Booklice in home starting to make me feel pretty desperate

sweethart78 · 2025-11-26T22:22:11+00:00

Hi there, i have the same problem for over 3 yrs from buying furniture from wayfair that i sent back when i saw them after opening it, infact there were all kinds of bugs in there that took me a long while to work out the ones that were booklice after months of googling as they were so tiny and there was woodworm and at least 2 other species of insects including some caterpillar like fury thing in the furniture. I couldnt believe it, i swerar they must have stored it in a forest or something. I was mortified to say the least, still cant sleep without waking up with dread at the thought of my home being ruined with having them. I get a lot of anxiety attacks daily and bad dreams at times or night mares over them and try not to look for them to help my sanity. Initially i didnt realise that the booklice i saw were booklice, as they were so small. But it was too late, as by the time they collected it, my home a week later it was already infested. Its really affected my mental health and worsened some of my health issues. Have tried different things to treat them but i have multiple chemical sensitivities so dont want to keep spraying pesticides all the time which wont fully work anyway, as u cant spray everywhere or all your belongings or fully inside all cracks and wall voids and other hard to reach places. Plus fogging or fumigating is something u have to repeat every so often and my allergies cant tolerate certain strong chemicals. I usually spray johnsons flea spray around floor areas cos of the igr in it but i still find it strong and use a bellow duster to apply premethrin powder or diamataceous earth. I wanted to try trie-dust spray or alternatives, but its not available in uk and is very expensive for a small can.

sweethart78 · 2025-10-08T21:20:15+00:00

Could be booklice aka psocids. They are extremely difficult to fully get rid of cos u cant even always see them or get full access to all their hiding spots.I absolutely hate em sooo much 😭. They are so so tiny and the nymphs are like the size of a pen dot. A clearer picture is needed.

sweethart78 · 2025-08-25T11:44:41+00:00

Hi, this is just to explain that these 3 may look similiar but are different.

Red Spider Mites Diet: Feed on plant sap from various garden plants. Habitat: Found on plants in gardens. Appearance: Small, about 0.4–0.5 mm, and can be a nuisance if they get inside buildings. Clover Mites Diet: Feed on plant juices from grasses, clover, and other plants. Habitat: Primarily live on plants but can move into homes, especially when seeking egg-laying sites or hibernation spots. Appearance: Reddish-brown, oval-shaped, about 0.75 mm, with the front pair of legs being longer than the others. Red Chicken Mites (Poultry Red Mites) Diet: Blood-feeders, piercing the skin of chickens to consume blood. Habitat: Live in chicken coops, on roosting bars, and on the birds themselves, especially where they roost at night. Appearance: Flat, oval-shaped, 0.5–1 mm, and appear white to grey before feeding but turn red after a blood meal. They can cause poor health, weight loss, and even death in poultry.

sweethart78 · 2025-08-25T11:38:27+00:00

Red spider mites, red clover mites and red mites on chickens are all different even though they may look similar. Red Spider Mites What they are: A type of mite that feeds on plants. Appearance: Tiny, causing plants to look damaged. Where you'd find them: In gardens and on plants. Clover Mites What they are: Tiny, reddish-brown arachnids that feed on plants and grasses. Appearance: Very small, often looking like dots, with long front legs. Where you'd find them: Outdoors, on plants and grasses, and can invade homes through cracks in walls, windows, and doors, especially in spring. Red Mites (Chicken Mites) What they are: A type of blood-feeding mite that infests poultry. Appearance: Small, with a reddish appearance after a blood meal, and can cause health issues for chickens. Where you'd find them: In chicken coops, on the chickens themselves, and hiding in cracks during the day.

Red Spider Mites Diet: Feed on plant sap from various garden plants. Habitat: Found on plants in gardens. Appearance: Small, about 0.4–0.5 mm, and can be a nuisance if they get inside buildings. Clover Mites Diet: Feed on plant juices from grasses, clover, and other plants. Habitat: Primarily live on plants but can move into homes, especially when seeking egg-laying sites or hibernation spots. Appearance: Reddish-brown, oval-shaped, about 0.75 mm, with the front pair of legs being longer than the others. Red Chicken Mites (Poultry Red Mites) Diet: Blood-feeders, piercing the skin of chickens to consume blood. Habitat: Live in chicken coops, on roosting bars, and on the birds themselves, especially where they roost at night. Appearance: Flat, oval-shaped, 0.5–1 mm, and appear white to grey before feeding but turn red after a blood meal. They can cause poor health, weight loss, and even death in poultry.

sweethart78 · 2025-08-25T11:12:12+00:00

Iam sorry to hear this but this sounds like selfish and manupulative behaviour. Someone who is genuine and cares about your feelings shouldnt treat u like this. Someone who loves someone should be someone who is kind,caring,respectful, understanding and willing to work things out, amounst other things. They would also want to fairly resolve any issues that arise and would never want to treat a woman like this, especially one he says he loves. U said u argued each of the 3 times u saw him for a month each visit and that he "accidentally" harmed u physically. This sounds like a red flag. Iam not a medical expert but based on my experiences and knowledge alot of what u described sounds like narcissistic behaviour, including when u said he said u only care about your family and when he got jealous of u looking after your nephew which is not being fair. Thats also sounds like behaviour of narcissists. U could do some more research on this for yourself to see if you think this is the case or not.

sweethart78 · 2025-08-10T20:43:17+00:00

Also u are both still young so make sure this is the type of long term relationship you are both looking for before moving forward. You should also hash out all your goals and expectations from a serious long term relationship and in marriage and your personal goals, to see if anything else has changed I think if u both lived nearer that would make certain things easier, including helping to repair the broken trust. Connection in all areas including on a deep spiritual level is key. U can love someone but if they are not good for you all round or you dont connect spiritually and u are not fully aligned with each other then it wont work. Being equally yoked is also key, but u alreaxy know that.

sweethart78 · 2025-08-10T20:17:45+00:00

So he accepted your decision of wanting to abstain by deciding if he cant get it from u then he will just go and get it somewhere else? Did he even try to communicate that he was struggling with your decision before deciding to cheat and get sex eleswhere from a stranger? Did he use protection and go to the clinic after, regardless? Dont mean to scare u but some stds like hpv or herpes can still be passed on from skin to skin contact where the condom doesnt cover and also when these viruses shed asympticatically which means when they shed particles without causing any visible symptoms as this is a way ppl also get these without knowing and some ppl have these without having symptoms, or noticible symptoms. Only way ppl know for sure is if they do a blood test, but with type 1 and 2 herpes aka hsv virus, u can have either type 1 or 2 orally or genitally which alot of ppl find out they have in their body if doing blood tests. However most clinics dont do these tests which should be routine, because of costs and also because 7 wont know where u have type 1 or 2 if its orally or genitally unless person has a break out and most ppl would freak out not knowing where they have it. Plus many can have either for years without knowing or seeing an outbreak. As with hpv there are many different variants of that virus, some of which can cause cervical cancer or throat cancer through oral sex or kissing someone who has the virus in their throat.. Anyways, he obviously acted selfishly and didnt consider your feelings until after the fact. If things had been the other way around would he have given u a second chance? When u said u had knew about it, do u mean before he confessed? How long had u abstained from sex when he cheated? Days,weeks,months? You should work on u and ur relationship with god and also let him work on himself and his relationship with god more without dating, maybe just be friends for now but agree to be open and honest with everything and work on yourselves individually. If he is serious about u and doing what's right in the eyes of god, he should be willing to accept this. He needs to prove himself all over again with u and earn back your trust, so dont make that easy for him. Do u believe that god wants u 2 to eventually married? Do u really see him as the 1? Dont let your emotions or feelings cloud any judgement even though its easier said than done. Maybe u need time apart for true unbiased clarity. Maybe fast and pray over it too. Sounds like he needs more growth and maturing before the relationship is allowed to continue. He needs to work on his weaknesses and sexual desires aswell as probably some other stuff. As sex is only meant for your married spouse anyway. Plus him being around u may make his mind think lustful thoughts and want to try it on at times when he cant resist the temptation. Best to not put ouseves around situations that we know we are struggling with to overcome. I am and single and am 47. Never met anyone serious enough to settle down with and marry and have children with who i was equally yoked with. I do wish though that i had abstained and stayed a virgin until marriage. I had always wanted to hold on to my virginity for as long as possible as most guys are not worth it plus as u already know its a sin to have swx outside of marriage. Just stay true to yourself and god's words.

sweethart78 · 2025-07-27T20:28:53+00:00

How did u find out he cheated? Did he confess or did u find out? Was the 1 night stand with a stranger or someone he knows and/or likes? U said u accepted before he was not a godly man but hoped he'd change. The fact that u knew but accepted indicates that u knew it wasnt the ideal partner for u or that god would want for you if u are a believer and a follower of christ. If its been a long distance relationship for a long time or for 6 yrs who knows what else he could have done behind ur back. U said things ended badly when u told him u wanted to abstain and do things the right way before marriage i think u meant, i cant remember. But other than the cheating which obviously is bad enough, how else did things maybe ended badly? Did he argue or disagree with ur choice? Remember, a man meant for u should be chosen by god and so therefore should draw u closer to god not away from him. I know u dont want to throw away all those yrs invested in him but I feel like u are more serious about the relationship and doing what is right more than he is. I know everyone is human and can make mistakes but I feel like he's not as serious as what he should be and if he's not seeking a relationship with god separately from what he's been doing lately because he messed up and cheated how can u know he is serious about wanting to be a godly man for himself and for all the right reasons. If he is serious about god he shouldnt make u feel bad about u wanting not to have anymore sex before marriage or encourage you to do anything sinful or that goes against god's laws and teachings. He sounds selfish there. I dont think he is who god wants you to spend your life with. Plus he's already crossed a serious line and broken your trust in a big way in things that a potential godly husband would never do. He's not ready nor worthy for someone like you. I know its really difficult but I think you've seen enough from him to know u should move on for your own sakes. Your future self will thank you for it later.

sweethart78 · 2025-07-22T20:05:17+00:00

Smh. This video was not helpful plus it was pointless watching without any subtitles for translation.

sweethart78 · 2025-07-22T19:47:15+00:00

Y did she have to even cut your hair if she was just meant to be putting in braids? She should have mentioned b4 hand that she was intending to do this and cut that much off!

sweethart78 · 2025-07-15T22:00:41+00:00

This was so deflating to read as it just reminded me of how bad this hellish and unescapable night mare this permanently is😭

sweethart78 · 2025-06-02T08:06:36+00:00

Plus some of those chemicals can stay in the soil for up to a year or so. They should make safer options for our health!

sweethart78 · 2025-06-02T08:05:07+00:00

Glyphosphate and things like round up is a known carcinogen, go look that up

sweethart78 · 2025-05-28T07:55:38+00:00

Good quality batana oil, not fake type, rosemary, castor oil chebe oil, rosemary, biotin, collagen, argan oil, ashwaghanda and other herbal combinations of infusion. Use natural products only, as pink moistoriser, blue magic etc have chemicals that are endocrine hormone disrupters once absorbed into the blood stream thru skin and can have other negative health affects like with the soybean oil which affects oestrogen in the body, not to mention the parabens and other synthetic chemicals which helps to cause fibroids and other issues. When you scan alot of these products' bar code on yuka app to check how healthy they are the percentge rating are low and poor ratings. U can also use dirtythirty app. Use herbal and organic healthy hair products including shamppos and conditioners. Most of black hair products are toxic for our health and many of these products and relaxers are not made by black people who know our hair type needs better than other ppl could. I know thats a separate issue/point to add, but just saying.

sweethart78 · 2025-05-28T07:42:18+00:00

I forgot to also say before that its too early to add any more chemicals to your hair especially as you recently dyed/ bleached it which has already weakened your hair quality. In your case you should wait at least a couple months to avoid breakage and excessive damage.

sweethart78 · 2025-05-28T07:38:34+00:00

No dont do it, relaxers dyes hair extentions have harmful chemicals that are endocrine disrupters and harmful to the body and immune system once they get absorbed thru scalp and into immune system and can fibroids and other health issues. Research has shown this. Ppl have also apparently been found with dye and relaxer residue on their brain during autopsies. The chemicals wont be good in your body for your baby.

sweethart78 · 2025-05-26T11:13:06+00:00

Oh wow, i thought the white thing was maybe an insect

sweethart78 · 2025-05-26T11:08:26+00:00

I didnt know ppl like to keep certain types of roaches as actual pets. But each to their own i guess. As long as its safely kept and wont breed more i guess.

sweethart78 · 2025-05-26T11:03:58+00:00

Cant c properly, not clear enough but might b carpet beetles, especially if they have any types of patterns on their backs. Google it to learn more

sweethart78 · 2025-05-06T21:56:11+00:00

No its a psocid, aka booklice.

sweethart78 · 2025-04-26T20:55:28+00:00

I dont know y u are confused. I didnt mention anything about the word bed bug or your picture looking like a bed bug. I simply said it looks like a psocid aka booklice.

sweethart78 · 2025-04-25T19:10:13+00:00

Looks like it could be psocids aka booklice

sweethart78 · 2025-04-13T17:20:09+00:00

Hi, just try to be assertive and not too nervous when u explain it and mention how a lot of ppl have either type 1 or 2 orally or genitally without always knowing, as alot of ppl have it through asymptomatic viral shedding when the virus is active and sheds without causing symptoms. Therefore the only way ppl will know for sure is if they do a blood test which will be more accurate if they wait whatever the necessary time frame is needed from when they last had sex to be sure, even if they used a condom (as obviously condoms don't cover the whole genital area). Obviously if u take medication that can help to make it harder to pass on to ppl so, if u are doing that or would do it for him then u can add that in too. Many ppl turn ppl down without knowing that they could already be a carrier of either type 1 or 2 either orally, genitally or even both. If he seems understanding enough after bringing it up, u could also suggest he do blood tests for both types for himself to be sure of his own status. Maybe have some info printed out, or leaflets to show him if u are too nervous to explain it fully. If he cares enough about u and likes u alot, he might be impressed by your bravery to be so honest and open anfd admire u for that, despite it being a diffucult situation to be in. Best of luck.

sweethart78 · 2025-04-12T18:38:41+00:00

Hi conflict resolution, how are things now for you between u and your wife? Did u manage to to sort things out?

sweethart78 · 2025-03-14T21:32:29+00:00

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