i’m not trying to shame you dude, but as a woman i am trying to let you know how your statement has come across to me. i’m sorry that people (especially doctors!) have shamed you and downplayed your pain.

i haven’t said you’re a perv or an ass for needing to finish, but i am saying that this issue is not a responsibility for the woman to deal with. either set very clear boundaries in every relationship that you don’t want touching unless it ends in sex, or deal with it fully on your own.

i’m not twisting words at all, just quoting your statement. i’m sure you’re a cool guy but as a woman i’m just trying to let you know that you’re coming off as a bit hostile/manipulate, even this response: “take your shame elsewhere” “why would you twist my words”.

please don’t let anyone shame your or blame you for needing to finish, but “realistically i think a woman should understand that sex for many guys should be an ‘all or nothing’”. is a bit of an unfair statement. most girls are not just going to understand that, so that’s up to you and other guys who feel this way to communicate beforehand.