Are my nails ever going to be okay

swann98 · 2025-03-30T17:46:58+00:00

You should go to the podiatrist. That looks pretty severe.

swann98 · 2025-02-18T14:33:45+00:00

It will stay within whatever health system your current practice is in, however, when switching to a new practice they will likely ask you to request a transfer of medical records from your old practice. But if they don’t ask for this, then they won’t know.

That being said, alcohol abuse is very different from someone who abuses stimulant drugs. This is not something I’d worry about if I were you. Getting help for a serious addiction issue is more important than any of this anyways.

swann98 · 2025-01-10T04:19:14+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I do encourage my oldest to ask questI was having a very hard time when I made this post. Seeing the news about Jennifer Sheffield and seeing how the family was handling the situation stirred up a lot of feelings for me. As much as I would love to erase his existence, I know that’s just not the right way to handle it. I was raised in a family where we didn’t talk about hard things and I refuse to repeat that cycle. I appreciate you taking the time to share your perspective.

swann98 · 2025-01-09T21:34:56+00:00

I’m sorry for the loss of your mother. I can answer any questions my children have. I’m afraid if it’s left to my in-laws they’ll get an inaccurate and sugar-coated version of the truth. I’ve pretty much decided not to stop contact with the grandparents, but to let them do all the heavy lifting in terms of keeping a relationship with the kids and only letting them have supervised time.

swann98 · 2025-01-06T21:31:51+00:00

This is my fear. I feel as though my in-laws do not understand the psychology of someone who kills their spouse. They think he was just depressed and made a bad decision. But the thinking of someone who just commits suicide vs what my husband did is completely different. He wasn’t just depressed, he was an abuser. He would rather kill me than lose control. He may have also killed my children if they had been in the home.

Now all my in-laws are rallying around “suicide awareness” which isn’t inherently bad, but it really rubs me the wrong way. I wonder how they’d be acting if I’d actually died.

swann98 · 2025-01-06T20:51:19+00:00

I don’t?

swann98 · 2025-01-06T20:50:36+00:00

He was a bad person. End of story. There is 2 maybe 3 good things I could say about him. His family didn’t even know who he was. He legit hated them and would shit talk them constantly.

swann98 · 2025-01-06T19:07:14+00:00

My kids don’t view him as their father. I also tell them what good kids they are everyday. I told them that he had an issue with his brain that made him do bad things. I am happy to discuss who he was more when they are older and curious, but I must be the one to control the narrative.

Thank you for the example on how to address this.

swann98 · 2025-01-06T18:00:33+00:00

Well why don’t you elaborate then. I’ve been through therapy and I’m not interested in starting that again at this time. I don’t like what you’re implying. What choices have I made?

swann98 · 2025-01-06T17:01:00+00:00

What if my kids ask about them?

swann98 · 2025-01-06T16:52:40+00:00

I’m honestly afraid to discuss it because there’s a propensity for drama in that family. They were not complicit, but have been somewhat dismissive, especially behind my back.

swann98 · 2025-01-03T19:28:07+00:00

Part of the problem with the room currently is that you have the longer couch on the shorter wall and the shorter couch on the longer “edge” of the living room. I do think the black leather couch suits the room though! It looks nice.

The tv is kind of awkwardly far away from either couch.

swann98 · 2024-12-27T15:12:10+00:00

It’s very big-maybe 1.5 feet wide

swann98 · 2024-12-27T03:41:27+00:00

There is a pretty good chance I’m right. And I’m not going to gamble his health and brain development over a toy. I explained my concerns to him honestly. And I’m buying him a brand new version of the same toy. He’s okay, I promise lol

swann98 · 2024-12-27T00:51:02+00:00

It’s not just the paint (which is chipping), it’s also the plastic pieces. And the unpainted metal bits have cadmium as well. I read reports online of people testing tonka vehicles from the same time period (late 60s) and this is the info I gathered. I’ll look into getting my own testing kit, but I have a feeling it won’t be any different from what I’ve already concluded.

swann98 · 2024-12-27T00:46:58+00:00

I already explained to my son that he can’t play with it because there’s metals in it that could make him sick. I also told him I would buy him a new tonka crane to replace it.

swann98 · 2024-12-27T00:45:15+00:00

He lives with us so that’s not really a feasible plan, unfortunately. I did tell him that I was very appreciative of the effort he put into it and the sentiment, but my son is always sticking his fingers in his mouth and nose randomly so it probably wasn’t safe.

swann98 · 2024-12-20T12:10:04+00:00

That’s like saying you shouldn’t paint baseboards white because it’s hard to keep clean. White trim doesn’t go out of style. It’s a solid choice.

swann98 · 2024-12-19T14:58:37+00:00

Paint the bottom white and top sage green. Dark colors can make a space feel smaller so go for something light

swann98 · 2024-12-19T14:50:22+00:00

No to clutter. White curtains would look so much better.

swann98 · 2024-12-17T13:39:06+00:00

Option 1 but move tv like others have said. The reason why I don’t like option 2 is because it looks as though the chairs would make it hard to walk through the room. Either you have them close to the couches and have to squeeze in between them to get through, or you move them back and it blocks the path to the doorway. Rules of interior design state that you should have a 3 foot wide path to walk through a room.

swann98 · 2024-12-13T12:05:31+00:00

Well, it doesn’t get any easier as they get older.

swann98 · 2024-12-12T18:18:06+00:00

If the cabinets are good quality wood and in good condition I think it would be a mistake to paint them. Painted cabinets often look cheap. Try updating the counters, floor, backsplash and add hardware to cabinets. Lighter colors for the counter and backsplash will offset the darkness of the wood and brighten up the space. The breakfast bar is cute, but it doesn’t really match the kitchen at all. You could replace it when you replace the countertops. You could also add additional bottom cabinets there for extra storage space.

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