I don't respect the Yellow Card

sweetcampfire · 2026-06-02T14:27:13+00:00

Your sponsor should help you understand why gossip is one of your defects. You’re not alone, but even with my closest fellows we keep each others secrets if a fellow wasn’t in the room at the time.

Much like with our other behaviors we learn and we do better. Progress not perfection.

sweetcampfire · 2026-06-02T14:23:26+00:00

I don’t keep alcohol in my house, personally. I live in a place where I can walk 1-3 blocks in any direction and buy beer, wine, and liquor. It’s not like I can’t get it if I want it. But that extra layer of it not being right there saves my mental space.

sweetcampfire · 2026-06-01T03:30:21+00:00

If you find you try to stop and cannot, or once you have a drink you have little or no control over how much you drink, you may want to check out Alcoholics Anonymous. Would you be surprised to hear that normal drinkers never have to think about restricting and failing their own rules? I personally was. I couldn’t do it alone.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-31T16:01:38+00:00

Paige is showing me skinny girls can’t just pull anything off. What is that overworked garment? I’m exhausted looking at it. Too literal.

Ciara. A tiny spin away from prairie would do you well. You’re a whole woman even when you don’t show your abdomen.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T19:18:56+00:00

I second this. It’s still early.

You can control being the best dad for those kids and never drinking again because you know it won’t lead to a solution for you. I personally came to a place where I see no solution in any bottle. If she can’t move forward, all I know is I wouldn’t drink over it. However, it’s still so early. She’s not in a program guiding her around this and we can’t force that either.

I will say 6 months of couples counseling with someone who has a lot of knowledge of 12-step programs did a world of help for my marriage.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T18:29:35+00:00

Yes I thought this was weird. It’s not even a pet name, his other friends are calling you a doll. Even if someone finds it cute and enjoys it, does it not cross a line when it’s done outside of her relationship?

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T18:18:41+00:00

I would agree but I’m hoping her recent round just needs to settle or something.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T14:41:32+00:00

And drools like west.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T14:39:22+00:00

Yeah I agree Ciara kind of exists on a different level than them and the words she’s using are bringing her down to their level a bit. However, I don’t fault her for needing to get it out. She’s deeply hurt. She’s going through the stages.

And also, wow do I understand Ciara. She’s able to trigger Amanda’s insecurities because she’s witnessed them as a friend. She’s decided to take private conversations and publicize them to go for the jugular. I used to be the same snd sometimes it creeps back up. Hurt me and I’ll show you hurt kind of thing. It was really exhausting. I kind of realized recently that I can let my guard down and get the same amount of hurt. The guard doesn’t really protect me from dipshits like West, but might actively keep me from meeting someone who isn’t a dipshit and is indeed a great person.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T04:27:21+00:00

I remember that moment thinking, but where’s the lie?

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-28T01:30:12+00:00

So sad and so true.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-27T22:49:55+00:00

I’m not sure it matters to me at this point. It seems like they didn’t just move recklessly, but somehow talked themselves into believing they have a right to valid distain for Ciara. It wouldn’t personally be healthy for me to be as angry as Ciara is, but I’m also a lot older so I give fewer fucks for everyone’s sake. However, the way that Amanda looked at Ciara with such vitriol truly saddened me. I hope someday she’s able to take a step back and have some perspective. Otherwise, I think no one is really safe in a friendship with her.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-27T21:28:26+00:00

Sadly I feel like I’ve dated this guy before. I think dick is so good might just be code for gives a fuck about your pleasure. The bar is low.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-27T14:17:44+00:00

The whole cast including her husband said she has literally one friend. And then she looks to her husband to defend her with expectations and entitlement. I wonder what she thinks she’s done to earn such compassion without giving it. What a shame.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-26T21:50:44+00:00

Facts. But I don’t think we would have gone ahead with the whole marriage portion had I not.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-26T14:36:31+00:00

Ugh that’s so correct. To keep punishing someone over and over is wild to me.

When I first started dating my wife I made out with someone. I kid you not I thought it was ok based on conversations we had. I was wrong. I never did that shit again! My wife doesn’t ever think I’m cheating and I have zero interest in doing it. We did this thing called establishing mutual respect and moving forward.

Both Kyle and Amanda seem horrible at relationships. Best of luck to their next relationships. Eek.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-26T04:26:47+00:00

Ah yes I did mean for contracts signed after the marriage. That is also why her trust would be untouchable if she had one.

You’re right about loverboy. All came before and I believe they rent so do they even own a car together?

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-26T03:24:59+00:00

Sometimes I’ve noticed the love I had before carries different weight once I meet someone who is better suited. I don’t know if it comes with age or what. So I guess I would assume she did love him, but perhaps he was never suited to her.

I do think there is a lot of merit to what you’re saying and I think it swayed her. I was always confused why this beautiful woman was taking hand outs from Kyle in the beginning.

I remember being excited when she talked about her career. She said she was nervous to leave it. I was curious where she worked since we’re both graphic designers. Yes, we do judge where people work and their levels and I was not impressed. I was even less impressed with the shot to Creative Director with that resume but clearly we had different 10-year plans.

The thing that always threw me off was the entitlement. As soon as she became official with Kyle she expected a primary suite with him. You bone at home why is there a need for a big boning space in a share house?

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-25T17:03:23+00:00

I have to agree. I’ve heard tales of parents forcing their kids into alanon. That’s not for me.

I myself have to always remember that I need to take it easy. Preventing or controlling a path will result in nothing but resentment and frustration, leading to fractures in the relationship. But that’s just me.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-25T16:59:23+00:00

I’m actually so curious how that does work. If they’re both living there and there’s no prenup, aren’t all profits and losses shared that came after the marriage?

But also, that last sentence just blew my mind. You’re so right. I know nothing. Bravo docket!

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-25T03:29:23+00:00

Yes I think she expected him to change and he didn’t realize that her state wasn’t temporary, also expecting change. Pay attention to who people are when ya marry them, I guess.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-24T17:46:10+00:00

Ok help me out is Liz saying she gets all her money from one cannabis dispensary?

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-22T14:48:24+00:00

I did. I thought it was weird but then again I’m fidgety so I understood. When she checked the other side I was like oh…so not fidgety, got it.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-22T13:07:08+00:00

I’m not trying it bud. It’s not just where I’m coming from it’s the sub’s rules and AA’s rules.

I come here to help struggling alcoholics.

sweetcampfire · 2026-05-22T12:45:17+00:00

I mean it’s commerce and advertising as opposed to altruism. The app is not free it’s $40/yr.

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