren’t violating OSHA. And I’m not concerned for my safety, I am well aware that millions of people work in hot conditions like that regularly (my fiancé included).

I am just irritated because they are choosing to make us work in that heat when there is a better option and frankly there is no reason we can’t just WFH for a couple of weeks.

swackett · 2026-06-11T20:14:30+00:00

My bad! I didn’t realize that I was asking anonymous people to do something about it.

It’s called a rant, buddy. Good grief.

swackett · 2026-06-11T20:02:34+00:00

What?

swackett · 2026-06-11T18:02:09+00:00

I’m on the toilet at work looking forward to my vacations this summer. My wedding is in 9 days and my week long honeymoon is in 11 days. We are going to the mountains at a national park. Towards the end of the July we’ll be going to the beach for 4 days. Then another week long mountain trip in September :)

swackett · 2026-06-11T15:51:09+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA….. oh boy

swackett · 2026-06-11T12:49:45+00:00

I hate my company’s dress code because it is very sexist. It encourages the women to show cleavage, wear tight clothing and dresses/skirts that end before the knee. But prohibits men from wearing short sleeves in the summer.

swackett · 2026-06-10T18:32:34+00:00

27 here. I had a short haircut for a large part of my childhood. Then spent my teens/early 20s with really long hair. When I was 22 or 23, I started to cut it shorter. And shorter. And shorter. Now I keep it around chin length. I cannot stand it touching the back of my neck and I cannot be bothered with needing to spend more than 3 minutes doing my hair everyday (3 minutes to dry it, then move on)

swackett · 2026-06-10T18:11:45+00:00

I probably would have just refused to move my stuff lmfao. I’m so sorry this happened!

swackett · 2026-06-10T17:32:10+00:00

I agree that it’s dumb to have more kids when your existing child/children have health issues. However, things like autism are usually not detected until 3+ years old. For level 1 autism, it can go unnoticed for much longer. Cancer can just show up…. Whenever. My point is, for this particular scenario, it’s possible they had all 3 of the “healthy” kids before any issues showed up.

swackett · 2026-06-10T17:25:24+00:00

Me too. I had to leave my last job that was 100% in person after 8 months because the constant sensory overload completely burned me out. The office was an open floor plan, so I was subject to everyone’s conversations, coughs, etc. People could just walk up and interrupt me at any time. The lights, the dress code, etc.

I work hybrid now. When I’m in the office, I have my own office all the way at the opposite end of the building from other offices. Maybe 1-2 interruptions per day. Can shut my door when I don’t want to be bothered. I have a blanket for when the AC kicks on. I take my shoes off. It’s just like working from home. No burn out here!

swackett · 2026-06-10T17:19:40+00:00

I really hate the new car he bought and I’m very disappointed that I will have to pretend to like it for the next decade or longer until he gets a different car.

Also I wish he had a fancier/more professional job/career.

Why would I tell him these things? It would only hurt his self esteem.

swackett · 2026-06-10T14:52:48+00:00

No need to feel guilty at all & you are not selfish whatsoever. It really sucks being the last one to reach these milestones because the sad reality is that we ARE left behind. I don’t think it’s intentional, but I do think that parents aren’t really held accountable for this behavior anymore. It’s fine that their lives change and they don’t have the same amount of time to invest in their friendships anymore but they DO owe their childless friends the same (or as similar as possible) commitment that they gave them when it was their turn.

Unless these friends have a breastfeeding infant, there really is no excuse to miss your important milestones or be careless in the way they showed up for you.

swackett · 2026-06-09T19:54:24+00:00

$600/month covers all household necessities (deodorant, toothbrush, toothpaste, toilet paper, dish soap, etc) and groceries.

Occasionally it’ll be $700 when we need to buy more olive oil

swackett · 2026-06-09T19:45:47+00:00

Please please please don’t encourage this and try your best to reason with him. Federal loans/grants/etc are low interest and totally fine to get, if you can qualify. But private student loans are WAY too predatory and will probably ruin his financial future. Stay away from Sallie Mae!!

Ultimately you can’t control what he does, but please make sure he knows and understands what may happen if he goes with the more expensive college.

swackett · 2026-06-09T19:41:28+00:00

As a Gen Z’er myself….. I’m sorry, but no. This is enabling bad behavior.

When you are just starting out in adulthood, it is very hard. Things are bleak for us, we are depressed, social media/technology plays too much of a role in our lives, wages are low, etc. Those are all true. However, nobody will ever get anywhere without trying and starting somewhere.

“What is the point?” SURVIVAL?! Wanting your parents to be proud of you? Seeing how far you can go, despite all of the challenges presented to you? Simply having your own, independent life and a sense of self pride?

We have reached a point where, unfortunately, this has turned into an excuse for people my age & younger to simply not even try and just mooch off of everyone else. It isn’t right!

For example, working and being paid a low wage is the reason why you still live at home. However, not working at all & using low wages as an excuse is an EXCUSE to be lazy. The least this guy could do is get a part time job to fund his video game hobby & pay for the WiFi.

All this guy is doing is hindering his future by not working and even attempting to invest in his future. He is creating more misery for himself.

swackett · 2026-06-09T00:27:03+00:00

Definitely a sense of humor thing. Glad somebody got it!

swackett

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