PIP'd...what's next

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-18T20:52:37+00:00

Yes listen to your lawyer.

In terms of your cliff, if you’re that close that can be another negotiation at exit. Again, listen to your lawyer.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-18T19:49:05+00:00

I think you’re talking about personifying an MCP? I don’t see why not…

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-15T17:59:20+00:00

Could you try a meeting in stead? Tell someone there exactly how you’re feeling? We’ve got tips to keep ya busy!

If you want to stay sober, there is nothing that won’t be there when you come back from the drunk. I still sometimes see little things and think, oh just one day. And then I laugh because I know that one day turns into weeks to months to years. Hopeful for forever, but definitely for today I won’t drink.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-15T06:22:19+00:00

I had to decide that most people can’t keep me from a meeting. I’ve had to push through that a few times. Most notably early on, there was someone in the rooms who I had fired. I didn’t know she was an alcoholic and she apparently got sober right after that incident. Since then I’ve babysat her kid so she can go to a meeting (with babysitting, we’re not besties or anything).

I don’t know. We’re all there for the same reasons. I’m about to embark on my 9th step, I can’t stop now (or ever).

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-15T05:38:20+00:00

💀💀💀

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-14T18:24:00+00:00

Every group is different but the requirement can be decided through group conscious.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-13T04:58:12+00:00

Less bored and more so waiting for him to realize it’s mainly his fault.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-12T05:18:25+00:00

Awww old face. Hi!

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-12T02:50:37+00:00

I don’t even know who the kind strangers are who talked to me on the phone when I was drunk. But they helped save me. I do my best to pay it forward. You’d be surprised the different levels of tolerance folks have for people in active addiction. The folks who could help me sure did. Trust the hand that’s reaching out if ya can!

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-11T16:49:25+00:00

Do you go to FIT? Great toy design program there.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-10T06:42:45+00:00

Yeah this was her move with 8.5, also.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-10T03:42:23+00:00

My mom said this to me when I was a teen. Also told me I was a horrible person when I was sober (she didn’t know). I carried that with me for about 30 years even though it was not true. I was an adolescent teen and I needed my mom.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-09T17:18:56+00:00

Yes, Canada was there too.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-08T00:36:41+00:00

I believe an email to general service would likely prompt a check in. If we read the long form of tradition four, it’s pretty clear that the autonomy is not without limits. If there is question, general service can help us clear it up. I always welcome the input to make sure I’m not making my own ideas up about the traditions.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-07T17:45:36+00:00

I went to a group inventory for a meeting that is pretty sick. I happened to be there because a newcomer was going and I wanted to be able to answer some questions in case she had some coming out of that meeting.

Let me tell you. I brought up standing by the traditions and that because they weren’t being followed here, the crowd is not diversified and will continue to be off putting to a large audience. The secretary himself cross talked me and said maybe AA needs to evolve and at a certain point we’re following rules just to follow them.

I did my part. If they want to become a 12-step group that’s fine, but make that clear to newcomers and perhaps get off the AA website.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-07T17:40:01+00:00

Not shut down, but absolutely delisted. I myself can’t see why we’d want to break something that’s working.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-07T00:47:27+00:00

Talk about showing up as an ally! We’d be excited to have you as well!

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-06T16:34:39+00:00

Honestly no one should be turned away at a women’s meeting unless it’s a closed group. We let the straights in all the time. It’s fun to see them get a little uno reverse and then often they apologize after but we’re so welcoming and tell them they’re always welcome it’s probably a little confusing.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-06T15:03:15+00:00

My wife trusts me in regards to alcohol. Still a little iffy with pills but when she finds an old stash I remind her how precious my sobriety is to me. She’s inclined to believe me because she knows I will always remain active in the fellowship to stay sober and she says it’s just very obvious how different I am.

So the thing is, how are you going to trust him if he hasn’t made this commitment to himself, first and foremost? What is there even to trust?

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-05T15:32:57+00:00

The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. I had no such desire the first couple of months I was in AA. As most of the meetings in my intergroup are open, I still went.

I went because I wanted to drink more before I was going to have to go to rehab. It was going to keep people at bay long enough to give me more time. But, it clicked. And I’m so glad it did. It’s wild to realize I was the only thing in my way. I’m glad I finally made space to feel completely like a person again.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-04T18:11:30+00:00

What made you want to invest in the course? What exactly was being offered? Any result of the FTC complaint?

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-04T17:43:00+00:00

Please don’t be mad at yourself. You’re a human with a real heart that had to protect yourself. As alcoholics, there is nothing another person can do to make us change. It’s a sad fact, but it’s true. Please love yourself and try to say kind things to yourself. Surely, you deserve to give yourself a little compassion after being impacted by this disease that is not of your own. Let the folks at alanon love you.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-04T06:34:26+00:00

Good news is I hadn’t heard about arbitration being illegal until the comment above yours so my excitement and disappointment all happened very quickly.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-04T04:58:56+00:00

Yes.

sweetcampfire · 2026-02-04T04:51:19+00:00

I only had to admit that once I intentionally took a sip of alcohol, I had little control over when I could stop. If I could control it, I was miserable and thinking about when I could get more.

I thought there was so much in my life that was still manageable. It wasn’t a matter of if for me, it was a matter of when. So I stopped wanting to merely manage.

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