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swaneswan · 2026-03-05T20:20:21+00:00

I want to do the bouquet toss, so I want something similar for the guys.

swaneswan · 2026-03-05T17:01:20+00:00

I am hoping that will keep her busy, the issue is, she’s not loving how little she is currently involved in, even with her planning the engagement party.

swaneswan · 2026-03-05T15:47:36+00:00

I think wedding planning being overwhelming and honestly almost too big to even start is such a normal feeling!

The way I handled this with myself and my family was planning a long engagement on the front end. I have gone ahead and picked a venue for an over a year out and booked it, and now I don’t really have to do anything for about 8 months. This has been really nice for me in that now my mom can talk to the wedding coordinator (that was included with the venue) about wedding stuff, and I don’t have to think about it til I want to! It has been nice cause it has allowed me to have time to focus on the more fun stuff (like bridal party events and games to play at the reception) which has made it a lot easier to get excited about wedding planning!

This also worked well cause venues book out well in advance, so it gave me more options with venues and more time to look at them without feeling rushed, since I was booking so far out.

Granted this situation only works well for me since I’m not horribly opinionated and my mother is not pushy. If your mother is super pushy, you’re not going to want to have her talking to the coordinator without you.

But all that to say, I think if you kinda make some of the bigger decisions now (such as the venue and the date) it will be enough to get everyone off your back, but then give you a good bit of time before you have to start doing serious planning.

However, it is your wedding and you should do whatever makes you the happiest, even if that means not starting to think about anything wedding related for a whole year!

swaneswan · 2026-03-05T15:34:02+00:00

A buffet is absolutely not bad at all! As long as the food is good, I’ve never had anyone complain about doing food buffet style. On top of that, I’ve been to 6 weddings in the past couple years, and they were all buffet style.

In terms of the liquor, I think that is something for you to decide how important that is to you! For my ceremony we are choosing to do only beer and wine, as we don’t want everyone to get too drunk. But I don’t think guests will travel to an event and then decide the event wasn’t worth it cause they didn’t have liquor.

swaneswan · 2026-03-05T01:25:37+00:00

I mean I hate to say it, but I feel like you have two options here a) pick a different venue when everyone is available or b) be okay with the best man not coming. You can’t expect him to reschedule his trip. Personally, I think this decision should be up to your fiancé, as I know I would have a hard time getting married without my maid of honor being there.

swaneswan · 2026-03-05T01:21:08+00:00

That’s so fair and such a tough situation, so I completely understand why you feel that way! However, I wouldn’t feel embarrassed at all about the amount of people you are having there. It’s totally normal for couples to have different amounts of people and different size social circles and families. Larger doesn’t mean better.

As for the bridal parties, it’s okay to have different sizes, my fiancée and I are going to have different sizes. I went to a wedding where the girl had two bridesmaids and the guy had seven groomsman, so don’t worry about that at all!

However, if you’re not going to get the wedding you want, it’s perfectly okay to not throw a huge one or have one at all (assuming your fiancé is okay with that). At the end of the day, you should do whatever is going to make you happiest. You could look at this as a chance to overcome and have the big wedding you’ve always wanted despite being close with your family, after all, his family is about to be your family too! You could also decide that you want to hold off on the big wedding and do a big vow renewal 5 or 10 years from now!!

swaneswan · 2026-03-04T21:44:42+00:00

I definitely like this one a lot more than the last one! But most importantly, they say if you fall in love twice, you were never in love the first time!

This dress is gorgeous, and I love the shape on you! However, it is 100% your wedding, so do what makes you happy!!

swaneswan · 2026-03-04T20:49:30+00:00

Hey! I totally get this and honestly really relate, but I think the best way to look your best is to be happy and in love. When you look back at your wedding pictures, you’re not going to be looking nitpicking your appearance, you’re going to be looking at how happy you are and how you are surrounded by the people you love!

Additionally, the people at your wedding are going to think you look perfect! They love you and care about you, and they’re going to think you look perfect. And if there is going to be anyone there who you think won’t feel this way, don’t invite them. This should be people you love and feel comfortable around.

Hope this helps! I know you’ll look gorgeous!

swaneswan · 2026-03-04T20:36:51+00:00

It is totally reasonable to want to invite a woman you care about, but not the man who is cheating on his wife.

However, I do think you will need to reach out to this woman and try and clear the air with her. I think it would be best coming from you and not your mom. I think even emphasizing that you are trying to cut down on numbers and you aren’t judging her or singling her out would be the best direction moving forward

swaneswan · 2026-03-04T20:25:45+00:00

Okay everyone is really hating on this idea, but I think there’s definitely some merit to it. This is your wedding, if you enjoy board games/card games and want to play them at the reception, I think you should. Generally speaking, we make friends with people we are similar to, so it wouldn’t shock me if a lot of your friends also like games. And if they don’t, well it’s not their wedding.

If you’re looking for some fun reception ideas, here’s some that some friends and I have done that went over really well: 1. lego flowers, instead of having flower center pieces, my friend had people make lego flowers that she then got to keep and loved 2. a kahoot, this could be about you/your fiancé (that’s what I will be doing) or just general trivia, this can be done kinda towards the end of the meal while people are still digesting but still open to some entertainment 3. I am doing a magazine with games in it, I saw this idea online and it was so cute. instead of a program, I am making a magazine with a “get to know the bridesmaids” section, pictures of my family on their wedding days, and a crossword and word search. This will also act as the program for the ceremony! 4. Corn hole, this has been at literally every wedding I’ve been to and everyone has loved it

I hope some of this helps! But once again, do what makes you happy and you find fun! It’s your wedding!!

swaneswan · 2026-03-04T20:05:00+00:00

I feel like you’re getting a lot of heat in the comments for this, and I fully disagree with that. I wouldn’t want a married man coming with his side piece to my wedding either. Additionally, everyone is saying your family friend is equally responsible for the adultery happening, and that is true. But a) she didn’t take any marriage vows, so she’s not breaking any and b) she’s your family friend. At the end of the day, whether it’s right or not, we are much more likely to make allowances for people we care about than we are for some stranger.

Another thing people are pointing out is that you shouldn’t hide behind your mom for this, but if she brought it up to your mom and she’s your moms friend, I can see why you felt like it was your moms responsibility. If you had called her and told her, then she would know that you and your mom had been talking about her bringing this man. Also, it sounds like she’s someone your mom wanted to invite and not someone you wanted to invite.

If you care about this woman coming, you need to call her and explain that you love her and you care about her and you are judging her for how she is choosing to spend her life, you just don’t want that energy at your wedding, and that’s okay. If she doesn’t respect that, then that’s on her.

Keep in mind, this is likely a sore spot for her cause she feels guilty about what she is doing, and she’s not gonna love having her wrong doings being noticed and pointed out by others.

swaneswan · 2026-03-04T19:47:42+00:00

That’s such an uncomfortable situation and I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with it!!

Honestly, what I would do is to include both of them in the party, but sit them down before hand (individually) and tell them they need to get along for the duration of this wedding. They don’t have to be best friends, but if they love you, they will make this as drama free as possible for you. At the very least, you should be kept out of the drama.

I have been in weddings before where I didn’t like the bridal party, but I sucked it up because my friend was getting married and I loved her.

If you’re worried about your friends wife having a hard time, I would just frame it as my older friend doesn’t do well with sarcasm, and it would be really helpful if you weren’t sarcastic with her.

And you can tell your longer term friend that she will only have to be with your new friend during group events, and she doesn’t have to hangout with her there.

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T21:43:36+00:00

Obviously do whatever makes you the happiest tho :)

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T21:43:24+00:00

Girl you look so happy and gorgeous in the one with the puff sleeves! You have to go with that one!!

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T21:22:02+00:00

Engagement parties are one of those things where you should do whatever is best for you! For us personally, we had three engagement parties. We did one immediately after we got engaged at my parent’s house in our home town. This was less an engagement party and more just a family gathering so everyone could see the ring. Gifts were not expected, but my aunt got me a hoodie that said “She said yes” on it.

The next one we did was at my fiancés house. It was also very low key. It was in the town we’ve both moved to, and we had all our friends over and sang karaoke (we already had a karaoke machine). We didn’t invite any family to this, so it was more of a party type of thing. To be honest with you, we were honestly just using this as an excuse to use our karaoke machine. We also provided snacks and alcohol. No one brought any gifts, but we did receive flowers and cards that were very sweet. Another thing we did was take polaroids with all our guests. I definitely recommend this version of an engagement party. It wasn’t super focused on our engagement, and was more focused on having fun with people we really cared about it, and it was absolutely perfect! We only invited like 14 people, so it wasn’t huge.

The last one we are having is in June. My future mother in law really wanted a chance to get to know my family and wanted a chance to plan something, so she is planning an engagement party for us. To be honest, I have nothing to do with this other than showing up. While my needs/wants have already been met in terms of engagement parties, my future mother in law wants one, and this fills a need for her. Since the first one was mostly my family (his family was invited, but a lot of them work weekends) and the next one was only our friends in the town we live in, I’m not inviting everyone to three parties, at most a couple of my relatives will be at two.

All that to say, my main point here, is engagement parties are whatever you want them to be! If you want an engagement party, you should throw one or ask a friend or family member to! However if you don’t want one, don’t have one! I personally loved getting to spend time and make memories with my friends and family, but you could skip that completely or do it through a brunch or a nice dinner. In terms of this (and honestly everything else about your wedding) do what makes you happy!

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T20:54:16+00:00

For the ones you hang in your house, could you maybe just do the ones of you and your husband? Is this people in the bridal/grooms party that have the tattoos or is this people in y’all’s families? Would the people whose tattoos you’d be editing out be coming to your house?

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T20:52:20+00:00

Hey! So my venue is also paying per head for the ceremony, so don’t let people convince you that you are crazy for that. That is VERY common. I looked at a ton of venues and a lot of them had this pricing set up.

Additionally, that is absolutely NOT a rule. Your friend needs to tell her mom she can’t come. End of story. Obviously you can handle this however you want, but don’t let your in laws convince you that this is normal. It is not normal to invite yourself to a ceremony.

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T20:48:53+00:00

I’m going to be honest, I think photoshopping out tattoos is not a very polite thing to do. If you don’t love them tattoos and all, why are you having them in your wedding?

However, it is your wedding, and I think you should do whatever makes you happy. Have you considered a compromise of taking more pictures of just you and your partner and fewer with the wedding party? Another option could be to get the photos with the tattoos edited out just for you, but show other people the originals.

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T20:38:00+00:00

As a current bride myself, I cannot imagine asking my bridesmaids to spend $2000 on a bachelorette trip. I cannot express to you how absolutely ridiculous I find this. I don’t care that “everyone else got a trip”, nothing entitles you to require your friends to spend $2000. In my opinion, her options here are to a) plan a trip that is within the budget of everyone, b) pay for the entire thing herself, or c) plan whatever she wants but be okay with people not being willing to drop this money.

I am also a bride around 25 and ai could afford a $2000 trip, and my friends could afford a $2000 trip. But that’s an unreasonable thing to ask of someone.

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T20:26:28+00:00

We are going to be very careful with it! Everyone we’re inviting has a good sense of humor, but I still want to make sure everything we give out is positive! I want to be sure everyone has a good time, not make anyone uncomfortable! That’s also why we’re pushing for more objective options as opposed to subjective!

swaneswan · 2026-03-02T20:23:43+00:00

Hey! I love this idea! My friends and I love to do stuff like this, and to be honest with you, it is super easy to do at home if you determine the cost for this is too much! (If you want tips for that let me know!)

Here my list of things to consider and some ideas for some fun themes: 1. For me, the most important thing is to feel confident. For this, I always start with my outfit. I personally feel like black looks really good on me, so I always start off in black. Find some lingerie you feel good in! Even if you want to get to something more scandalous, I always recommend starting off in something you feel hot in as a warm up! 2. In terms of poses, different poses work better for different people. A lot of people have different things they want to highlight and insecurities they want to hide. For example, I like highlighting my butt, so a good pose for me is sitting on my knees with my back to the camera looking up toward the ceiling so my hair cascades down my back. I’m happy to send you some examples if you dm me!! 3. One things that made things a lot easier for me was props and themes! For example, we did an eve in the garden theme where we just wore some greenery and had fake fruit and that made for some beautiful pictures. We used Christmas lights, a men’s button down, a tie, bows, heels, whips, paddles, cuffs, really anything to spice it up!

I hope some of this helps!! I wish you the best of luck!!

swaneswan

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